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My wife is BORING in the sack

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draven1321

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Well my wife and I used to have some of the most wild and kinky sex in the past, but now for the past couple months I rather waqtch t.v. I love that woman with all my heart and would give my life for her and she knows it. How can I bring it up without pissing her off?<3
 
Have you tried seducing her? After a time, complacency sets in and the hypothetical flame will fizzle. The excitement and attraction dies, and your relationships becomes a project that you're always fixing up. That's no fun. "Hey, let's have sex" gets a little old after a while.

Communication is always key, so tell her how you feel - and yeah, when one partner suggests something new or different sometimes offense is taken, but essentially it's one of those just get over it situations. The point of sex and intimacy is to enjoy each other and be happy together.

Your attempt to diverge from the norm in an attempt to spice things up will be very receptive, I can almost assure you.
 
what changed? dead fish now?

my boyfriend always like to be on top..so i feel like im boring him sometimes, he always says otherwise though...i wish i could please him more being on top versus sucking his dick and playing with him a little...but until he says something about it i assume things are fine.
 
:pI have tried Sedusing her. I try to spice it up. I don't tell her c'mon lets go screw.(Maybe that might work) But I start off by massaging her feet then her legs then start on her back and shoulders. Then I start kissing on her neck. But it seems like it doesn't work. And if I ask her like what is up she says "nothing i'm alright". And when we get into it seems like i'm doing all the work. I( Love my wife and am so very attracted to her and only her. We both had the gastric bypass last January and she's lost 150lbs and I have lost 195lbs. And what amazes me and also amazes my wfe. Is that by dropping all this weight is that I have grown tremedously down there by 5 inches and the girth al I can say about that is Holy Shit. She told me one time it kinda hurts her but in good way. But when I was Overweight I was sooooooo ASHAMED about the size of it and got depressed knowing that I wasn't satisfying her,and thought foresure she was going tho have an affair because of it. She NEVER did. (Well I hope not) And now i'm thinner and well hung now, and I thought that might change things in our sex life. Now i'm wanting it all the time from her. As before she wanted it from me. Before we got married we had sex ALL the time. But not now. DOES ANYONE KNOW ANY TRICKS TO GET HER IN THE MOOD WHERE WE LEAVE THE ROOM FOR ATLEAST 2 DAYS?
 
Oats said:
what changed? dead fish now?

my boyfriend always like to be on top..so i feel like im boring him sometimes, he always says otherwise though...i wish i could please him more being on top versus sucking his dick and playing with him a little...but until he says something about it i assume things are fine.
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Trust me he is not BORED. We DO NOT get bored if our partner is letting us have sex with them. But do u want to switch it up?
 
You need to tell her without hurting her, because she's not a mind reader. Sometimes my boyfriend thinks I am and it makes me so mad because he won't say how he's feeling until later, and I had no idea the whole time. (Ex. he'll be mad about a comment I made, and instead of telling me "that pissed me off", he'll sit there and act weird without telling me why he's acting like that.) Try telling her, "hey I'd like to try X" or "let's switch it up, babe, do this" WHILE you're having sex. I'm not sure if you two watch porn together, but maybe you could go through some porn videos, find something you'd like to do, and watch it with her (while acting like it's the 1st time you've seen it of course). Then tell her something along the lines of, "let's do that". You need to voice how you're feeling now because otherwise it could really hurt you two in the long run. Sex isn't everything but if you don't feel that physical chemistry it can be really detrimental to your marriage. Suggest things to her without coming right out and saying "you're boring". When you two are doing your normal thing, try to switch it up DURING the "act" (lol). You can do that without even saying anything. Put her in a certain position or flip her on top, grab her hips, and show her exactly how you want her to do it. Buy her a sexy outfit, tell her that she looks so hot and you're proud of her losing all the weight and want her to wear it for you. Light candles around the room and put on some soft music..a little romance can go a long way and it could make her more open to suggestions. Be creative. There are a lot of ways to signal to her that you want to change things up a little without hurting her. Go get it!! lol ;)
 
spontaneity. buy her some sexy lingerie to wear. experiment with new positions. role play.
 
Talk to her about it. Chances are, if she can open up to you about it/is in the position where you both can both communicate (probably the problem has nothing to do with sex per se)then you both will sort 'it' out and chances of physical 'communion' will be an intuitive, attractive option. :)

BTW why would you fear her being 'pissed off', I mean, if she is your wife(and I assume you arent twelve); then why fear that... unless she is completely loco? Her being pissed off and 'allowed' to vent(obviously within reason) that is only going to help the whole situation for you both. ;)
 
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Max Power said:
spontaneity. buy her some sexy lingerie to wear. experiment with new positions. role play.
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Buying her sexy lingerie is an awesome idea. I would love it if my bf did that ... I would get in the mood pretty quickly ;p
New positions ... yes that helps.
Different locations. Forget the bed ... try the living room, couch, shower, kitchen, outdoors, whatever.
 
llama112 said:
Buying her sexy lingerie is an awesome idea. I would love it if my bf did that ... I would get in the mood pretty quickly ;p
New positions ... yes that helps.
Different locations. Forget the bed ... try the living room, couch, shower, kitchen, outdoors, whatever.
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Oh yes. As soon as I told my girlfriend I'd like to buy her something sexy to wear and asked her to pick out some stuff she liked, she actually opened up with a bunch of other stuff she wanted to do in bed which I never thought I'd hear her say. :D
On the whole I'd recommend trying to talk to her openly about what she would really like and what she's thought of doing sometimes but never dared or got around to executing.
 
Asclepius said:
BTW why would you fear her being 'pissed off', I mean, if she is your wife(and I assume you arent twelve); then why fear that... unless she is completely loco?
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I'm scared of her. I don't feel like having a cast iron skillet knocked up on the side of my head again..... Just kidding. She is just very sensitive about certain situation
 
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dont say " hey it is boring to fuck you" say something like " i wanna spice things up in the bed hunny"
 
Dont say jackshit or mention the word BORING anyway if you value your ballbag. You need to get out of the house here. Maybe its the surroundings, change it up. Outdoor sex could be an option or just somewhere new.
 
Okay so it isn't WISE to tell her that I get better action out of my right hand than her. I'm just kidding would never tell her that. But definately say something about "spicing things up". Thank You everyone for the ADVICE.
 
go for the 3some, if she sucks there too then you may have to find a new woman. Or add more partners. Watch porn with her or something, giver her ideas and load her up on stimulants. You want to spice things up? Methamphetamine.
 
We use too do meth around 8 years ago, and our sex life was AMAZING back then. I would rather to NEVER have sex again than bring that poison back into our relationship ever again. She quit when she found out that she was pregnant. But I didn't I just kept doing it, and the way I treated her while being on it. It came so very close to tearing up my family. So meth is out. But will think about the 3some tho.
 
Tell her how you want to do various said kinks again?

I've never used crystal meth but I have friends who did and they said how it made them very horny, and lowered their inhibitions sexually.

I don't believe that stimulants somehow make one into "dark sex" like it was claimed in a documentary about meth that I saw since if someone is into dark sex they're going to be into it sober or at least think and fantasize about it.
 
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