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Spurs_1882 said:
The only way I am managing not to drink at the moment is...every time a good drinking opportunity comes up, like I am out with friends and everyone else is getting drunk, I think to myself, "ok, if you don't drink tonight I'll let you drink next Friday". Then next Friday comes around and I try and do the same thing again. It's going to fuck up eventually; I don't even intend to quit, just to keep this sobriety going as long as I can.
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That's excellent! Even if it is kinda tricking yourself hehe.

I didn't drink for 6 days when I was sick with the flu. But I had a couple of drinks on Thursday, then a million drinks on Friday, and another million drinks on Saturday, now I'm having a few Sunday wines. And I'll start another week of sobriety as of tomorrow.

LordKrishna said:
Im not an alcoholic but drink alcoholicly
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Hmmmm how does that work??
 
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I haven't been able to put the drink down for quite some time now, cannot even figure out how to have a "day 1". I work, then I drink until I sleep, then I go to work and do the same thing again.

I envy normal people who can go and do whatever they want at any time of the day without having to drink alcohol. AA has been tried, I guess my next step is inpatient. Just have to wait 4 more months until my job grants me insurance. Good luck everyone!
 
LordKrishna said:
its just not my drug of choice. But like everything else its all or nothing.
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Ahh I see :)

Just to update you all, I have been prescribed Revia (naltrexone) to stop me from craving alcohol. I'll let you all know how it goes.
 
Spurs_1882 said:
The only way I am managing not to drink at the moment is...every time a good drinking opportunity comes up, like I am out with friends and everyone else is getting drunk, I think to myself, "ok, if you don't drink tonight I'll let you drink next Friday". Then next Friday comes around and I try and do the same thing again. It's going to fuck up eventually; I don't even intend to quit, just to keep this sobriety going as long as I can.
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thats how to best cope with cravings of any kind
dont even think about how its going to 'fuck up eventually'
u never know, it may not
and gd luck with the naltrexone, neophyte - ive heard gd things about it :)
 
drug_wench said:
thats how to best cope with cravings of any kind
dont even think about how its going to 'fuck up eventually'
u never know, it may not
and gd luck with the naltrexone, neophyte - ive heard gd things about it :)
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Thanks for the encouragement dw.:) I guess that's why they say take it a day at a time. It's my graduation tomorrow which will mean incredibly strong cravings, as it's the sort of event I detest but which would be fine, in fact actively enjoyable if I was drinking. But I have told myself it will be just as fun to drink in two weekends time instead, when I go and stay with my best friend...and much less damaging as the graduation is early in the day which will inevitably mean drinking all day. (Also I will be better recovered from my last binge by then, therefore less severe wds).
 
What really troubles me, is that every morning that I wake up after a night of drinking, not only am I hungover, but I feel HORRIBLE. Because one way or another, I always end up driving home. :( I even have a DUI and yet I STILL CONTINUE to drive home. The next day though, when I'm clear minded, I'm just beating myself to death over it. Right now I'm 100% sober, and the thought of driving drunk just makes me sick to my stomach. But yet I know that if I was drunk, I would think it would be ok to drive.

What is up with my logic?! I have all the means to get home WITHOUT driving, fuck, I could even walk my town isn't that far. But yet every single time it happens. I don't want to do it anymore, I'm so confused and scared. :(

I need to be sober, thats the only way. Ughh, thats another uphill battle I'm going to have to face.
 
AgentSquish said:
What is up with my logic?! I have all the means to get home WITHOUT driving, fuck, I could even walk my town isn't that far. But yet every single time it happens. I don't want to do it anymore, I'm so confused and scared. :(
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Yep alcohol will do that to you mate. Makes you feel invincible, or just plain apathetic about the consequences.

I think it would be a good idea (if you haven't done this already) to talk to some close friends and family about your situation, and asking for their help in making sure you don't drive drunk. See if you can get some people to agree that they'll pick you up if you've been out drinking, or at least if you think you might get behind the wheel drunk you can call them and they'll talk you out of it or something. You KNOW it's not the right thing to be doing so hopefully you can stop doing it with the help of some mates.
Do you think that would help??
 
I appreciate the advice. Come to think of it, I don't really plan a night out very well, it just sort of happens. Ya know, go hang out with some friends, wind up at the bar/some house party where everybody's been drinking. If I made plans to meet up with a sober driver ahead of time, I wouldn't even have this problem. What upsets me the most though, is that sometimes I just don't think things through like I should. I just act on impulse, and its 10 times worse when I drink.

