Yes, I look at porn. So does my GF. I am thinking it is likely due to a general interest in sex and other humans which is inherent to most peoples mental processes that drive them to do so. Nothing wrong with it.
Also; Freedom of consciousness/expression/speech/press.
every one always says porn promotes unrealistic standards.... while I agree, i also see it as setting standards. I feel that without porn or overt sexuality in the media and what have you, we would all be having sex missionary position with the lights off.
and, to answer your original question - yes, my boyfriend of almost 5 years watches porn. it never used to bother me, but i admit it's been tough not to feel emotional about it now that i have a 7-month pregnant body. i just try to remember my problem with it is about my insecurities with my currently unsexy body and is in no way a reflection of his feelings OR attraction to me. i know i'm his first option and porn his second in order of means to getting off. providing your boyfriend isn't turning you down to beat it to porn, there's no need to fret. frankly, his honesty and openess about it should assure you it's no big deal.
congrats on your baby and thank you for the site info, but i have no interest in porn at all or looking at other naked bodies other than my boyfriends. i could see how it must be more problematic when youre pregnant but im sure your boyfriend still finds you the most beautiful.
do you and your boyfriend still have sex even though your pregnant? you can PM me if you'd like just something of interest in mine because i plan on having a baby someday.
^ ah well, i tried. for me though it isn't about looking at "naked bodies" as much as watching hot sex when i want hot sex but can't have hot sex right that minute with the person i want to have hot sex with.
i think there is some parallel to watching a romantic, "The Notebook"-type film (or even reading a sultry novel) and watching porn... the first could even be described as emotional porn. (and, honestly, i feel both could set unrealistic standards for some people.) it's not that i imagine myself with someone other than my boyfriend, it's that it's a cheap, easy, immediate, uninhibited thrill that ignites a feeling of lust/sex/love/passion. i'm not trying to turn you to the porn side if it's something you're uncomfortable with, just trying to explain a bit further that, for me at least, it's not about my partner's naked body not being enough or NEEDING to look at anyone else other than him.
thank you for the congrats! yes, i agree my boyfriend is attracted to me, belly and all. rationally, i don't doubt that, but *i* don't look in the mirror and think what i see is particularly sexy. as i said before, my problem with him looking at porn is about my current insecurities. it's something i need to work on because removing my silly insecurities, i don't feel what he's doing is wrong.
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with the extra blood flow to their lady bits, many pregnant women feel sexually ravenous; i however, have not had this side effect and my sex life has been more frustrating than fulfilling. we do have sex regularly, but not as often as we both wish we were. the first issue is that i'm tired a lot and don't feel sexy so it's hard to switch my brain into sexy-time mode and keep it there. the second issue is the difficulty in maneuvering the belly. and the third issue (and i've read this is pretty typical), that although orgasm while pregnant is MUCH more intense than usual, it takes a LONG time to get there. every woman is different and every pregnancy is different, so when you’re ready for children, you very well could have a much different (and more enjoyable) experience with preggo sex.
and (although i may be stating the obvious to you) make sure “someday” is a day you’re super, duper, extra ready for. i'm in my late 20s and my boyfriend in his late 30s, and even just preparing for a child is serious, expensive, overwhelming business.
Do you watch porn, or look at naked women in magazines or on the internet?
I've been in a relationship for 9 months and my boyfriend and i have sex often. But he still looks at naked picture or seductive type pictures.
It makes me feel like i'm not enough for him.
Can a guy in a relationship please explain this to me. If you're having sex often and you're in a relationship why do men still look at porn?
yes and it bothers my significant other for the same reasons you mention but I do it anyway when I'm not getting enough sex. I want sex 3 times a day usually but it's rare that I encounter a woman that can keep up with that for very long so I end up looking at porn when I don't have a woman (not always though). I explained this to my SO recently, it's the visual. It just helps you jizz faster, it can be harder and take longer to visualize mentally. It's easy to just throw on porn get hard bust nut and go about your business. Faster, more efficient. haha this forum...
Also, porn is a safer way to satisfy the urge to fuck tons of random people you find attractive than actually fucking them all and destroying your relationship / getting stds...
also - this might sound cockish but.. I used to feel sorta bad about it cuase I knew my signifcant other didn't like it and I would try to lie about it or whatever and try to hide it alot. I still don't flaunt it but now my attitude is more kinda like 'well, if you don't like it, come suck my dick' hahaha
^ ah well, i tried. for me though it isn't about looking at "naked bodies" as much as watching hot sex when i want hot sex but can't have hot sex right that minute with the person i want to have hot sex with.
i think there is some parallel to watching a romantic, "The Notebook"-type film (or even reading a sultry novel) and watching porn... the first could even be described as emotional porn. (and, honestly, i feel both could set unrealistic standards for some people.) it's not that i imagine myself with someone other than my boyfriend, it's that it's a cheap, easy, immediate, uninhibited thrill that ignites a feeling of lust/sex/love/passion. i'm not trying to turn you to the porn side if it's something you're uncomfortable with, just trying to explain a bit further that, for me at least, it's not about my partner's naked body not being enough or NEEDING to look at anyone else other than him.
thank you for the congrats! yes, i agree my boyfriend is attracted to me, belly and all. rationally, i don't doubt that, but *i* don't look in the mirror and think what i see is particularly sexy. as i said before, my problem with him looking at porn is about my current insecurities. it's something i need to work on because removing my silly insecurities, i don't feel what he's doing is wrong.
