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Mental Health Advice and help needed

Lucy20

Lucy20

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My boyfriend stopped paxil cold Turkey 2-3 weeks ago(i think i posted it as a "friend " in case he read here, now i know he doesn't).
He was on them 15 years . I suggested tapering but he only did that a couple days then stopped.
His child is here for the summer so he has been overwhelmed and a complete mess.
I left yesterday because he has been fighting over every little thing. I have PTSD and paws so i can't handle much
I love this man more than anything but i don't know what to do.
He refuses to go to a doctor and wants to wait it out but i don't think he realizes how he has changed into someone else. I get the blame for saying a rude comment and he stays angry for a while and then tells me how much he loves me but he needs space to deal with this.
Its breaking my heart, i feel helpless, im worried he will not get help or get better and i will loose him
He is all i have and he has changed since he stopped the meds.
Could paxil withdrawal cause this? Will it get better? What can I do to help?
 
I've been on paxil for about 20 years and there is a marked difference in me if I go without it for even a day. It makes me feel like a completely different person. It's a very dangerous drug to quit cold turkey as well. May I ask why he wanted to stop taking it?
 
tell him to take a small dose or half of it if its that bad ....... there is no quick-fix to situations like this and it sucks :(

yep overtime maybe 2-3 weeks all will be better, maybe not perfecto but definate much better
 
Zonxx said:
tell him to take a small dose or half of it if its that bad ....... there is no quick-fix to situations like this and it sucks :(

yep overtime maybe 2-3 weeks all will be better, maybe not perfecto but definate much better
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Agreed. This is one drug that should definitely at all costs be tapered over time.
 
He refuses to taper and just wants to wait, he got off them because his anxiety got worse every time he took them.
I suggested maybe he should see a doctor and get switched to something else.
Hes acting very odd, mad at me 1 minutes, loving me the next.
He was never like this and now my father is in the hospital on life support and my brother is to big a mess to be there for me in a calm manner.
Its like im losing the only 2 people I have
 
Lucy20 said:
He refuses to taper and just wants to wait, he got off them because his anxiety got worse every time he took them.
I suggested maybe he should see a doctor and get switched to something else.
Hes acting very odd, mad at me 1 minutes, loving me the next.
He was never like this and now my father is in the hospital on life support and my brother is to big a mess to be there for me in a calm manner.
Its like im losing the only 2 people I have
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Maybe he needs a tack on drug to go with the paxil. My paxil started to not work as efficiently about a year ago and they had to prescribe abilify to take with the paxil. It's worked wonders! Maybe that's all he needs. Just a booster for his paxil.
 
Dont think of it that way... listen everyones got their own way they think shit should happen, if he absolutely refuses to take somthing disrupting his life well, nothing you can do, as long as you feel safe around him.. you dont want to set someone off into a rage with withdrawal BUT maybe its a tough day

What you can do is know itll change for the better... think of what he is going through wd is never easy its like being mentally torn apart, nd im sure thats whats happening for him hell need to readjusf to a sober normal OR go to a doctor and maybe geta benzo to chill him out


Lucy20 said:
He refuses to taper and just wants to wait, he got off them because his anxiety got worse every time he took them.
I suggested maybe he should see a doctor and get switched to something else.
Hes acting very odd, mad at me 1 minutes, loving me the next.
He was never like this and now my father is in the hospital on life support and my brother is to big a mess to be there for me in a calm manner.
Its like im losing the only 2 people I have
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Thanks everyone, i know withdrawal from opiates and it almost cracked my brain
Its just hard him acting this way while im waiting for a call that my father has passed.
Feels very alone and im amazed i haven't used again
 
Lucy20 said:
Thanks everyone, i know withdrawal from opiates and it almost cracked my brain
Its just hard him acting this way while im waiting for a call that my father has passed.
Feels very alone and im amazed i haven't used again
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Everything'll workout im sure of it im sorry to hear about your father though making the situation tougher but hey if ya beat the opiates youre a damn super hero so you got this.
 
I finally told him that i wouldn't be back until he goes to a doctor, he came over last evening to be with me and he wasn't in that bad of a mood, but still not himself.
I gave him a bottle of lorazepam to help him and he took 1 and within 30 minutes i could see the calmness come back
If i didn't know withdrawal and the mental hell i would be very weary around him, hes not violent, just extreme mood swings.
He is seeing a doctor Monday because i think he finally gets it that he needs something and he knows i cannot handle this anymore
 
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Lucy20 said:
I finally told him that i wouldn't be back until he goes to a doctor, he came over last evening to be wrong me and he wasn't in that bad of a mood, but still not himself.
I gave him a bottle of lorazepam to help him and he took 1 and within 30 minutes i could see the calmness come back
If i didn't know withdrawal and the mental hell i would be very weary around him, hes not violent, just extreme mood swings.
He is seeing a doctor Monday because i think he finally gets it that he needs something and he knows i cannot handle this anymore
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Glad that he finally gets it. In my experiences people who have been on ssri medication often become bipolar-like when they quit the meds.
Hopefully he gets a good doctor.
 
I knew a couple of people on this stuff. When they either missed doses or just suddenly decided to stop taking it, they would be either angry or crying over nothing within a day or two. Really dark mood, not nice to be around because there was nothing I could do to help other than advise that they take drugs which obviously aren't doing them any good.

I would suggest he get back on his meds, try to find a bit of stability and then drop off gradually. If not, at least talk to a doctor about some other options as you've suggested. Not sure what else you could do tbh.

That said, both of those people I was referring to have actually stopped the antidepressants and seem to be doing better now than they were before or while on them, so it might just take time.
 
Kaden_Nite said:
I knew a couple of people on this stuff. When they either missed doses or just suddenly decided to stop taking it, they would be either angry or crying over nothing within a day or two. Really dark mood, not nice to be around because there was nothing I could do to help other than advise that they take drugs which obviously aren't doing them any good.

I would suggest he get back on his meds, try to find a bit of stability and then drop off gradually. If not, at least talk to a doctor about some other options as you've suggested. Not sure what else you could do tbh.

That said, both of those people I was referring to have actually stopped the antidepressants and seem to be doing better now than they were before or while on them, so it might just take time.
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He is taking lorazepam and it is helping, he saw a doctor. He wants to see how he is off of them .
He is finally getting some sleep but still in hell.
He says its slowly getting better and he is going to wait a bit to see if he really needs them, because he said he never felt good taking them
Thank God for benzos
 
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