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Just got evicted sitting in sheriffs car wtf help

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xstayfadedx

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They were using too much force when I just asked to get dressed and put my fucking kittens in the bathroom....and my moms arrested we're going to a teen youth place i am sitting outside in the car typing fast before i leave im fuckin pissed they were goin gto arrested me too for putting my kittens in the bathroom and like seriously had three cops on me and now im fucking crying in the back of this sheriff car my sister says we should try to run right now..

im still outside my house on my school laptop but im so fucking pissed and omfg im going to go lose it.

they seriously pulled my wrist in that super hard way and one cop was pulling my body this way and the other cop the other way when i just asked to put my kittens in the bathroom and get dressed even with the door open so they didnt think anything was gonna happen and they used that force on me and then they called us two black girls....im fucking pissed right now i seriously was about to fight the cops which i did at some point but im crying right now too because this isnt right.

and my step father and step brother are sitting in a van up the street watching and laughing.
 
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my mom is fucking arrested and i dont know whats going to happen to our pets or anything and im crying so much......my step father is so abusive and controlling..
 
xstayfadedx said:
my mom is fucking arrested and i dont know whats going to happen to our pets or anything and im crying so much......my step father is so abusive and controlling..
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Why where you arrested as in whats the charge? As i am not there i really can't bust you out of the cop car so I'll just tell you to keep your eyes and ears open for anyway the pigs might fuck up and they fuck up often. Have they read you your rights and the charges? They can't just haul someone off to jail without saying what the charge is.
 
Ask them if you're under arrest. If you're not under arrest, you may go where you please.

If you're under arrest, then they must book you on charges.
 
Oh shit guys help asap my sister and I ran from dcf at the police station and are at a friends house....fuck I can't believe I ran from the place we just got out the room and left. They said they were going to put us in a placement home. I was like no our father can take us or like a friend but they only cared about going home for the night so my sister and I escaped and now I'm at a friends.

we were not arrested but taken away cause we're minors but we just left the place so yea we might be screwed but we escaped from the police stations....we were upstairs with the child service people who were going to place us.

my mom is arrested though they didnt let me speak to her! so we just like escape like ran found a staircase ran out building full spead laptop in hand....and ran into my friends father who drove me to my friend's sarah so now we're waiting here. im scared right now dont know what to do.
 
Stayfaded, hang in there. How old is your sister? While I am glad you got to safety, considering that you are minors, DCF is going to be involved wherever you end up. You mentioned it's only a couple of weeks until you go to college. I don't know the laws in your area, but as of right now, you and your sister might be considered runaways and whomever gives you shelter without it going through DCF could conceivably face charges themselves.

Can you get hold of your dad? Perhaps he can call DCF and intervene? Do you have any other relatives in the area? Usually after intake DCF does their best to place a minor with family, particularly if another parent is in the area. You can absolutely file a complaint with the authorities if the cops used excessive authority or made racial slurs against you.

You've got too much ahead of you in the near future (and your sister to think about) to go on the run this way. I hope that together with the people that care about your family's well-being that you find a solution to this sooner rather than later.
 
I don't know like they said she was resisting arrest and trespassing and they were going to arrest us too and now we're runaways and the cops are coming to get us right now ): now I'm fucked and my sister too. Guys wish me the best of luck. I'm going to the police station soon my friends mom had to talk to them or else she would be introuble for holding runaways.

my sister is 16 and im 17 we're runaways now so we're basically fucked.

but our dad can't do anything until tomorrow and our other family doesn't have any idea on what to do ):

im super depressed im like fuck everything at this point of time and if anything happens to our pets im just gonna jump off a bridge, being serious right now.
 
Please don't resort to suicide. I'm sure that my above post explains why your friend's mom couldn't legally keep you both in her custody without DCF's approval. Perhaps she can ask that it be granted on an emergency basis until your dad can do something? I truly don't know enough about the system in your state to give a more informed answer. Just stay strong, and wherever you are placed, remember they DO try to keep siblings together and place with a family member when possible. It is truly awful what happened to you. I hope that your mom gets out soon and all of you can be reunited, without the asshole stepfather in the picture.
 
Idk anything about DCF or that shit, but can your friend's mom at least take your pets?

Good luck hun, keep us posted. <3
 
-Don't say anything to the police. Do not make any statements if you are arrested. Demand to speak to your attorney (even if you don't have one). Do not sign any confessions, statements, etc. Tell your mom to do the same. Don't make any statements or sign any documents until you have spoken to an attorney. The police are infamous for offering people a "deal" or something like that. Don't fall for it. It is always a trap.

