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Things You Wish People Told You Before Becoming Addicted

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SawRED

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Just thought this could be a helpful thread for some people who are just starting down the long shitty road of addiction. I think most people feel like they know what they are getting into but really have no idea.

For me one big thing that nobody addressed is how well drugs work at masking other problems. I think I figured that doing opiates would just be like getting drunk, a way to get fucked up for a little while and not think about your problems. I thought that the problems that come from addiction stem from needing more of the drug and thus money, relationships, and etc. fall by the wayside (which don't get me wrong definitely can happen). But what I did not understand is that being on opiates all the time changes the way you think. You feel like you've solved all your problems because you can't comprehend emotion. Anything that happens that is bad just isn't a big deal anymore and for some reason you feel like your head is so clear and your feeling so good you don't realize that the drug is what is making you think this way. The next big realization is that it is all temporary. At first this works remarkably well but unlike what i had expected that my issues would stem from the physical addiction and so forth, the bigger problem hit me. Even as my tolerance grew and i needed to take more and more to get high the drug no longer solved my problems no matter how much i took. You start feeling depressed and sometimes can't even explain why.

I am now relatively sober but i really wish somebody had told me that there is no coming back from addiction. I hate when people say that because
I think as anyone who wants to recover from addiction you need to believe you are in control of who you are and what you do and dont need.
But none the less there is some unfortunate truth to that statement. Once you dip your toes in the water the temptation will always be there and it might not hit you in the way you expect but it will always be a part of you.

Anyways I hope this may help some people who haven't yet fallen victim to the worst parts of addiction. However everyone is welcome to add things to this list cause im sure there is much more I am forgetting or have not had personal experience with.
 
... people tried. immensely. and failed.

No one could tell me *anything* to ever make me stop using. I doubt I could have even grasped where my drug use would have lead. I was always like 'lol relax it's under control'.

Oh also, I actually thought I was invincible. Haha teenage ignorance!

Sadly, some lessons you have to learn the hard way.
 
I still think I'm "invincible." I have played quite freely with benzos for over a year with no problems regulating my usage for maximum safety. Same thing with alcohol use. I can binge drink for a week and then go six months without a drop no problem.

So that leaves opiates left for main addiction potential. Fortunately, or unfortunately, don't have access to any.

The only way I could see myself becoming a true abuser or addict would be if all else went wrong with my life that I did not but try to mask my pain through drugs. But experience and time has taught me that that will not work and make everything worse.
 
**hAyzzZZ** said:
... people tried. immensely. and failed.

No one could tell me *anything* to ever make me stop using. I doubt I could have even grasped where my drug use would have lead. I was always like 'lol relax it's under control'.
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Yup. I definitely wasn't ignorant of addition when I starting using drugs. It was more "no way that shit will happen to me, I have willpower! addicts are weak I have control of the situation."

funny how that worked out
 
I wish someone had just told me to NEVER USE A NEEDLE. I didn't even like Roxies that much until I tried injecting one. shooting up was just too good.
 
They told me but I thought I was different. Wouldn't have listened anyway
 
I wish I had been told how my use of heroin would cost me nearly every friend I had. I have never stolen from my friends or anyone for that matter.
By insulating myself away from everyone due to just wanting to get high I cut myself off from all my straight friends and have lost all but one of my old friends.
But i can say that this one friend is the best friend you could ever wish for
 
SawRED said:
Just thought this could be a helpful thread for some people who are just starting down the long shitty road of addiction. I think most people feel like they know what they are getting into but really have no idea.

For me one big thing that nobody addressed is how well drugs work at masking other problems. I think I figured that doing opiates would just be like getting drunk, a way to get fucked up for a little while and not think about your problems. I thought that the problems that come from addiction stem from needing more of the drug and thus money, relationships, and etc. fall by the wayside (which don't get me wrong definitely can happen). But what I did not understand is that being on opiates all the time changes the way you think. You feel like you've solved all your problems because you can't comprehend emotion. Anything that happens that is bad just isn't a big deal anymore and for some reason you feel like your head is so clear and your feeling so good you don't realize that the drug is what is making you think this way. The next big realization is that it is all temporary. At first this works remarkably well but unlike what i had expected that my issues would stem from the physical addiction and so forth, the bigger problem hit me. Even as my tolerance grew and i needed to take more and more to get high the drug no longer solved my problems no matter how much i took. You start feeling depressed and sometimes can't even explain why.

