Wow, all caps ADDICTS!, what the hell kinda post is this going to be?
It's not going to be a blame game. Society loves to guilt trip people with addiction. Some even say "they brought it on themselves, they should be withheld medical treatment or compassion."
Yeah, no.
When you are addicted to something, the balances in your life, your mind and your body are all askew. You are not on a level playing field with people who are healthy, just as for me, with my morbid obesity, my metabolism is definitely broken in a way that tends to result in me gaining back every pound i manage to lose, and more. That is a biological reality, the table is tilted to your disadvantage because your body broke because you overindulged in things relatively harmless in moderation.
I have had many kinds of drug addiction, not one or two or five, MANY. I know what it is. I have a good inkling of exactly how much worse it would have been if it had been heroin, crack, meth or sincere alcoholism. It would have dragged me down so much more deeply physically and mentally than the hard and soft drugs I was addicted to that didnt yet lead to the great damage that the Big 4 that create homeless addicts tend to create. It was really bad yes but, it couldve been so much worse,
Some of you reading this, into your third bottle of vodka of the day may say "well no shit dude, thanks, that is where I am now."
I have been very far gone in complex situations that included addiction, that combined, were very damn serious and very hard to get out of, taking years of struggle.
One of your companions is your enemy, for real. It is the self doubt, the self pity, the overwhelming sense of powerlessness that you cannot get it done, that is frying you so hard that it may take years before you even seriously try to quit and when you do, your mindset is a Swiss cheese full of holes that self-sabotage the robustness of your effort when you do muster the courage.
You can do something right now that is not very hard and not mumbo jumbo, well before you quit. Right now, in the frontline trench of your addiction, you can start talking courage into yourself, even when you screw another tin capsule off a bottle of booze and throw it across the room because you won't need to close that bottle, even when you cook up that shot of murky brown fluid, containing a drug that when pure is pristine white and dissolving crystal clear.
You gotta start small. Do not make the mistake of waiting until you quit, because then quitting is hardest. No matter how physically addicted you are, you are also full of psychological addiction mechanisms that greatly complicate the quitting effort. These psychological addiction mechanisms include things you say to yourself that sabotage your willpower and selfesteem and anchor your despair and depression. You know the ones if you pay attention to what goes on in you: "I can never quit, i don't have what it takes, I deserve this, there is nothing in the world but this drug for me" those kinds of thoughts you poison yourself with.
They are negative affirmations you fortify by repeating them and believing them.
That is something you can turn around. That you can't quit is pure BS, you can't say that at this point. So since you are already dishing out negative BS, how about positive BS to tip the balance?
One day soon I'm going to quit this like nobodies business, watch me!
If I am strong enough to bear with this habit I am way stronger than I think and way stronger than I need to quit!
It may seem like BS the first times you say it, but it will grow on you and you can put more and more conviction behind it, because repetition and belief invested in it will inevitably give it more traction than the negativity you are spamming out of your head, because guess what? Your mind, conscious and subconscious, is motivated to help you get out of this and you will get augmentation of parts of you you don't even realize you have. Your Higher Self and your body want you to live a good life and defeat this destructive trap.
Don't let addiction "experts" talk into your sense of powerless to try make you dependent on them and their quitting methods and products. You don't need all that, you don't need to enslave yourself to paid professionals and their artifices as a swap for the drug. You need to empower yourself. If others help you with that, wonderful, but they assist the inner journey you are going to get out of this. You are going to be your own Messiah, not some cult at a hundred bucks an hour.
You got this. If you start now by reprogramming your negative affirmations with positive ones, that is step one, and you WILL gain ground and that will trigger step two which gives you more momentum.
Invoke deliberate hypocricy! While you are cooking and injecting that fix, inbetween gulps of that cheap strong booze, affirm how you want to quit and dont need this drug and that its grip on you is slipping and how much rather you do mundane things you enjoy than dealing with the drug, and pow! follow up with the shot, the suck on the glass pipe the gulp from the bottle, to fortify the words with a wrongful drug reward. This will not make you an idiot, or pathetic, quite the contrary. You are presenting your brain with a contradiction: your desire not to use and the use right at the same time. This forces your brain to pick sides between the fantastically reasonable life affirming things you say, and the flash, the high, the comedown after, the hangover. Your brain has crazy survival instincts, your brain knows better than you realize that all this chemical euphoria or numbness is dragging you down. Your body and brain will stack more and more weight into your will to quit and less and less into your will to get high.
Seriously. And the side effects, the foul taste, the itch, the comedown, it will start bugging you more and more and will take more and more wind out of the sails of the using you do.
And you are letting er rip! You are not depriving yourself of drug on willpower! But.. out of your own free will, you will start taking slightly less high doses, pushing the moment to get high back a few minutes. Not because you are straining to fight yourself, but because the meh you have about using increases as the reenforcements for use go towards reenforcements not to use.
I have walked out of several kinds of addictions with relative ease with this methods, addictions I couldnt let go for the life of me if I tried to "just quit". Undermine that mental hypnosis that hooks you to something that does so much bad things for you in so many ways. Turn it in a mental hypnosis that empowers you, not one that weakens you, and deliberate invoke the seeming hypocricy of affirming against use while using, to challenge your mind to help you more in solving this disturbing contradiction.
It starts with you, inspiring yourself to better things. Not inspiring yourself to force yourself to cut back, but inspiring the good parts of you so that the eventual cutting back will be less difficult and not such a violation of your priorities.
Its still hard but, a lot less hard to make that change if you prior to that demolish your self sabotage with self love, self empowerment and a growing conviction that yes, you not just can but WILL quit.
If I can do it, so can you!
I believe in you.
