Anger, Resentment and Hate!

[JCH74]

Woke up today and called my girlfriend to see what she was doing. She told me she was getting ready and would be talking her daughter to practice, had a meeting later in the morning and would not take our daughter to school this morning because she was taking half the day off work. I asked if there was anything she needed. She asked if I would go to her place because our daughter was still asleep. I told her I would wash up and go right over. I was about to walk out the door 20 minutes after we hung up when my phone rang. My girlfriend was upset and asked why I wasn't there and said she was going to be late taking her daughter to practice; she hung up on me. I called back and she said (whispering) I'll call you back. I waited for about 10 minutes and called her back (I should have just waited). When she answered the phone she said, "You don't give up do you". I explained that I was calling because I did not know if she still wanted me to go over or not. Needless to say she blew up and called me all sorts of names, yelling at me and making very negative comments about me. I told her that I was trying to help her and it was not necessary for her to displace her anger on me. I explained (or at least tried to explain) that if she was late then she should wake up earlier and not blame me. That only made things worse. There is a lot of anger, resentment and hate due to previous issues we have had in the past. That being said; I am still very upset and hurt that she would break up with me and call me all sorts of names. I have not called or text her today. My question is, how can I help her get past the anger, resentment and hate? My girlfriend claims to be a religious person (with lots of faith), goes to church every Sunday and always talks about how much faith she has. Why does someone who claims to be so religious have such a hard time apologizing? Is it pride? or anger, resentment and hate?

 

[pofacedhoe]

is it your child or hers? i'm confused as you've labelled it both in the question. edit- are there two daughters one of whom is yours?

people can be angry for lots of reasons, maybe she thought you would get there quicker BUT if she created the late situation its really ungrateful to bite the hand thats trying to help.


i'm my experience levels of anger can be a personality trait, at the very least its a recurring problem

 

[JCH74]

We have a child together. She also has 2 children from a previous relationship and I have 1 child from a previous relationship. She did think I would be there sooner. We live literally 5 minute drive from each other. I washed up, used the men's room and got dressed as soon as I could. Problem was that she was running late already (her daughter needs to be at practice by 8:30). That being said, she didn't call me to ask me, I just happened to call her to see what her day looked like. If she needed my help she could have called me earlier and asked me to go over ASAP or by a certain time. I am always punctual and she knows that. That's why I don't understand why she lashed out at me that way! Thank you.

 

[Shadowsblaze]

A lot of people of faith today unfortunately lack the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of the bibles teachings. If you approach the situation in a spiritual manner you may be able to turn to the scriptures with her and work things out. It can't hurt to try, then again it might. You never know.

 

[pofacedhoe]

hmm sometimes when people are angry about something that is their own fault they find someone that they can get pissed off at that they are emotionally close to who will take it...