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Alcoholism Discussion Thread Version 6.0

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CartmansKitty said:
N3o - I saw your post, and it brought it all back for me. When I lived at home, I'm convinced that both my mother and step father were functioning alcoholics. So, each time my mother would flag up my alcohol issues, and tell me I had to stop - I would come home from an AA meeting, or whatever, to find them both sitting there with drink. That was the hardest thing ever. Inevitably, after a few weeks, I would cave, and I would be back to drinking again, and my mother would get my step father to kick me out. This went on for over a year this cycle. (My step father once tried to kick me out into the rain one night at 11pm when he was as pissed as a fart himself.) Looking back now, being in that environment, I was setting myself up to fail each and every time.

Do your parents drink every night? Is there anyway you could talk with them about triggers, and how hard you are finding it in these early days to be around people that are drinking?

From personal experience, every time I spoke to my mother about it, it fell on deaf ears, and I would be told she wasn't going to stop what she was doing because I had a problem.

Would moving out be an option if your parents didn't want to help you? Keep going N3o (and everyone else) - the first few weeks/months are hell, but, once you get out of there, life is waiting- and it is good. <3
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Thank you <3

I am back to day 1 today. My brother who is going to have a brain tumour excised on Tuesday wanted to have a drink with me. This will be life-changing surgery and he'll never be quite the same again so I agreed to have a few drinks with him.

Unfortunately I'm not in a position to move out. I'm a full-time student and unemployed so I'm completely dependent on my parents. I haven't yet found the strength to talk to my dad about his drinking and how it affects me. I'm feeling particularly weak at the moment.
 
I've been drinking to the point where it's not even fun any more. Have barely been getting a buzz out of it, just a whole heap of foginess instead. Am going to start training again though. Hopefully it gets me to cut down from 5 - 6 days of intense drinking to 1 - 2
 
^Exercising can be amazingly helpful for cutting out/back on alcohol consumption. Congrats on a positive step towards your recovery! :)
 
n3ophy7e said:
I am back to day 1 today. My brother who is going to have a brain tumour excised on Tuesday wanted to have a drink with me. This will be life-changing surgery and he'll never be quite the same again so I agreed to have a few drinks with him.
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Having a drink with your brother was an appropriate thing to do. Try not let this back to day 1 business bother you <3
All the best for your brother & your family at this time. I can see how difficult this must be for you, and I truly am sending you guys all of my strongest wishes.
<3 <3 <3
 
n3ophy7e said:
I'm up to 11 days. I'm at my parents place tonight (which is where I live, but I spend half my time at my boyfriend's place), and my brother and his family are here too, so we're having a family dinner. I can already hear them opening wine bottles and beers and pouring drinks in to glasses. I was already craving alcohol before this but this is just ridiculous. I really cannot deal with this :( They have no idea how hard this is for me. I just wanna scream and cry.

Being at my parents place is my biggest trigger, and I fucking live here. This is not good.
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Do your family members know you're an alcoholic? What if you told them how being around it has you craving it and wanting to relapse? I have friends and family members who drink but I just will do things like drink only water, or leave the room or area where they're drinking.

I have friends and acquaintances who are alcoholics but I don't spend that much time with them as I used to.

I don't really crave alcohol since I have over a year sober and I remind myself of how I was before when I was drinking, and I remind myself that if I use drugs or drink I'll die. I know this sounds extreme but it works for me. Good luck. I am sorry to hear about your brother.
 
When people I don't know well ask me why I don't drink, I tell them I have a medical condition/disease that means I can't drink.

If they push further, I say I don't want to talk about it, and that it's not a choice for me.

The funny part is, I'm not even lying.

Works for me. Just thought I would share.
 
n3ophy7e said:
Thank you <3

I am back to day 1 today. My brother who is going to have a brain tumour excised on Tuesday wanted to have a drink with me. This will be life-changing surgery and he'll never be quite the same again so I agreed to have a few drinks with him.