I am now relatively sober but i really wish somebody had told me that there is no coming back from addiction. I hate when people say that because
I think as anyone who wants to recover from addiction you need to believe you are in control of who you are and what you do and dont need.
But none the less there is some unfortunate truth to that statement. Once you dip your toes in the water the temptation will always be there and it might not hit you in the way you expect but it will always be a part of you.

Anyways I hope this may help some people who haven't yet fallen victim to the worst parts of addiction. However everyone is welcome to add things to this list cause im sure there is much more I am forgetting or have not had personal experience with.
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Nobody could have told me anything that would have changed my mind. I heard it all. The tired junkie speeches about "you don't wanna go down this road, kido" etc. etc. It all just sounds like annoying bull shit coming from people who could never understand you, and that went through shit that in no way could happen to you...Thats the mentality most of us have before we start using, especially if you started as a kid like I did, where you're even stupider.

Something about certain peoples personalities, mine included, just make it so we have to walk through the shit ourselves, no amount of warning or prophetic advice would have changed that. So yeah, no one could have changed my mind, because people tried. I knew what I was doing, saw the documentaries on heroin addiction, etc etc. I grew up in an enlightened age full of information overload. The bad shit was out there, I just didn't believe it would happen to me or understand how bad it really would be if it did.
 
Same here. I wasnt trying to hear anyone, anything, any advice, whatever. I knew more than anyone (thought i did). 4 years later my addiction brought me to my knees. thank God that I have almost 4 months clean. I have (almost) NO desire to use at this point. I never want to go back to that life, that ball and chain. But kids/people who are just starting down this road to hell arent going to look here. when you're starting to use you dont think YOU can EVER be an addict. Thats for people on the side of the street right? wrong, wake up people using opiates, be VERY CAREFUL. It sneaks up like a thief in the fucking night and ruins your life. You'll lose your friends,your money, reputation, name it, everything you love, have passion for, you'll LOSE IT. I wish someone had pounded that into my skull. But some people need to go thru the shit themselves. I pray things will be ok for the "pre-addict" who might read this. Im not into telling people what or what not to put into their own body, but please be careful, listen to us who have been down this road and had to painfully (physically,mentally) fight our way back. BE CAREFUL
 
I know its a lie, because I know anyone and most ppl become addicted to things. My thing is im addicted to having a buzz or any kind, i cant stand being sober. I always say "I can stop if I want any time", "Im not a addict until Im strung out all day and stealing money" Even though a lot of times I empty my band account just for drugs. But I also think one person has to be ready to stop to be able to stop.
 
I wish I would of understood what physical withdrawl really felt like I always thought "why dont you guys just chill out it cant be that bad" Shit I remember the first time I got sick its comical looking back i was like telling my friend who had been doing dope for awhile how bad my back hurt and he was just like I told you so. I dunno when people say its like the flu I say bullshit that is not a good way to explain it at all it is so much more real and in your face then the flu. But like others have said I had my mind made up no amount of speechs was going to stop me from gettin addicted
 
There is absolutely nothing that anyone could have told me that would have changed me getting addicted to drugs. Especially "you'll never look at life the same". Because I think number one that is not true. And even if it is true to an extent it can still be a good thing.

Example. I have already gone through a hardcore addiction to meth and aquired lots of clean time off of it. It IS true that going into sobriety, and in the begining of abstinence that I did NOT look at life the same. But after 2-3 years you start to realize its not the drugs so much that effect you not seeing things the same, its GROWING UP that does that. And when I finally did get sober off speed, fuck, I viewed life so much better than before I ever got addicted. I was stronger, more resilient, less of an introvert, etc etc. Of course I had to go through a huge down slope at first but I knew there was nothing else that speed had to offer me and it was more of a liberation getting sober than how some people in here are making sobriety out to sound.

Sobriety is certaintly NOT a bad thing. Sobriety was about 1000 times better than using we just like to tell ourselves boldfaced lies like that cause thats the drugs talking imo. But on drugs or not, if enough years go buy, you are not going to see life the same regardless of if you are using or not.

Anyway about the topic, people told me everything I already needed to know. Where I fell short was my arrogance. If someone told me "coming off opiates you will be depressed and in a world of pain", I'd tell myself "well you are a weak pussy, I'm a strong mfkr, so I will not be in any world of pain like you were". That aspect of preaddiction was really immaturity more than anything. If I had got addicted at later years, being told the same thing, I might have been able to be more open about my own shortcomings and not so willing to take that initial risk. I would have comprehended that I wasn't in fact imortal (like I though when I was 16 and starting using) and maybe I wouldn't be in the situation I am today.