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with the extra blood flow to their lady bits, many pregnant women feel sexually ravenous; i however, have not had this side effect and my sex life has been more frustrating than fulfilling. we do have sex regularly, but not as often as we both wish we were. the first issue is that i'm tired a lot and don't feel sexy so it's hard to switch my brain into sexy-time mode and keep it there. the second issue is the difficulty in maneuvering the belly. and the third issue (and i've read this is pretty typical), that although orgasm while pregnant is MUCH more intense than usual, it takes a LONG time to get there. every woman is different and every pregnancy is different, so when you’re ready for children, you very well could have a much different (and more enjoyable) experience with preggo sex.
and (although i may be stating the obvious to you) make sure “someday” is a day you’re super, duper, extra ready for. i'm in my late 20s and my boyfriend in his late 30s, and even just preparing for a child is serious, expensive, overwhelming business.
yes and it bothers my significant other for the same reasons you mention but I do it anyway when I'm not getting enough sex. I want sex 3 times a day usually but it's rare that I encounter a woman that can keep up with that for very long so I end up looking at porn when I don't have a woman (not always though). I explained this to my SO recently, it's the visual. It just helps you jizz faster, it can be harder and take longer to visualize mentally. It's easy to just throw on porn get hard bust nut and go about your business. Faster, more efficient. haha this forum...
Also, porn is a safer way to satisfy the urge to fuck tons of random people you find attractive than actually fucking them all and destroying your relationship / getting stds...
also - this might sound cockish but.. I used to feel sorta bad about it cuase I knew my signifcant other didn't like it and I would try to lie about it or whatever and try to
hide it alot. I still don't flaunt it but now my attitude is more kinda like 'well, if you don't like it, come suck my dick' hahaha
this does make sense too. im usually too bust throughout my day to have sex 3 times a day. and i dont really like giving out oral just cuz it makes me gag lol..
idk i think its unnecessary to masturbate after sex though, why is this needed?
I kinda am offended by it actually, I feel the women in the pictures and videos are over the top and set a standard that women have to measure up to. I'm an average looking female. i'm about 5'2" and 120lbs with a tiny waste and a big butt and like a size B bra. i feel because i dont have the big busty boobs that the porn chicks have i'm not good enough. it mainly makes me feel bad about my body.
Women porn stars often have terrible unnatural-looking breasts.
Nowadays nearly all pussies are shaven.
I'm sure many of the vaginas you see have had labia reductions.
And when was the last time you saw an excited vagina in a porn film? Most of the porn vaginas never turn a shade darker than the surrounding skin.
The women also have had every skin blemish removed.
There is no way a real woman can identify with these plastic dolls.
As for the guys, the dicks are impressive but that's about it.
Let's face porn is just an extension of the fantasy world of Playboy and Penthouse and has nothing to do with real life.
At different times in my life while in a relationship I have watched porn but it was mostly a result of me being bored and unsatisfied. I don't watch porn anymore in the current relationship I'm in. Although I didn't watch porn when I was single either. I guess I was too busy trying to nod out all the time.
I'd agree that your partner watching a lot of porn MIGHT be a warning sign, although it's completely subjective. Some people will continue to seek out porn even when they're completely sexually satisfied and other people won't.
It does seem that porn is a great outlet for those who need it. It isn't cheating, you're not interacting with anyone online even.. Although both people in the relationship should be down with it.
I think it all comes down to communication, but a lot of couples are too embarrassed to talk about their habits. We've certainly progressed sexually through the ages in some ways, but in other ways we haven't at all. It's a clash of liberty vs. morals and society just has a long way to go.
If you don't have good communication about it with your partner then that's when there are problems. Communication leads to understanding, which can give you trust (or not). Plain and simple.
If your partner is open about their porn habits then I would keep an open mind too. Just because you don't need porn when you're satisfied in life doesn't mean that everyone else thinks, feels, and works exactly the same way.
It's good to hear from a few different perspectives here. I remember my girlfriend saying to me a few years ago that out of all her friends she doesnt know of any who's long term partners use porn. My immediate thought was "Yeah because their partners are lying to them" it's seems that the reality is probably a combination of all these different perspectives: Perhaps some of them actually don't use it, some of them lie about it and some of them watch it together. Not to mention the men who do it openly but their partners don't want to admit it.
To Oates I think Alisdair summed it up best by saying "not everything is about you" I dont think any of us are trying to be a dick. Its just the reality of the situation a lot of guys use porn and it isnt necesarily because they are unsatisfied with their partner.
Also I second Fawkes's recommendation of X-Art that and would add JoyMii to that list. Even though both of them are somewhat unrealistic they arent nearly as nasty as a lot of the stuff out there. Even though some of the women are a bit on the supermodel side of things at least they seem to be enjoying themselves and the men are not some horrible beasts like you get in a lot of other porn. (Not that theres anything wrong with horrible beasts if you like that sort of thing, different strokes for different folks I suppose)
AugustaB I agree about the state of most porn out there, its pretty dissappointing but I'm not even sure if most men are that keen on the Plastic Fantastic kind of imagery. I read somewhere recently that one of the most searched for genres is Amateur Porn. I'm pretty sure that most people out there prefer sex in which both parties are aroused whether they are participating or watching...
frankly, his honesty and openess about it should assure you it's no big deal.