After my DUI, I wouldn't even think about even sitting in the drivers seat while under the influence. Then a year later I would start driving buzzed. Then another years go by, and maybe 6-7 beers and I would be good. Do you think maybe going to a DUI Victim Impact, or Alcoholics Anonymous would help? Because I know the hell people have been through as a result of a drunk driving accident. Its a horrible, horrible thing to go through, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. Sorry I'm rambling, I just need to get this off my chest. Haven't really talked to anyone about it.
 
AgentSquish said:
Sorry I'm rambling, I just need to get this off my chest. Haven't really talked to anyone about it.
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That's totally alright mate!! That's what this thread is for! Ramble away! :)

If you think it would be worth trying an AA meeting or something like that, just go for it. It can't do any harm. If you find that it doesn't help you much, then just try something else. With my experience with alcohol, I am finding more and more that it takes a number of different methods to tackle problems with drinking. So keep in mind that if something doesn't help, just keep trying until you find the right solutions for you.

...if that makes sense?
 
n3ophy7e said:
So keep in mind that if something doesn't help, just keep trying until you find the right solutions for you
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Okay, this is going to sound silly, but back in Febuary I met this girl, and her and I got along really well. Unfortuneatly, things didn't work out. But for the month that her and I had a thing, I didn't touch a single drop. Nor did I have any desire to. I mean, yes, I would say that I have a problem with alcohol. I'm not denying that. But its not to the point where I NEED it. Its just really fun to go out and get sloshed on the weekends and occasionally during the weekdays.

I just need to find a sober girl! :) LOL

Thank you so much. I'm going to be posting here more often, now that I know such helpful people are here.
 
AgentSquish said:
Thank you so much. I'm going to be posting here more often, now that I know such helpful people are here.
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No worries at all mate, looking forward to hearing your progress! <3
 
AgentSquish said:
I appreciate the advice. Come to think of it, I don't really plan a night out very well, it just sort of happens. Ya know, go hang out with some friends, wind up at the bar/some house party where everybody's been drinking. If I made plans to meet up with a sober driver ahead of time, I wouldn't even have this problem. What upsets me the most though, is that sometimes I just don't think things through like I should. I just act on impulse, and its 10 times worse when I drink.

After my DUI, I wouldn't even think about even sitting in the drivers seat while under the influence. Then a year later I would start driving buzzed. Then another years go by, and maybe 6-7 beers and I would be good. Do you think maybe going to a DUI Victim Impact, or Alcoholics Anonymous would help? Because I know the hell people have been through as a result of a drunk driving accident. Its a horrible, horrible thing to go through, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. Sorry I'm rambling, I just need to get this off my chest. Haven't really talked to anyone about it.
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Maybe you could look into MADD panels? I had to go to one when I got my DUI, and it was a pretty sobering experience. I have the same problem as you, the guilt the day after driving drunk is horrible.
 
Yeah my partner and I used to drive drunk all the time. Not like, paralytic drunk, but definitely over the limit.
At the time we didn't really think anything of it.
But we soon "grew up" and realised it was really dangerous for everyone.
So we don't do it anymore.
 
Interesting night... I am an active alcoholic and I'll readily admit that. We all know alcoholism can be hereditary, and I've always known my one set of grandparents to be alcoholics, but tonight I went fo dinner at my other set of grandparents and my grandfather (mom's side) was WASTED. I spoke with my mother after I left and told her grandpa was drunk... she said he is also an alcoholic, and she felt ashamed to tell me this.

No wonder why I ended up in the boat I am in. Alcoholism runs in both sides of my family. Good to know 8 years into my addiction. I just thought my gdpa got drunk at family parties when we all got together (I don't see this set of grandparents much). Turns out he does it every single night. I don't know how I never picked up on this.
 
^^ It can be a very secretive thing like that. I've experienced similar revelations with my extended family. One side in particular has so many skeletons in the closet, it's really alarming. Alcoholism runs in both sides of my family. So I was doomed from the start really!
 
n3ophy7e said:
^^ It can be a very secretive thing like that. I've experienced similar revelations with my extended family. One side in particular has so many skeletons in the closet, it's really alarming. Alcoholism runs in both sides of my family. So I was doomed from the start really!
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sorry to be blunt, but that kind of attitude wont help. as well, your genetics didnt start you on alcoholism. everyone kind of starts slow and progresses from there. otherwise it would be a crack like effect of wanting more and more asap without any control whatsoever. saying o well, its purely genetics i cant do anything about it wont land you anywhere.

im not saying its wrong to be addicted, its wrong not to try to do anything about it. (over the age of 19 in my opinion, cuz when your young its very tough to make the right decisions.)
 
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