When they say "anything you say can and will be used against in a Court of Law", they mean it.

Best of luck. <3
 
NeighborhoodThreat said:
-Don't say anything to the police. Do not make any statements if you are arrested. Demand to speak to your attorney (even if you don't have one). Do not sign any confessions, statements, etc. Tell your mom to do the same. Don't make any statements or sign any documents until you have spoken to an attorney. The police are infamous for offering people a "deal" or something like that. Don't fall for it. It is always a trap.

When they say "anything you say can and will be used against in a Court of Law", they mean it.

Best of luck. <3
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A most excellent post, you should tell anyone involved.

Hope you and your kittens are doing well <3
 
I would just tell what friends you have around about this and stay on the move, never lingering in any one place for too long to wear out your welcome. I'm not saying be a ridiculous fugitive, but just couch surf for a hot minute.
Also maybe try to get a haircut and change the color, maybe some new clothes?

and dont tell the police ANYTHING. Not a lie, not a truth, not an overly emotional rant, not small-talk about the weather NOTHING.

Where's your college going to be at? It'd be a shame for you to miss that for this bullshit.

Also don't even consider killing yourself over this. This is a major shock to your living conditions, yes, but it's not the end of the world.
Try to talk to someone in the government OTHER than a young punk cop, most of those guys have no idea about important things, and try to explain your situationl, especially how your step-dad was for some reason sitting in the car down the street laughing as this all was going on..(wtf..?). Are there any youth outreach programs for at risk kids?
Also, I know it might be hard, but seriously try to have fun with the situation. Or at least make the most out of it. Don't use this as an excuse to spiral down into deep depression or suicidality or heavier drug use. Use this as an opportunity to stand on your own two feet and carve out a life for yourself at all costs. And maybe try declaring emancipation or something to get the law back on your side. You could cite your awful home life, your desire to go to college, and this whole situation as reasons why you'd rather just take care of yourself and sister. Stay strong, stay calm, use your brain, don't make any actions out of fear.
 
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Cyc said:
Ask them if you're under arrest. If you're not under arrest, you may go where you please.

If you're under arrest, then they must book you on charges.
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They have 24 hours (or 48 hours on weekends) in which they can hold you without a charge being filed in the first appearance for show cause and bail hearing. (At least as standard under Canadian law)

They also have discretion to arrest someone during the execution of a warrant or other court order. (Such as an eviction) without a charge and to be released from custody as soon as the execution of the process is over.

There is also arrest and detention on the grounds of finding out your identity.

That said, you should ask them if you are under arrest or investigative detention. If not, you can leave, if you are, you must be told the reason for your arrest or detention and told your rights and given access to council.

Is your mom charged? Also don't fight...then you'll be charged with obstruction, assault police and resist arrest. Which is probably not your desired outcome.

I hope everything turns out semi okay...it sucks your evicted, but I hope your not facing criminal prosecution.

Since you where not in custody, you should not face any trouble for having left/ran away.

From reading your post, the use of force was simply control holds/open handed impact. That would generally not be seen as excessive. Any slurs about your race/religion/background/socioeconomic status/age/etc however would, here, be improper behaviour on their part.
 
They will definitely be punished about the racial thing, play that to your advantage. Cops are generally big headed and feel like they can do anything. They can't, they still have to follow some rules. I recently had a run in with some cops myself. The less you say, the less they have against you. They will try to intimidate you to the best of their abilities. Don't let them. After all, you have so much time ahead of you.
 
LogicSoDeveloped said:
They will definitely be punished about the racial thing, play that to your advantage. Cops are generally big headed and feel like they can do anything. They can't, they still have to follow some rules. I recently had a run in with some cops myself. The less you say, the less they have against you. They will try to intimidate you to the best of their abilities. Don't let them. After all, you have so much time ahead of you.
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That is putting it lightly... de jure Peace Officers have to follow a huge amount of rules. Starting at the Federal level and going all the way down to departmental policy and orders. I do not know the dept or state you are in, or I would do a quick bit of looking up the relevant regulations and laws governing police.
 
do not mention suicide otherwise they have to keep you in a special enviroment. get a lawer try to get one of the media( tv. newspapers). try to get to an animal hostage guy keep contact to your father and family to have something if they ask who can take responsible for you. try to act reasonable. be polite and find someone of the cops who is not completly insane.how can they act like this? unbelivable. and what your stepfather is doing(watching and laughing) a lawer can use this against them( menthal punsichment or so) please stay reasonable.good luck
 
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