a time in life not to achieve

[law12345]

i come from a hard-working you must do something and your best family. Well I'm 28 now and can't financially move out so it still sticks.
I am suffering severe anxiety at the moment and nervous tension which partially made me quit my last job just recently as a foreign exchange sales consultant...I also have depression.
What I want now is to either get some help getting a part-time job from the sickness benefit authorities in my country who can get you a job that they subsidise for the employer to keep you and they can help get you a cushy job with not so much pressure. I would like that. Then again I could just do a few papers studying on addiction and mental health which I am very interested in. But I'm not sure if I could get a job in one of these fields. I have been a care-giver.
I just feel like coasting a bit really but don't want my Dad to look down on me nor get angry. A sickness benefit pays for my living now-it was taken off when I had that job.

that's all

 

[herbavore]

You can't achieve much on the outside when nothing feels right inside. Sounds like what you are looking for is some space and time to deal with your depression. Can you talk to your family about that or do they interpret that as weakness? Sometimes your parents can surprise you when you are frank about what is really going on--maybe your Dad wouldn't react the way you are imagining? If he does, that's his problem. Yours, or your challenge, is not to internalize the pressure on yourself but to get help instead.

 

[Legerity]

Do what you have to do to take care of yourself. A job in itself does not have any inherent value unless it's what you enjoy doing and taking care of the mind is usually a beneficial endeavor. Doesn't really matter in the end if your dad thinks you are a success or a failure; his judgment may be based on thousands of things that have nothing to do with you.

 

[Dave]

Some people, especially (IME) older men, really espouse the 'bury yourself in work' method of ... dealing.. <cough> with troubles. If someone wants to do that, they're welcome to, but I've found that it is a horribly counterproductive thing to do. Basically, it's denial writ large.

If you can put a nail in the source of the troubles now, you'll save yourself tons of problems down the road. If that means coasting for a while, and if you're able to do so without any worries about income/sustenance/what not, then go for it. It sounds like you're still living at home, which is the perfect time to deal with such things. That's when I did it, and I can assure you that if I didn't do it then I would not have taken care of things, and would be in a far worse place than I am now. Oh, and I didn't move out until I was 29.

 

[xxsicknessxx]

I worked 7days a week for 9 years and abused the entire time. I took the last 6months off and got sober. Maybe im not working but it was worth it. I needed the time off to do it.

Do what you got to do to become healthy i say.