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Affair with a married guy

'I'd like to hear if anyone HAS been in the same situation...any of y'all ever cheated? Or been the one who someone's cheating with? How did it turn out? "

Well. I guess my story on that's a little different, but it still ends unhappily.
I was with a married man. I knew he was married. His wife and I hated each other. The man and I were friends for a couple years. One night we kissed.
The thought of him boiled my blood. I couldn't eat, sleep or think. So, we fucked. We always got along well, and the sex was absolutely amazing.
He said he loved me, and left his wife of 18 years.
His daughter thought I was wonderful, and came to live with us.
Everything was great.
Until he started running himself crazy, doing too much cocaine, and losing touch with reality.
His ugly, angry, critical controlling side came out.
I remembered his wife- IQ of about 80, batshit crazy, literally incapable of holding a conversation or functioning at all on any level. (seriously. She drove her car through a building. On purpose. And has been committed multiple times.) I realized that the stress of living with this one second from snapping man, who literally had said that everything must always be perfect, truly perfect, because every little thing is life or death (and meant it) for so long probably made her that way.
I left.
Married men who step out are no prize worth winning.
Save yourself the time and effort.
 
You're his absolute dream and fantasy, breaking the monotony. God bless.
 
Blue Valentine, no judgment from me here 'cause I have been in your situation, too. The guy told me he was not married, and that his wife did not understand him and that they lived two separate lives and did not have sex. I was 20, he was 45, I was terribly naive and could in no way compete with the deviousness/cleverness/slipperiness of this man. I was no match for him. Anyway, I blew a gasket when I found out 'cause I fancied myself in love with this man. I called his wife and informed her of his activities. She said she knew, and that their SON (three years old) found a huge box full of sexy photographs of a myriad of different women. Still, they stayed together. I dumped his ass - then something remarkable happened: HE LEFT HER TO BE WITH ME. Can you believe it? Unfortunately for him, I was already gone. So, he hooks up with some other chick I worked with - then something remarkable happened: HE GOT POPPED FOR DELIVERY. LMFAO!!!!!!!!!! How you like 'dem apples? They arrested him at his fancy engineering job! Still, lmfao... Anyhoo, as far as being mad at his wife, why would I be? She didn't do anything to me. HE WAS HER HUSBAND. Doncha think he owed her more than I did?

I do not understand the rage that women get at other woman. I have caught boyfriends cheating over the years. But I was never mad at the chick(s) he was banging. Those chicks didn't owe me A THING, IMO. The MEN, the BOYFRIENDS are the ones that owed me their honesty, and fidelity, our mutually agreed upon fidelity. Some random chick owes me DICK as in NOTHING. If I am exclusively dating someone and they cannot control the urge to go get random ass that is a problem. There will always be chicks around down for a bustdown. So, if I want a monogamous relationship, I give the trust to my man. If he destroys it by having to get some strange the problem lies with him, and I gotta let him go.

BV, I am just being honest here, and definitely not trying to be hurtful. It is likely he has done this before and I believe that within the next three months he will have a new friend. GOOD ON YA FOR DUMPING THAT USELESS EXCUSE FOR A MAN. SHAME ON HIM.
 
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oh well, as long as you keep this short and sweet I see no problem with it.

Just make sure you do - don't wanna find yourself getting attached to this dude, as he sounds like a complete tool.

Don't lie to yourself either if you do find yourself getting attached, just end it straight off without talking to him about it, otherwise I'm sure he will convince you to keep on going.
 
lol @ rocketqueen. It's amazing how cliche this whole situation is. It happens so much. The only thing I always wonder is why the wives don't think something is up when the men won't wear wedding rings. I understand if the guy is in an industry where a ring could cut off their fingers, but in my situation, the guy didn't wear a ring and he was a white collar manager. It was weird. I found out years later she finally left him. I found out that she caught him 3 times before she finally left.
 
Lysis said:
lol @ rocketqueen. It's amazing how cliche this whole situation is. It happens so much. The only thing I always wonder is why the wives don't think something is up when the men won't wear wedding rings. I understand if the guy is in an industry where a ring could cut off their fingers, but in my situation, the guy didn't wear a ring and he was a white collar manager. It was weird. I found out years later she finally left him. I found out that she caught him 3 times before she finally left.
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Lysis, I was just so naive. My God, man, I was 20 and had NO CLUE how deceptive men (and people in general) are and how far they will go to get ass. As long as he gets what he wants, kool. His wife condoned it by standing by him. She is better than that and so am I. Unfortunately, an endless procession of young dumb chicks keep coming down the track, ripe for the picking. The second my mom laid eyes on this guy she told me in private "he is married." But I wouldn't listen. Nope, not me, who knows everything. My mom had his card the second she laid eyes on him. It must have sucked for her to see me with this creep and KNOW he was a chump.
 
I've been in a similar situation... except he wasn't married but he had been dating his girlfriend for quite while. I was his mistress for 3 years out of his 5 year relationship; oddly enough she knows about me, knows who I am etc. He's pretty honest with her, I'm surprised she didn't claw my eyes out or anything o_O
 
Jblazingphoenix100 said:
oh well, as long as you keep this short and sweet I see no problem with it.

Just make sure you do - don't wanna find yourself getting attached to this dude, as he sounds like a complete tool.

Don't lie to yourself either if you do find yourself getting attached, just end it straight off without talking to him about it, otherwise I'm sure he will convince you to keep on going.
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Yup. Mine said we could still be friends and it was the biggest mistake - we kept meeting up for drinks over the weekend and then he'll end up at my place. He'll play boyfriend for a couple of days and then friend zone me. It was one crazy on-and-off relationship
 
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