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A huge crush problem, i need help with!!!!!!

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RomanZ123

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Im a bi guy who has a crush on my bestfriend who is a guy who has a gf. Im about to be in a relationship with this girl, but I still have a huge crush on him. Everytime I see him and his gf together, it annoys me. My crush on him is tearing apart my confidence and making me feel sort of worthless that they're always together. He doesnt know I have a crush on him and but he knows that Im his bestfriend and he's my bestfriend. He tells me everything & I do the same with him. I still have this girl that Im almost gonna be in a relationship with, but that won't change the feelings I have for him. WHAT DO I DO???? :?:?:? 8(8(8(8( 8o8o8o8o :X:X:X:X
 
Don't say anything to the guy. It most likely won't end as you hope and will probably ruin your friendship, or at the very least make it awkward. As for the girl, if you don't like her/ don't want to be in a relationship with her, then don't be...
 
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If you don't like her, then don't date her.

As for this guy, he's in a relationship. Try looking elsewhere and finding someone else :)
 
be careful if hes not into men and you tell him you have a crush on him this friendship will go downhill. i know from experience

dont go out with her while you fancy him that's unfair to this girl

to get over a crush you need to not be around them. that's how i have done it for myself in the past
 
RomanZ123 said:
WHAT DO I DO???? :?:?:? 8(8(8(8( 8o8o8o8o :X:X:X:X
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What to do? honestly? get a hold of your emotions.

Learn self-discipline and learn to control your thoughts, this will help deal with your emotions - to get deeper with the emotions; breath control and meditating on things can really help, along with walking away from situations you find "hurt you".

I will leave it up to you where to find the techniques for you, but as a starter NLP is good, and I highly recommend mantra, tantra and yoga...just general meditation.

It sounds very clearly that you are allowing your emotions to cloud your rational/intuitive judgement.

Good luck.
 
Is it worth possibly ruining your friendship and closeness with him? How long have you felt this way about him? Is he happy with his gf? I had a friend that I knew for 2 and half years that I'm now dating, he asked me out several months after I broke up with my last bf, and had had a crush on me the entire time we knew each other. He only asked me out because there was mutual flirting, I had had time to get over my past relationship, and he was okay with having to deal with the loss of the friendship if it came to that.

Try and really evaluate the situation, you'll feel 100x worse if you say something and you end up ruining the way you guys relate. Remember that just because you're experiencing this inner turmoil right now it in no way reflects on your self worth. It's just something uncomfortable you're having to deal with, and can learn from. Date the girl if you're interested in her, if not try and focus on yourself and enjoying life. If you're not interested in her, think about the way you're feeling about this guy, she could be feeling the same about you, then you're just leading her on.

If he breaks up with his gf, announces he's also bi, and starts flirting with you and you're still interested, then go for it, but until then save yourself the heartache and keep your friend a friend.
 
ive experienced a similar thing where ive had a crush on a friends GF and known that nothing could really come of it

and for the first 3 months it was torture every day and i could barely function, but time definately helps

and so does mindfullness meditation, B1tO'RoughJack is right about controlling your emotions, not only will this help with crushes you cant fulfill but with daily life in general
 
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