But please people don't ever fool yourself into thinking its too late to stop drugs. It never fucking is. You DON'T develop the same as other people do when you are a hardcore addict, but you DO still develop other areas of life experience. Like a nonaddict may have less empathy for other people cause they've never been addicted but they have more work experience doing something specific cause instead of using drugs they worked. But who the fuck is to say that person really has anything more than you do?
So what if they had a social life and are more social now because of it? Or have more friends or more money in the bank? Start focusing on all the strengths addiction gave you rather than just the weaknessess. Addicts are persistence and determined mfkrs for starters. When an addict sets their mind to something 100% nothing will stop them from achieving their goal (I can joke and say like finding their drugs but theres much more besides that that we do not focus on). Addicts also tend to have a lot of empathy and compassion for people. Sure they can be selfish but thats mainly during use. Sometimes I think addicts almost have to use because they were born with special sensitivities that the normal avg person was not.

Please people though if you are struggling cause you are sober don't ever believe for a second that you are trapped in anyway. Hate the drugs and hate the reason you used them, but don't fucking hate yourself. I only say this because I've seen some people get clean off all sorts of drugs, long term hardcore addictions. Then one day they literally wake up and get clean. Go through a few years of fucked up emotions, spiritual reawakenings and what not, and go on to do things with their life that are just fucking amazing. I know this one guy that just travels around the world now getting paid to speak at rehabs. Guy has the ability to make you break down in tears or laugh so hard you crap your pants. One of the most amazing speakers I've ever heard in my life. That guy got that ability and compassion ONLY through his addiction. Addiction can and DOES do incredible things to peoples personalities. It is one experience that if you survive you can really go on to do inspiring things with your life. And yeh its not easy, but don't ever convince yourself you are broken because as much as we like to believe that drugs can break the human spirit, they can NOT. Nothing can do that to your spirit except yourself imo. There is hope. Theres lots of fucking hope. You just need to get your head out of the sand and see it (for anyone feeling hopeless in their addiction that is, not anyone specific).

-Bo
 
I just wished someone told me the truth I guess. The truth being that heroin will destroy your life. There is no such thing as a social heroin user.

Also I wish someone told my boy (a real good pal) that he needs to stay awake, that he shouldn't mix benzos and opiates. That he will be missed if he takes those pills and smokes that shit. I miss him. :(
 
The problem is twice because starting opiates makes you so much more arrogant and confident than you already were before using.


Personally I wish you could sit someone down and just transport them into ten to twenty minutes of full on heroin withdrawal. And when they get out, tell them that that will happen to them every day they dont use, and that the real thing doesnt stop after twenty minutes.
 
"Take the drug , Don't let the drug take you"

Not sure if this is a saying someone else has invented , i come up with it when i was 14 and first tried cannabis , since then this saying has prevented me from even touching certain drug's simply because
i know i have an addictive personality and that if i ever touched a drug like heroin , its not hard to believe i would become addicted..mind you i have tried a shit ton of drug's but tend to try and avoid
certain ones , the list of drugs ive tried include things such as...

MDMA , Speed , Weed , LSD , Ox blood , Ice (didint touch much tho because i know how addictive it can become) , MDA (and all the other wonderful chemical's found in today's pill's such as ketamine)

Anyway the point of this comment was purly for my initial quote and that i hope it helps someone the same way it has helped me over my drug use.
 
There's not really anything I wish people had told me. People warned me about the risks and point out when I don't seem to be in control of my behaviour. But there's nothing that could have been said to prevent it. It's just something I have to go through myself. And I wouldn't really change anything because it's through my addictions that I've learned most of the things that i've learned about myself.
 
Just a thank you note to all of the contributors to this thread...I printed this out for a friend's GF who, like me, is "playing" with ice with an experienced user (my mate, her BF) just as an information.

She read it all out to her BF and I. My intention had been for her to read it; I expceted Adam (my mate) to be dismissive off it as "old hat".

I watched my mate's reaction (a past heroin addict, now a regular ice user) as she read it out. He is not much a 'words' person but the effect of all of your words was extraordinary.

Sure, at first he was saying "I know that" and occasionally "bullshit".

Then, slowly he just started listening, really listening.

Now he is thinking how all of his experiences can have an effect on others...I offered to write a blog of his thoughts if he wanted but now he wants to do it himself...

So, thank you to you all...your words, simple and honest reached someone who generally is sceptical about the power of words and set off a real light bulb moment for another human being who is finding new purposes to his life each and every day...

Thank you!
 
I wish someone would have told me what it feels like to watch your mother crying uncontrollibly because she blames herself for you being in hostital having 2000mg of tram pumped out of you. I have never felt worse, and dont believe I ever could.
 
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