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caseface99 said:
Maya, While I agree that many people can go back to social acceptable drinking - I also believe that many really do not have a choice other than not drinking at all or totally over doing it.
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Oh yes of course hun it really depends too. It's better not to drink anyway and be healthier like engage in other activities rather than to drink. Nowadays I am rocking it out in the gym so I don't have time to drink =D
 
^^ Hells yeah. :)

I'm most likely going sky diving at some point in the next couple months. I can't fucking wait to be free falling through the sky at 120mph at a hight of almost 20,000 feet. I'm imaging a sense of "who the fuck needs drugs when you can jump out of an airplane" is what I will feel like. Hopefully, anyway. I'm film it with a go pro camera when I jump so I'll be sure to share. ;)

/natural highs for the win
 
^natural adrenaline ftw. It seems like I am finding some things in common with you lol! Skydiving is one of the ones I would like to try this year and also bunjee jumping and man I can't wait to do it this summer! You say you are doing it in a couple of months or so? Let me know how it goes as I would like to try it!

I feel super amazing not havin to touch alcohol and get drunk, at this point I am more interested in feeling good about my body so exercise is a must better than drinking alcohol.
 
^^ Hell yes Maya! Feeling good about my body is also way more important to me now, and that would never happen if I was still sitting around drunk and nodding out on dope.

I'll totally let ya know how it goes, if everything goes according to plan i should be jumping sometime in March. (earlier if I can find someone else who wants to go, but right now the only person willing to come has a broken foot)
 
^Thanks Evey, I can't believe how much improvement I have had since working on the drinking part I hope this serves as an inspiration to those who are still having problems with alcoholism. It just takes a lot of patience and will power.
 
Sorry to post this one sided rant but having mild crisis.
Living with my sweetheart is wearing me down. Watching his eyes yellow, knowing the amount he consumes daily has been a roller coaster ride tugging at my heart strings,
I honestly don't know what to do about this folks. He won't go to a meeting and gets angry when the 'can' is brought up.
I thought I'd spend my life with him. I cannot talk about his problem with my family as I need to protect him. I find myself drinking more. I am having a beer right now. I never was a drinker. My bio Dad was an alcoholic so always been cautious with the booze thing. Since meeting my sweetheart I have drunk more with him these past years than my entire 20's.
I don't know what to do but I sure don't like sounding like some weak broken record. I don't want to leave him. Can he not see how his actions are draining me and bringing me down? Am I being an idiot for staying with him. What is so special about booze that people choose it over good things like love? I know reading stories like C man Kitty's gave me lots of hope; I know there are success stories but I also know, there are many tragedies too.
Anyone else in love with someone who puts the bottle ahead of you?
got any advice?:|
 
^I dated a guy who abused a lot of drugs and I tried to keep up with his habit and then I got my long term comedown. I know that you love this guy but if he does not seek help and refuses to get clean he is going to drag you down and I am basing this on my experience. It seems that he is not ready to get clean so the only way you can do is to try to get him into it again speak to him and see what he will say and if he is not willing then you are going to have to call it quits. At the end of the day you well being is important and staying sober as well. Just try it one more time and see if he will be willing, set an ultimatum and see how he reacts to it.
 
^^ I would really suggest going to an al-anon meeting, I'm willing to bet you will learn a LOT about your situation from other's that are going through/have gone through the same thing. Just a suggestion though.

Otherwise, as Maya said - especially if nothing is done to change the situation then the outlook seems sort of grim. :/
 
junegreenjeans said:
Sorry to post this one sided rant but having mild crisis.
Living with my sweetheart is wearing me down. Watching his eyes yellow, knowing the amount he consumes daily has been a roller coaster ride tugging at my heart strings,
I honestly don't know what to do about this folks. He won't go to a meeting and gets angry when the 'can' is brought up.
I thought I'd spend my life with him. I cannot talk about his problem with my family as I need to protect him. I find myself drinking more. I am having a beer right now. I never was a drinker. My bio Dad was an alcoholic so always been cautious with the booze thing. Since meeting my sweetheart I have drunk more with him these past years than my entire 20's.
I don't know what to do but I sure don't like sounding like some weak broken record. I don't want to leave him. Can he not see how his actions are draining me and bringing me down? Am I being an idiot for staying with him. What is so special about booze that people choose it over good things like love? I know reading stories like C man Kitty's gave me lots of hope; I know there are success stories but I also know, there are many tragedies too.
Anyone else in love with someone who puts the bottle ahead of you?
got any advice?:|
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I have been listening to a story like yours for about 10 years now.
My 30 year old daughter is married to an alcoholic. For some reason she thought after 9 years together, a kid would sober him up.
8)

He drinks more than ever now. Puts his bottle in front of her AND their baby.

Yesterday, she attended her very first Al-Anon meeting. She went to lunch afterward with a few of the ladies she met.

She came home with a whole new perspective. My son in law is not affected. But I don't mind because she finally getting some help. I have been encouraging her to go to meetings for a long time.

I don't know what country you are in, so I don't know if Al Anon applies to this situation but I am trying to be helpful.

Frankly, I'm not a big meeting person. I don't like a lot of stuff about Al Anon. But it's something. Do you know what I mean? It's at least something besides worrying or complaining.

But who knows?
 
^^ Unless she lives in a third world country, AA and Al-Anon are most likely around somewhere. Might be few and far between some places, but they basically exist everywhere.

