I've always been a shy person, only had a few friends at school and never really socialised much. I'm now 21 and I still get nervous around people and suffer panic attacks in social settings. I went to a doctor and mentioned how it was affecting my social, work and study commitments and his solution was anti-depressants. I made it quite clear I wasn't depressed but he insisted anxiety and depression go hand in hand and said Endep was the solution.
This is a fairly standard procedure which most doctors follow when dealing with anxiety disorders. Anti-depressants and particularly the SSRI class, are considered "front-line treatment" for anxiety disorders. That means doctors will normally try those on a patient first if there is no prior treatment history.
Even if you have no depression, many of these anti-depressants have shown to be clinically effective for treating phobias and anxiety disorders, and they have the least dependency/tolerance profile compared to other treatment options.
Sometimes a patient may have depression and not realise it, which can be a causal factor in anxiety conditions. Or sometimes treating a patient with an anti-depressant has a beneficial effect on brain chemistry that helps alleviate anxiety.
I have no interest in taking anti-depressants so I'm wondering what other options are there? I asked if it was worth seeing a psychologist and he said not to bother, the anti-depressants will fix the problem.
My doctor was exactly the same when I saw him 10 years ago with pretty much the same problem as yourself.
I think unless you have an open minded/trusting doctor who is willing to be flexible and not go strictly "by the book", you will have to take the anti-depressants and go through the various treatment options before they will consider referring you to a psychologist or giving you access to other drugs like benzos.
I tried some of my friends Xanax after researching it online and it has worked wonders, I am a lot more social on it and have suffered no form of panic attacks on it, I've even become a lot more motivated to study and work.
If I try other doctors do you think they will prescribe Xanax or something similar? Or will the keep pushing me for anti-depressants. Personally, I thought this doctor was an old, narrow-minded douchebag or am I wrong?
I don't know what country you're in, but here in the UK I'd say absolutely no way would they would consider it. Benzo's are strictly a no-go option for treating anxiety because of the high risk of dependency and serious withdrawal problems which can be life threatening. They are considered "dirty drugs" by most doctors and no longer used, except in very short-term treatments or extreme cases where a patient has a long history of mental illness and has tried all other options.
When I wanted to go on Valium many years ago, I asked my doctor and he flatly refused, even though we had explored every other drug treatment without any success. Eventually after I said I felt suicidal he agreed to let me have the Valium, only on the condition I signed a disclaimer taking full responsibility and saying that I was going against his professional advice.
I didn't find the Valium took away my shyness or made me less anxious, but it did help me to cope with the physical symptoms and enabled me to get out the house past the fear.
I'm glad Xanax has worked for you, but I'd be worried you would become dependent on it and experience tolerance if you used it daily. You're only young and it seems tragic you should be needing a benzo to function. Perhaps you can use it sparingly and seek a referral to a psychologist to try and improve your social skills and confidence.
My doctor told me once people get onto benzos they often never come off them. He showed me a pile of patient files on benzos some of which he said he been on Valium for over 30 years. In addition to the problem of tolerance and dependency/withdrawal, benzos often have an effect of making you numb emotionally and even dulling the intellect in some cases. I'm not sure if that is the case with Xanax, but it certainly is with Valium if you continue taking it for a long period.