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14 year age gap

Bodda

Bodda

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I wont go into to much info as i've shared enough of my life before on another part of BL but a situation has come up where a female likes me but the age gap is 14 years.

I asked a few mates & they were split between calling my Jimmy Savile & the others were saying go for it.
General opinions etc on this issue would be great.

Guess I should say the girl is 18 btw.

Thanks in advance :)
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
Does this girl use drugs?
How long has she liked you for?
Do you like her? What for?
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No she doesn't use drugs, she is aware I smoke weed but the Psy & Opiate use isn't known about yet

We have been chatting etc for a few months & I was going to meet her a few times but changed my mind, she text me again 3 days ago & send me a message on Facebook yesterday asking where I was etc.

Yeah I like her, for her age she is a very smart person, I can kinda see myself in her at that age, I just feel a kinda "wrong" vibe with the age gap in some way.



Shadowsblaze said:
Jump on it, what can you lose by taking a chance on her.
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lol, I could loose alot from jumping on people, it took me months to get over my ex & I am still not 100% fixed yet, I could loose my heart & soul again.
 
Funny I answered that way because I've never met anyone online or used a dating service and don't know if I'd chance it either. Chalk that up tp another one of my post's that I typed before thinking of the consequences of a bad move. Maybe a background check is in order. Lol only kidding on that. Good luck with this one.
 
Bodda said:
I wont go into to much info as i've shared enough of my life before on another part of BL but a situation has come up where a female likes me but the age gap is 14 years.

I asked a few mates & they were split between calling my Jimmy Savile & the others were saying go for it.
General opinions etc on this issue would be great.

Guess I should say the girl is 18 btw.

Thanks in advance :)
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I don't see anything wrong with the age gap Bodda mate.
She is 18 so is an adult and females usually mature quicker than males. Why not just go on a few casual dates and see how you get on with each other, do you share any interests etc?
No need to commit to a full blown relationship straight away, just take your time getting to know each other better and take things from there.
A friend of mine in the past was going out with a 19 year old and he was 34 and they were a real solid couple and stayed together for about 5 years or so.
No harm in giving it a shot mate.
 
I'm 49 and my wife is 32. We have been married for 5 years and together for 7. We have never had a problem with age difference. Go slow and see what happens. Make sure she is 18 though.......just sayin'. Good luck.
 
i don't think you can generalise. it depends on the parties involved. if there's a fit, age is only an issue if you choose to make it an issue.

my last girlfriend was 9 years younger than me and my current girlfriend is 8 years younger and both relationships were/are great.

alasdair
 
It is difficult when she's 18. I mean, in 5 years, it'll be nothing. But 18 year olds... heck I'm 22 and I couldn't see myself dating an 18 year old, they are so immature. For the most part though, that is a generalization! There are mature 18 year olds. But... she's a teen... hardly an adult. It's a tough situation, I guess you're 32... hmmm what does she think?
 
If you decide that you want to pursue a relationship with her I would make sure to verify her age somehow. Alot of young girls who seem mature will lie about their age. Better safe than sorry.
 
Dude do it, where do you see the loss here. 18 is 100% consensual per US law so the legality is condoned, the only shit stain I see in sight is she is an 18 y/o girl. Most of this promised population pattern is the neediness, the constantly consumption to be center of attention. Until it starts implicating your day to day duties I would treat myself to twice the tally for bagging that brand new broad of yours.

Congrats
 
its about the meeting of minds

the issue is not age BUT more what do you want out of life and what are you looking for in a partner?
 
I wouldnt do it, especially if i had just come out of a relationship. Its not the age gap per se, it's the age gap and her being that young. Im not that old, but i see a big difference in maturity in both sexes. Now, though i enjoy looking at the younger ones, i couldnt for the life of me start a relationship with someone younger than 25. But thats just me.
Anyway the point is not the age gap, but how her age influences you.
And like other have said, a few casual dates shouldnt be too bad, and might even help you on your way to recovery
 
When I was 27 and recently separated, I saw someone who was 40. It was fun. I think 18 is young though for your age. There is a huge difference between someone who is 27 and 40 and someone who is 18 and 30s. When you're 18, you're kinda confused about what you want to do and want to experiment.

But, if you guys are into each other, I say go for it. I would go slow though, but it depends on where you are in life too. If you're just looking for a good time with no commitments, it might be great for you.
 
18 and 32 are two completely different stages of life and maturity. it's legal, but i find it hard to believe you two have enough shared interests/goals/experiences to really have a successful relationship.

badandwicked said:
She's 18 and hardly uses cannabis, you're much older and are have an on-going addiction to very hard drugs. For her sake leave her alone.
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yikes. adds a bit of perspective and reinforces my opinion.
 
Shadowsblaze said:
Funny I answered that way because I've never met anyone online or used a dating service and don't know if I'd chance it either. Chalk that up tp another one of my post's that I typed before thinking of the consequences of a bad move. Maybe a background check is in order. Lol only kidding on that. Good luck with this one.
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In all seriousness, a background check may not be necessary, but I would make absolutely certain that she is really 18 and not younger. It happens a lot meeting girls on FB and such. Like I would jokingly (but serious) ask to see an ID.
 
missmeyet? said:
In all seriousness, a background check may not be necessary, but I would make absolutely certain that she is really 18 and not younger. It happens a lot meeting girls on FB and such. Like I would jokingly (but serious) ask to see an ID.
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nice idea but "suck my cock, BUT i'll need to see some ID" has got to be one of the worst turn off's ever
 
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