Shit I'm thinking about starting to go to Al-Anon. I'm in AA as an alcoholic and drug addict, however I dated another addict/alcoholic for 4.5 years and it was extremely codependent, then for the last 6 months I dated another alcoholic (this one in recovery, but still) and i think I started becoming codependent again. She recently broke up with me for different reasons, but I'm thinking Al-Anon may help me to have healthier relationships in the future and avoid becoming codependent with the next girl I end up with.
 
I wonder many times if I have alcoholic tendencies or whatever. When I drink, I want to get drunk. Completely black out drunk and I sometimes get mad if I only have a few drinks because I'm not at that euphoric parasthesia drunk stage. That's why I tread cautiously. What do you guys think?
 
I would say yes but if this is only once in a blue moon than you drink I'd say its fine but if you would like to start drinking more often then it could lead to alcoholism issues.

I hated it before when my buzz will go away quickly in a long ass party so I will always make sure we have enough drinks for me in particular. I used to drink for almost 9 hours straight in my peak years when I party and I think its because my tolerance has built up over time never liked blackouts but I like keeping my buzz.
 
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I'm craving alcohol n fighting it. Last time I got drunk I woke up with a temp ban on here. Was never so ashamed in my life. When I start drinking I can't stop n drank heavily for about 3 months - was really frightened I'd not be able to ever stop. Was craving opiates badly n was using alcohol but now I've had had my suboxone increased from 8 mg to 12 mg n things are much better as apart from the holiday season I haven't drank at all :)
 
ugly said:
I have been listening to a story like yours for about 10 years now.
My 30 year old daughter is married to an alcoholic. For some reason she thought after 9 years together, a kid would sober him up.
8)

He drinks more than ever now. Puts his bottle in front of her AND their baby.

Yesterday, she attended her very first Al-Anon meeting. She went to lunch afterward with a few of the ladies she met.

She came home with a whole new perspective. My son in law is not affected. But I don't mind because she finally getting some help. I have been encouraging her to go to meetings for a long time.

I don't know what country you are in, so I don't know if Al Anon applies to this situation but I am trying to be helpful.

Frankly, I'm not a big meeting person. I don't like a lot of stuff about Al Anon. But it's something. Do you know what I mean? It's at least something besides worrying or complaining.

But who knows?
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Thank you, I will try. The meetings are a good idea and they are around this neck of the woods so yes, accessible. Appreciate your feed back. Sorry to hear about your daughter. Good she has you though. Really good.

I hope her man finds the strength to do what is right for their baby and for them.

regards
J.g.j
 
Maya said:
^I dated a guy who abused a lot of drugs and I tried to keep up with his habit and then I got my long term comedown. I know that you love this guy but if he does not seek help and refuses to get clean he is going to drag you down and I am basing this on my experience. It seems that he is not ready to get clean so the only way you can do is to try to get him into it again speak to him and see what he will say and if he is not willing then you are going to have to call it quits. At the end of the day you well being is important and staying sober as well. Just try it one more time and see if he will be willing, set an ultimatum and see how he reacts to it.
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Thank you Maya

Yes, it is something I worry about too, being dragged down. Yes the love is strong but so is my survival mode instinct. I will go to the meetings, gain some more insight. Perhaps by me going to them, he'll gain some insight himself like, why he drinks so much.
Appreciate your words. Can't do the ultimatum (yet). I know how he'll react and I can't see it being all too positive. Still, in time if health doesn't take precedence, I will.

hope your well

jgj
 
Just thought I'd update on my situation. I was sober until the 12th of January then drank for 10 days straight. I began with 6 pack of 4.7% beers, but in the last 2 days moved up to 6 pack beer plus 350ml 40% abv of spirits and began drinking as early as 11am. Now the last 2 days my father had noticed how drunk I was so early in the day and clearly showed his concern despite him having his problem too. I ended up blacking out both evenings and waking up at 3 am in my bed think "oh no, not again!" I've had a big argument with my best friend over the phone and fallen out big time.

However I'm now into my 3rd day sober as I've gone and stayed at my Mums and my Grandmas the last couple of nights as I know I cannot get away with drinking there. Still taking the milk thistle, had really bad pains in my lower back area recently too. But those seem to be gone today.

Sleeping is a nightmare as I am not staying asleep just tossing and turning over and over and sweating a lot too. but i've only managed to get some OTC Kalms, which do seem to help a bit, anxiety is huge at the moment too. New University semester starts on Monday, I do not and can not afford to fuck this up. I'm setting myself a goal of total sobriety from now until my last piece of work in May. I know this is a big target, after having failed to reach 30 days but I do believe it is now or never and cant afford another 10 wasted days with so much work to do. Wish me strength.
 
do they make 350ml bottles, ialways thought it was 375.
fuck, why cant i stop i know if i pass out im going to to do like 30 just for drunk in public. why cant i just i just quit, i think the only way thats going to happen is when i finaly kill myself
 
^^ I could never quit drinking and using drugs until I started working a daily program of recovery, and became willing to take suggestions from people who have already gotten sober.

It's not easy, but neither is being an active alcoholic. If you put half as much effort into your recovery as you put into maintaining a drunk or a high, you will be successful. The only RESULT from continuing to drink is Jail, Hospital, or Death - But those are not the only solutions to the problem. :)
 
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