Believe in yourself.
1-page printable handout
It's not going to be a blame game. Society loves to guilt trip people with addiction. Some even say "they brought it on themselves, they should be withheld medical treatment or compassion."
Yeah, no.
When you are addicted to something, the balances in your life, your mind and your body are all askew. You are not on a level playing field with people who are healthy, just as for me, with my morbid obesity, my metabolism is definitely broken in a way that tends to result in me gaining back every pound i manage to lose, and more. That is a biological reality, the table is tilted to your disadvantage because your body broke because you overindulged in things relatively harmless in moderation.
I have had many kinds of drug addiction, not one or two or five, MANY. I know what it is. I have a good inkling of exactly how much worse it would have been if it had been heroin, crack, meth or sincere alcoholism. It would have dragged me down so much more deeply physically and mentally than the hard and soft drugs I was addicted to that didnt yet lead to the great damage that the Big 4 that create homeless addicts tend to create. It was really bad yes but, it couldve been so much worse,
Some of you reading this, into your third bottle of vodka of the day may say "well no shit dude, thanks, that is where I am now."
I have been very far gone in complex situations that included addiction, that combined, were very damn serious and very hard to get out of, taking years of struggle.
One of your companions is your enemy, for real. It is the self doubt, the self pity, the overwhelming sense of powerlessness that you cannot get it done, that is frying you so hard that it may take years before you even seriously try to quit and when you do, your mindset is a Swiss cheese full of holes that self-sabotage the robustness of your effort when you do muster the courage.
You can do something right now that is not very hard and not mumbo jumbo, well before you quit. Right now, in the frontline trench of your addiction, you can start talking courage into yourself, even when you screw another tin capsule off a bottle of booze and throw it across the room because you won't need to close that bottle, even when you cook up that shot of murky brown fluid, containing a drug that when pure is pristine white and dissolving crystal clear.
You gotta start small. Do not make the mistake of waiting until you quit, because then quitting is hardest. No matter how physically addicted you are, you are also full of psychological addiction mechanisms that greatly complicate the quitting effort. These psychological addiction mechanisms include things you say to yourself that sabotage your willpower and selfesteem and anchor your despair and depression. You know the ones if you pay attention to what goes on in you: "I can never quit, i don't have what it takes, I deserve this, there is nothing in the world but this drug for me" those kinds of thoughts you poison yourself with.
They are negative affirmations you fortify by repeating them and believing them.
That is something you can turn around. That you can't quit is pure BS, you can't say that at this point. So since you are already dishing out negative BS, how about positive BS to tip the balance?
One day soon I'm going to quit this like nobodies business, watch me!
If I am strong enough to bear with this habit I am way stronger than I think and way stronger than I need to quit!
It may seem like BS the first times you say it, but it will grow on you and you can put more and more conviction behind it, because repetition and belief invested in it will inevitably give it more traction than the negativity you are spamming out of your head, because guess what? Your mind, conscious and subconscious, is motivated to help you get out of this and you will get augmentation of parts of you you don't even realize you have. Your Higher Self and your body want you to live a good life and defeat this destructive trap.
Don't let addiction "experts" talk into your sense of powerless to try make you dependent on them and their quitting methods and products. You don't need all that, you don't need to enslave yourself to paid professionals and their artifices as a swap for the drug. You need to empower yourself. If others help you with that, wonderful, but they assist the inner journey you are going to get out of this. You are going to be your own Messiah, not some cult at a hundred bucks an hour.
You got this. If you start now by reprogramming your negative affirmations with positive ones, that is step one, and you WILL gain ground and that will trigger step two which gives you more momentum.
Invoke deliberate hypocricy! While you are cooking and injecting that fix, inbetween gulps of that cheap strong booze, affirm how you want to quit and dont need this drug and that its grip on you is slipping and how much rather you do mundane things you enjoy than dealing with the drug, and pow! follow up with the shot, the suck on the glass pipe the gulp from the bottle, to fortify the words with a wrongful drug reward. This will not make you an idiot, or pathetic, quite the contrary. You are presenting your brain with a contradiction: your desire not to use and the use right at the same time. This forces your brain to pick sides between the fantastically reasonable life affirming things you say, and the flash, the high, the comedown after, the hangover. Your brain has crazy survival instincts, your brain knows better than you realize that all this chemical euphoria or numbness is dragging you down. Your body and brain will stack more and more weight into your will to quit and less and less into your will to get high.
Seriously. And the side effects, the foul taste, the itch, the comedown, it will start bugging you more and more and will take more and more wind out of the sails of the using you do.
And you are letting er rip! You are not depriving yourself of drug on willpower! But.. out of your own free will, you will start taking slightly less high doses, pushing the moment to get high back a few minutes. Not because you are straining to fight yourself, but because the meh you have about using increases as the reenforcements for use go towards reenforcements not to use.
I have walked out of several kinds of addictions with relative ease with this methods, addictions I couldnt let go for the life of me if I tried to "just quit". Undermine that mental hypnosis that hooks you to something that does so much bad things for you in so many ways. Turn it in a mental hypnosis that empowers you, not one that weakens you, and deliberate invoke the seeming hypocricy of affirming against use while using, to challenge your mind to help you more in solving this disturbing contradiction.
It starts with you, inspiring yourself to better things. Not inspiring yourself to force yourself to cut back, but inspiring the good parts of you so that the eventual cutting back will be less difficult and not such a violation of your priorities.
Its still hard but, a lot less hard to make that change if you prior to that demolish your self sabotage with self love, self empowerment and a growing conviction that yes, you not just can but WILL quit.
If I can do it, so can you!
I believe in you.
Believe in yourself.
1-page printable handout
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