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Am i loved?

B1tO'RoughJack said:
Oh wow.

Tell us a little more.

There is certainly a difference between romantic love, and love. Are you feeling loved? Probably not, if you ask.
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I understand that theres a difference between the two sorts of love,iv had a shit past,never felt ANY sort of love?but i feel as though maybe i may be loved a little?im sure i love him as the way he makes me feel is amazing.I feel safe,cared for,thought about all the time,hes not had an easy life though also so im thinking that maybe hes got feelings for me too as im sure he has even just a little.I thought that maybe he could feel a bit scared as i know that im terrified of the way im feeling but i love it still!weve been seeing each other for a year now and im absoloutly craving for him to say one day I LOVE YOU...(romantically and friendship wise)
 
I am sure he loves you very much, but is too shy to say it for fear you will think he is crazy or will reject his notion of loving you.

Maybe tell him that you are in love with him, and just say that you wanted him to know.

A lot of men have been taught to repress their emotions, because it is deemed not masculine, so a lot of guys feel insecure about telling someone such a strong emotion.
 
dkmonk said:
I am sure he loves you very much, but is too shy to say it for fear you will think he is crazy or will reject his notion of loving you.

Maybe tell him that you are in love with him, and just say that you wanted him to know.

A lot of men have been taught to repress their emotions, because it is deemed not masculine, so a lot of guys feel insecure about telling someone such a strong emotion.
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Thankyou very much for your reply i have sort of told him that i love him but i dont think i timed it so well!i just said i love you and instantly i knew it wasnt a good time i feel dead silly now as i dont know how he might feel about me?im really worried that iv scared him off now,id like to think that i know there is something between us in that loving sort of way,i just wish he knew that i meant it when i said it to him,he is such a lovely guy i feel so lucky.
 
It is impossible to determine the exact time when to say I LOVE YOU, so you told it when you felt it should be said, sure it was the right time.
 
He might also feel that he loves you, but is hesitant to make sure what he already knows in his heart. Some people need a lot of reaffirmation, before they speak such strong words.

If you let him know you love him, then I would let it be, because you were heard. Don't make him feel pressured to say it, because that will scare him. He knows how you feel and you can keep on solidifying that thought by being really loving to him. It is the small things that count the most like taking notice of his interests and without being told to present him with a surprise like a favorite band poster, and just say I saw this and thought of you so I got you it. He will feel like you really care about his likes and dislikes.
 
dkmonk said:
He might also feel that he loves you, but is hesitant to make sure what he already knows in his heart. Some people need a lot of reaffirmation, before they speak such strong words.

If you let him know you love him, then I would let it be, because you were heard. Don't make him feel pressured to say it, because that will scare him. He knows how you feel and you can keep on solidifying that thought by being really loving to him. It is the small things that count the most like taking notice of his interests and without being told to present him with a surprise like a favorite band poster, and just say I saw this and thought of you so I got you it. He will feel like you really care about his likes and dislikes.
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Thanks for myour reply to my last post,i think i will take your advice as you could be right it makes perfect sense what you have said.I wont put any pressure on him i just hope that iv not spoiled anything for us by saying that to him,i really hope iv not scared him away from me!god love does hurt (but in a nice way though)x
 
dkmonk said:
I am sure he loves you very much, but is too shy to say it for fear you will think he is crazy or will reject his notion of loving you.

Maybe tell him that you are in love with him, and just say that you wanted him to know.
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Totally agree - if it's been that long and you feel that way, then tell him you love him. I'm sure he has thought about saying it too...

If he's had a hard life thus far, then yeah, maybe this is why he ain't said it - so if you feel it, which it sounds like you do - SAY IT! Big love
 
Thanks for you reply im really worried i might ruin things if i tell him i love him,i think he holds something there for me but i thought that maybe hes scared like me?who knows,so my plan for now is to see how things go for a little while im to scared that he may feel pressured or be scared off me,i really dont want to rock the boat any more than i probably already did when i said it first time round(DOH)He makes me feel so happy like never before,i know i love him dearly.x
B1tO'RoughJack said:
Totally agree - if it's been that long and you feel that way, then tell him you love him. I'm sure he has thought about saying it too...

If he's had a hard life thus far, then yeah, maybe this is why he ain't said it - so if you feel it, which it sounds like you do - SAY IT! Big love
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Treat him how you feel and he will know how much you love him.

Love is best left to be expressed through actions, instead of directly being said (although it is nice to hear it)

I had an ex who said she loved me all the time, but her actions made me feel not loved, and it didn't matter what she said.
 
^fair point...but that's why she your ex, and THEY been together a year! And neither of them has plucked up enough courage to say it - Pammy I think you should say it, and continue to show it, coz it sounds like he's loving you right, but just might be a bit scurrred to actually vocalize his true feelings...typical man with baggage kinda shit, IME - it's hard to be vulnerable sometimes!
 
Thanks for that i think he knows that i really do love him,i certainly feel as though he does anyway.I reckon he feels loved by me but hes probably just as shy as me!anyway i shall just take each day as it comes things can only get better as they say..
B1tO'RoughJack said:
^fair point...but that's why she your ex, and THEY been together a year! And neither of them has plucked up enough courage to say it - Pammy I think you should say it, and continue to show it, coz it sounds like he's loving you right, but just might be a bit scurrred to actually vocalize his true feelings...typical man with baggage kinda shit, IME - it's hard to be vulnerable sometimes!
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Thanks i reckon he feels love from me as he has sort of said he feels it,and im quite sure that im feeling love from him as you said through his actions he makes mee feewl so happy.
dkmonk said:
Treat him how you feel and he will know how much you love him.

Love is best left to be expressed through actions, instead of directly being said (although it is nice to hear it)

I had an ex who said she loved me all the time, but her actions made me feel not loved, and it didn't matter what she said.
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What a strange "he said, she thinks" thread.

I second waiting for actions over words. ( Waiting may be the wrong word. )

If you are being strung along, then I think you would realize that the balance is tipped his way.

For you, trying to 'right' that exchange will tell all. Of course this is the downside to playing the dating/mating games everyone seems to think are part and parcel of finding and keeping a love interest. :|


:)
 
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