Unfortunately I'm not in a position to move out. I'm a full-time student and unemployed so I'm completely dependent on my parents. I haven't yet found the strength to talk to my dad about his drinking and how it affects me. I'm feeling particularly weak at the moment.
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N3o - I totally agree with Tripnotzym - don't feel bad - and, if anything, I admire your resolve when you stated you were back to 'day one'. It shows just how determined you are to beat this. Again, I echo Trips' comments - my thoughts are with you and your brother too. xx

June, and everyone else, I really hope that you all are doing well. <3 xx
 
1 month free of alcohol. Not to minimize my accomplishment, but I will be far more impressed when I can go without alcohol while simultaneously being completely sober. That'd be a trick.
 
motherofearth said:
1 month free of alcohol. Not to minimize my accomplishment, but I will be far more impressed when I can go without alcohol while simultaneously being completely sober. That'd be a trick.
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My opinion is that it is important to get rid of the substance which is no longer serving its purpose in a positive way. Its been 69 days for me of no drinking, but I am still indulging in cannabis, and molly on occasion. Relinquishing one poison at a time, I guess.
 
just re-visted this forum...

i'm just desperate at this point in time to get off my daily alcohol habit. Also in an outpatient program and feel like i may need to do an inpatient program cause i can't stop living where i am...
 
sluggish cans like soldiers stand
emptied of their drain
every afternoon by two
I clear them for the day
and by midnight I taste their plight
and stack them once again
 
22 months with no alcohol and no benzos! Didn't think I could do it. I won't lie. I do think of it sometimes, really miss a good bottle of wine. The trouble was I would have 2 or 3....bottles. I messed up my health, job, business, was arrested more than once and felt like shit all of the time. No more hangover, blood pressure is normal, stomach doesn't hurt and the fog lifted. My major side effect of not drinking is I got fat. I hate that. I believe we all gotta find what works for us. We can take from others what works, but don't try to TELL others what he/she must do. Also, never stop trying. Never know when the effort might work out.
 
Hey guys,

First of all, congratulations Gerry! It's fantastic when you find a way to beat such a powerful demon - isn't it? :)

I'm having a tough time at the minute - since my jaw operation, I have had severe pain in the right side of my face where the surgeon operated. On Thursday, I saw an ENT surgeon, who told me that this wasn't a sinus problem as the surgeon that operated initially thought. (This is a long story - the surgeon operated to remove some titanium plates without telling me about the risk of nerve damage. :\ The only time I saw him through the whole process was when I was coming around from the anaesthetic and he told me I had some nerve damage!! As a result, he has been grasping at straws in the hope that I wouldn't take legal action, by hoping it was a sinus problem. He had me on antibiotics for weeks that made me really sick, and gets annoyed when I suggest it is the nerve damage. I've since started legal action against him!) So, the ENT guy thinks it is 'Trigeminal Neuralgia', and I also have 'Temporomandibular Joint Disorder'. :( So, I am on 'Dihydrocodiene' (60mg 4 times a day), and 'Carbamazepine' (just up to 200mg 3 times a day) until I see the pain management team.

The 'Carbamazepine' is bringing back some very unwanted memories, as I feel like I am drunk in the short time I have been on it. On top of that, I feel really, really drowsy, but at least it is stopping my face from going into painful spasms that totally stop me in my tracks. I feel really calm too, but really disconnected. I'm going to talk with the pain team to see if they can give me something else with less side effects. (It also is reminding me why I gave up the booze in the first place - feeling like this is just pants. Lol.)

Enough about me anyway, how is everyone else doing? :) <3
 
Dear CartsmanKitty,
Sorry to read your going through this. They had me on Gabapentin (spelling mistake no doubt) for nerve damage and it made me drowsy and disconnected. The alternative however was just no fun and its been a steady road trip so to speak finding a solution that works best. I now medicate with MMJ and when it's really bad I have the stronger stuff.
It is always a bummer when Doctors make boo boo's that effect us for the rest of our lives. Everyone is human, I get this but there is a trust we have in Doc's and when mistakes happen, it truly sucks.
I hope your ENT knows what their doing. Second opinions always a great idea when dealing with Doctors pride issues.
I would suggest getting on some 'Arnica Montana' right away, both topically and ingested. It is derived from the flower and offers considerable help aiding with internal bruising and trauma. Many open minded Doctors suggest taking this prior to a surgery but taking it afterwards helps too. It speed heals. I took it for both my craniotomy's and swear by its effectiveness.
I do hope this finds you improved, well and happy.
take care good lady
 
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