Advice for depressed people

[Jabberwocky]

Hi all I came across a realization this week after an extensive conversation with someone about my depression. More or less it was pointed out to me that when I'm depressed I am my own worst enemy. This is so based on the wrong actions which I take, I.e I get drunk, I stop caring and in the past I would gamble and sometimes suicide entered my thoughts.

Based on this I have come to realize that depression is linked to a personality disorder. Now Although this sounds bad it's also good as one can remind themselves that when the bad thought enters your mind it is not the real you rather it is your depression or your addiction. After all why would you want to commit harm to yourself?

 

[Lazyscience]

when im happy i like to sing and play my guitar and i found that it works the other way round too. if im sad and i play my guitar, i get happier. its just hard to motivate yourself to do stuff when youre down though so it takes some discipline.

 

[Sweet P]

As I see it, personality disorders are the real you. I'm diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

 

[Faceplate]

Being bi-polar myself, things get tricky depending on my mood. When I'm manic...I'm nutty. I get super motivated and have a blast doing everything, including house work and cleaning. However, I've heard over the years from everybody and their brother that "you should try to do the activities that make you happy, blah, blah, blah", when I'm really depressed. I'm sure I'm not the only who's heard this, or tried. BUT, for me, I've found that whenever I've tried to get into what I enjoy doing normally, my heart just isn't into it, let alone my mind. So, what happens is, if I'm not getting any pleasure out of the activity, I'll get angry with myself for either messing up what I'm doing, or angry that the activity isn't helping my mood.
I guess tho I'm lucky in one respect in that, I have accrued many hobbies over the years, both indoors and outdoors. But, sometimes, nothing works...then I just climb in between the cushions on my couch, put my headphones on, and crank the most abrasive music I have until my ears bleed......then all is better!

 

[Lazyscience]

sounds like youre having a lot of fun in your life anyways. i wish i was bipolar instead of just depressed cos at least i could experience the manic part.

 

[TheLostBoys]

Hi all I came across a realization this week after an extensive conversation with someone about my depression. More or less it was pointed out to me that when I'm depressed I am my own worst enemy. This is so based on the wrong actions which I take, I.e I get drunk, I stop caring and in the past I would gamble and sometimes suicide entered my thoughts.

Based on this I have come to realize that depression is linked to a personality disorder. Now Although this sounds bad it's also good as one can remind themselves that when the bad thought enters your mind it is not the real you rather it is your depression or your addiction. After all why would you want to commit harm to yourself?

I feel you on the gambling part. I only gamble on college & pro football & wont touch any other sport or enter a casino to play the table games. When im winning, my back pain doesnt exist or the pain is very little probably because I am happy with all the money I won for the week & life gets easier when you have money but when I lose & gotta pay up, I get depressed & the back pain is severe. Mind over matter? I suppose...........but I guess a day above ground is a good day no matter what.