Anger/Envy & Bitterness being Single

[B1tO'RoughJack]

Thank you badandwicked. Unless you've lived in LA/New York it's harder to understand. In these areas you have the people projecting an image of wealth that have wealth. And then you have the people who project an image of wealth that don't have it but still live beyond their means to fit in. It's the hood rich thing. And to say that this phenomenon doesn't carry into the dating world just isn't correct. I have 1 year left at University and then I am leaving California and moving somewhere with normal people and normal real estate prices. I think this materialistic money-intensive way of thinking occurs more with guys because I don't know about any of you, but I feel like if I'm not a "bread-winner" I'm less of a man. If I can't take care of a women (would she get pregnant and need to stop working) and keep food on the table and bills paid what use am I as a man? I never use to worry about money but when I turned 25 all of a sudden it became a big effin deal.

No no most of us understood where you are coming from. All we are saying is that is all excuses. Do what you are meant to do in the universe, and you will attract + and - energy.

You say you're not self confident, that your self esteem is non-existent/very low - innately probably - at this current juncture; ergo you are not happy with yourself, and where you are in life.

This is all I meant, I was not trying to be an ass, I was speaking in plain no bullshit terms. I guess you took offence though, coz my advice was golden. Right now you are attracting -ve energy. Change your energy, and you attract people you want, and just have to remember to bat off people you intuit as being bad for you.

 

[Johnny1]

A few advices for you:

1. Grow a goatee if you can. That will take care of your baby face. Keep it trimmed pretty close to your face, for an edgy look as opposed to a mountain man look. Also, make sure you aren't doing something stupid in the way you are dressing yourself, such as having a tucked in shirt with a belt when a loose shirt with no belt would make you look much more relaxed (not passing judgment on one look or the other, just that you should dress in whatever way works for you).

2. Go for girls who are not as hot as the ones who drive around in the passenger seats of Bimmers and Range Rovers. An L.A. 7 might be a 9 in another city. There are beautiful women everywhere here, and this makes for lots of pretty girls who think they aren't because they're constantly comparing.

3. You're going to have to act like you're getting laid by at least a couple girls right now, even though you aren't. Fake it till you make it. Don't tell phoney stories or act like an asshole, but pretend inside that you're already getting laid and that you might choose to be with this new girl if she's better than what you have now. Be warm, friendly, and interested, but not desperate or a puppy dog. Also pretend the money thing doesn't matter to you, as if money simply does not exist, as if you'd act the same way whether or not you had a million in the bank or no bank account at all. As others have said, get interested or involved in something that you can become passionate about, so you have some kind of direction in your life. But for now, just pretend you are.

 

[Serotonin101]

true happiness is an inside job. you gotta be comfortable with yourself and put yourself out there. mingle with some girls, casually ask them to go on a date, and go from there. its worked generally well for me. I'm broke and mooching off my dad. I still go on dates.