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ok, so I have been raping the shit out of this thread recently for advice and I thank you for putting up with me.

My GF and I are in a LDR but she is moving to my home town soon (like 4 weeks) which is great, however, her behaviour has changed somewhat from normal to a "i don't care" attitude a month or so back, she is going out all the time with her mates at her current address, doing more drugs than normal and doesn't seem as "in to me" as much as she did before, she said she is trying to enjoy her freedom before she moves back (which I understand) but I am wondering if she is just losing interest in me or if this behaviour is normal during a stressful time (which this is due to job changes etc) she said she needs space (which I am giving to her) and she said she is stressed and upset about moving and this is why she is acting out of character.

she still says "love you" and we still talk as normal but she just seems to have less emotion towards me.

is this normal giving the situation and should i be worried?
 
I'm not the best when it comes to taking my own advice, but if I were you I'd try to just let her be. Ultimately if she still has an interest in you she'll stay in touch. If not, what can you really do, ya know? You don't want to force things on to her, that will just make things worse. Try and give her space, let her do her own thing, and let her see what it's like to not have you around all the time. Then when she comes back to town, maybe she can appreciate you more.
 
Sounds like bullshit to me. You're in a long distance relationship and she's asking for space?? It sounds to me like she's dreading moving closer to you, not looking forward to it. Going over the possible reasons for that in my head would lead me to question just what the fuck she has far away that she won't have once she's close to me, or worse just what the fuck she's being doing far away that she won't be able to do once she's closer to me.
 
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Sounds like bullshit to me. You're in a long distance relationship and she's asking for space?? It sounds to me like she's dreading moving closer to you, not looking forward to it. Going over the possible reasons for that in my head would lead me to question just what the fuck she has far away that she won't have once she's close to me, or worse just what the fuck she's being doing far away that she won't be able to do once she's closer to me.
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GenericMind said:
Sounds like bullshit to me. You're in a long distance relationship and she's asking for space?? It sounds to me like she's dreading moving closer to you, not looking forward to it. Going over the possible reasons for that in my head would lead me to question just what the fuck she has far away that she won't have once she's close to me, or worse just what the fuck she's being doing far away that she won't be able to do once she's closer to me.
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That sounds plausible but i don't think she would be the cheating type, she isn't a very sexual creature (never really been into sex..ever) that and she is just not that type of person. Also if she was, surely she would leave me and stay where she is?

Also another thing is that where she currently is, the clubbing scene is a lot better (we have 1 club she has 15) maybe that is what she is missing? Besides if she had doubts,would she cancel the move?
 
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GenericMind said:
Sounds like bullshit to me. You're in a long distance relationship and she's asking for space?? It sounds to me like she's dreading moving closer to you, not looking forward to it. Going over the possible reasons for that in my head would lead me to question just what the fuck she has far away that she won't have once she's close to me, or worse just what the fuck she's being doing far away that she won't be able to do once she's closer to me.
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exactly. doesn't necessarily mean she's being unfaithful, but it definitely sounds like she's lost that lovin' feelin'. could be because she's found someone else (infidelity isn't necessarily driven by sex), could just be that she resents having to leave her life to move for you. either way, probably a good idea to have an honest, frank discussion about her feelings on the move. painful as it may be, if she's lost interest, you need to know now.
 
Welp, maybe she's telling the truth and is just genuinely bummed about moving away from all her friends.

If she's moving there just for you, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If she wasn't into you anymore she'd probably just cancel the move.
 
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