Nope, I am afraid you are wholly incorrect sir. There is no one size fits all solution to recovery, we do not all have the same voice inside our head, we are not all bound for failure if we smoke two pulls on a joint, we do not all need 100% abstinence to recover from a damaging addiction and IT DOES NOT MATTER IF SOMEONE WANTS TO THINK OF THEMSELVES AS CLEAN DESPITE SOMETIMES CONSUMING A MIND ALTERING CHEMICAL WHETHER IT BE A CUP OF TEA OR A SPEEDBALL.
It's attitudes such as yours that closes off recovery to many people and makes them feel shit when they should be feeling positive and distracts from the real imperatives in recovery. It is not for you to decide whether someone is allowed to think of themselves as clean and give it the billy big bollocks 'I know your own mind better than you and am going to pigeonhole you'. Why not instead ask what changes they are making in their life to move away from the patterns of thought and behaviour that caused them to have a damaging relationship with drugs, help them examine whether their current usage is within their pattern of abuse and denial is preventing them from seeing it, whether it might be possible that new behaviours have moved them away from a pattern of abuse, examine what the dangers associated with their current using is however light it may be, ask what they feel is working for them in helping them move on to a new chapter in their life and how to replicate it in different areas, is someone's current life situation reflecting the theory that they are progressing in their recovery or does it in fact imply no progress is being made....
Recovery is not so black and white as clean or using and the attitude that it is fucks lots of people up and stops them from moving forward with their life. Why can't we instead actually have an honest and caring attitude towards people with drug problems and support them in finding a solution rather than trying to shut them down when they find something that is working for them just because it doesn't fit our outdated binary view of a successful recovery. Why can't we support people who are not 100% abstinent and include them in the recovery community as individuals just as deserving of respect and care as the people who do choose abstinence are? Why can't we be more proactive in calling out those people who are 'clean' but still a total fucking mess in reality and support them in realising that it's no use being abstinent if they don't change their life for the better, and then help them do so?
Rant over.