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Abstaining from masturbation/porn/sex for mental/physical benefits???

I abstained for a week recently and now I have cum stained pyjamas waiting to be washed due to the wet dream I woke up to. So the moral of the story is; you're better of enjoying a nice masturbation rather then leting a messy dream have its way with you, cause if you hold off too long it will cum out of you one way or another (pun intended).

The funny thing is though the wet dream I had was of me self sucking 8) It was a first for me and quite amusing.
 
I have gone for fairly long periods with out any orgasm. But it was due to the situation and I had no desire or thoughts of sexuality during that time. (When I was deployed during periods where I was 'outside the wire' )

On a practical note, I try not to whack off constantly because spacing out ones orgasms makes them a lot more intense when you do have one, and watching cheesy porn and splooging in your boxers all day might reduce the energy you put into meeting/spending time with and having actual sex with a partner. That said, not getting off at all sucks.. I'd say from my view, that as with many things, exercising reasonable moderation is the way to go.
 
I think that masturbating is unnatural.

Definition of UNNATURAL
1
: not being in accordance with nature or consistent with a normal course of events
2
a : not being in accordance with normal human feelings or behavior

In as far as masturbation follows with normal human behavior, and does not entail a special case of events. (stimulate penis ----> erection -----> ejaculation seems to be a normal course of events) I challenge you to supply the grounds that warrant your conclusion.
 
There is nothing wrong with masturbating frequently. It is only problematic if you starting get sores on your dick or your hands.
About 15 years ago I started to have prostate problems and took all kinds of meds to cure it.
Eventually the docs started talking about removing my prostate.
So I went for some second opinions and eventually found a doc who put me on a three month course of antibiotics and told me to masturbate as frequently as I could.
The problems have gone. So I guess it's healthy to have a regular wank.
 
In a couple more days the smallest of inconveniences will have you wanting to tear someone's head off. Orgasm is good for the mind and body, whether you do it alone or with one or more people. Try working out more if you want to increase your sex drive. I get off on average 2-4 times a day. Its pretty much necessary to maintain my sanity. I don't have the time for dating so there really isn't any other recourse. But if you're felling relaxed you might be more comfortable with women since you won't have that drive to get sex first and foremost. The caveat here though is that if you're having enough orgasms that you feel satisfied then there isn't the need to go out chasing women. Of course sex is always better than masturbation (well most often). Maybe you just aren't meeting women that do it for you physically.


woah that really sucks dude...what the hell... 2-4 times a day?? How do you get ANYTHING done?!?!

OP - the frustration you're feeling, you need to use it to focus on hte things you matter...you're bursting with sexual energy?? Go do something constructive, and when you've ticked a few things off your list and you're feeling proud of yourself, how about you use that pent up energy and go and chat up some ladies...find somewhere real to put that energy. Your hand is a fucking WASTE, unless you're practicing control of orgasm.

Trust me, if you learn to channel your sexual energy, you'll get things done...just breathe through it... then release it inside someone... If you wanna go overboard you can continue recirculating that energy...but that's LONG.
 
you have a good point kitten, i like watching porn and masturbating. and your desire for a real woman does wane a bit. you have to hold it in for as long as you can, until your ready to explode, then you can release it all in one go. then hopefully you wont need to masturbate for a good while then. do you have the same desires when it comes to men kitten, that you try to hold it as long as you can. but then you have to release all that built up tension, and succumb to masturbation.
 
I got frustrated with my sex drive and quit masturbating cold turkey for 6 months after many consecutive years of 2-3 self fulfilled orgasms daily. The next time I got laid after that I came more than I've ever seen anyone cum ever. I highly recommend waiting until your next sexual encounter to jizz. There was a noticeable increase in confidence/up swing in mood. After I got over not having it (took around a month) I felt much more stable and less nervous in social situations. Abstinence, while painful, can produce some excellent results. Once yer back on the pussy wagon tho try and time your jerks for a few hours before you bang. Makes it easier to resist cumming all up inside 30 seconds post entry lol.
 
woah that really sucks dude...what the hell... 2-4 times a day?? How do you get ANYTHING done?!?!

OP - the frustration you're feeling, you need to use it to focus on hte things you matter...you're bursting with sexual energy?? Go do something constructive, and when you've ticked a few things off your list and you're feeling proud of yourself, how about you use that pent up energy and go and chat up some ladies...find somewhere real to put that energy. Your hand is a fucking WASTE, unless you're practicing control of orgasm.

Trust me, if you learn to channel your sexual energy, you'll get things done...just breathe through it... then release it inside someone... If you wanna go overboard you can continue recirculating that energy...but that's LONG.

At least once when I wake up and once before I go to sleep, the rest is flexible. I have a high sex drive which at almost 30 doesn't seem to be showing any signs of slowing down. If I had someone to fuck regularly I'm sure that number would probably drop to zero, ha.
 
i don't know how he held it in for 2 months. he must have been at bursting point. if i saw a hot woman i would be bulging in my pants. i think i could go a couple of days max before i shot my bolt.
 
I find that when I stop masturbating for long enough:
-I don't have such a huge urge to do it, the first couple days are the hardest
-I have more physical energy for running/lifting
-When I do it again I last longer and enjoy it A LOT more, plus I am able to do two or three jacks in a roll which is exhausting but so much better and rewarding than three times over three days.
..well I need to get laid
 
I have been masturbating everyday this week due to moving in for a few weeks with a friend who I've wanted to fuck since the first time I spoke to her properly....it's hard...

BUT abstaining from orgasm for physical (and therefore also mental and emotional) benefits is something I totally believe in having tried and tested it...

In fact I'm back onto it.

It's OK getting your sexual/Qi energy pumping round, but if you release it too often, instead of channelling and recirculating it, you will find yourself sluggish, as a male.
 
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