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Describe your love life:)

Yea I guess you are right. She DOES know about me...and i have found out that he was telling me one thing and her another. So you are completely right. It is just hard to put my heart back together and move on
 
Celibate

I used to have a good sex life and loved having sex whenever I could. Then my wife passed away 9 years ago.
Since that day I have not had any sex at all. Its not that I have not had the chance to but I have chosen not to. I can honestly say that I don't miss it anymore and I have stayed single by choice for the last 9 years. I feel that my life is a lot less complicated without sex and I have learnt to enjoy being single.
Before my wife died i had never been single for long since leaving school as had always been in fairly long term relationships.
I used to think sex was important for a happy life but I found out that isn't true for me at least.
 
up in the air right this second! slowly reeling from a somewhat brief but initially emotionally-charged & overall emotionally draining liaison which cropped up literally out of the blue. the attraction blew out almost as quickly as it struck, with a comparable yet almost incomprehensible level of force...whereas the inception had been a pleasant surprise, the downfall was just an upsetting series of shocks to a thrice-overloaded, delicately dysfunctional system. not ideal but beyond one's control all the same :| even though I did see even from the start how conflicting life factors would surely somehow bring about an unceremonious end, I guess I just didn't anticipate that the end was in fact so near in sight (given the strength & vigor with which things had first begun to develop). but it just goes to show how unpredictable the romantic rollercoaster really is - no matter how many times you've ridden it, the twists & turns are still capable of taking you by scary surprise! I've still got my heart in tact though I daresay I've have had a few bits chip off 'round the edge in light of the spontaneous explosions that took place both inside & out...

& I say up in the air because I've got my sights set on making a well-timed & in many respects well overdue move on establishing a relationship with my dream partner. he recently quit his job (after being enslaved to it for over 3 years, during which time he hasn't been involved with anyone) which was the main obstacle from us ever getting closer than friends, despite me having worked out long ago that he was the only person I could honestly see myself having a future with - he does it for me on levels that no other partner or potential partner has come near replicating, let alone bettering! it's just phenomenally scary for those reasons, let alone having to actually bust out of the friend zone & my dreamy 'comfort' distance zone & take action after growing a tad complacent with the slow-burning speed of things! now I KNOW is the last opportunity I'm going to get for a while (since he only has another 5 weeks left of paid leave before beginning a new role that has yet to be established!) to get things off the ground, and obviously THE SOONER, THE BETTER!! If I weren't so emotionally spent, I'd be firing ahead all guns blazing without even thinking twice. I guess it just doesn't seem real, and as ready as I've felt in the past (strongest affinity I've ever felt for anyone in terms of destiny), I can't seem to stop floundering! ahhhh. I know what I need to do, though, and I know I can't handle another 3 years of mediocre relations when the real thing is hovering closer than it ever has been before me for the taking.... lord give me strength!!!!
 
gf and i are a few weeks from our 1 year anniversary. there's nothing i want (love, sex, time with friends, etc) that i don't get. she's incredibly strong-willed, and yet there's never been a time i've asked her to do something for me that she hasn't done. i've been in several other long term relationships and have never had someone love me like this.
 
In one word - awesome :) we've been together a year now, I met him just after breaking with my ex, a large part of the reason we broke up was our incompatible sex drives (mine high, as I'm sure many of you have noticed! While he would have been happy with once a month, and wasn't into any of the BDSM kinks I'm into).

With the current bf it was just sex for the first few months. He fell for me and wanted a relationship straight away but I was too busy going on dates and making up for lost time! Then I realised I do have feelings for him and slowly we both made the commitment for each other. He's 9 years older than me so I feel like I'm with someone who knows himself, knows what he wants, he resolved most of his issues and I don't feel like I'm looking after a confused boy like I did with some of my exes... but even though he's a "man" he's also very sensitive and while we are both independent people we allow ourselves to be open and vulnerable with each other. Even when we disagree we look out for each other and not say those awful hurtful things people can say in fights. We can also be very playful, silly and extremely cuddly! We just fit well together. We even go crazy over the way the other person's sweat smells or the way they taste, seriously it's like this animal chemical reaction.

Our sex is just out of this world, I've never felt so satisfied. It can be very abusive and dirty or very loving, we sometimes top and sometimes bottom, have occasional threesomes, are open to each other's bi sexual sides... and he's a martial arts trainer with an amazing body and lots of gorgeous tattoos I'm just crazily into him... and he can't leave me alone either, we usually have sex at least twice a day if we're around each other...

We're also non-monogamous, which has made our connection and love stronger because we're both able to express ourselves sexually with other people as well as each other. Giving each other that freedom feels so generous and special that we're both very grateful and appreciative of what we have and give each other. Suddenly jealousy, possessiveness etc. become non-issues. It's all out in the open and make sexuality playful and exciting. Sure it hasn't been simple and as there are so few open relationships out there it took a while to get it right so both of us feel secure. But we're pretty much there now, and negotiating boundaries has meant we've really thought about what are relationship means to both of us and appreciate how happy we make each other.

I'm 31, he's 40, we're both divorced and both have had many partners in the past, and both of us feel like we've never had it so good- sexually and emotionally :)
 
lola said:
He's 9 years older than me so I feel like I'm with someone who knows himself, knows what he wants, he resolved most of his issues and I don't feel like I'm looking after a confused boy like I did with some of my exes...
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This is one of the most awesome parts of dating an older guy. It's so true. None of the emo bullshit, but if they do, you know to stay away from the older guys because they are probably bullshitting you. Lots of + to dating an older guy for sure.
 
Describe my love life? Besides mondo masturbate sessions? Occasionally I get to have real intercourse. But I don't think I can really type out everything that happened last time I was with Mr. Bringsthecock....
just too much to say.
 
Well ... I'm incredibly in love with my boyfriend. Almost everything is going great. The only problem is that we don't have much sex. We both love sex but we only see each other on weekends and there is so much to do on the weekends!! We have to keep working on that. Besides that, everything just seems "right". We are honest with each other. We just "get" each other. We're not jealous or anything. We respect each other. We can count on each other. He is a best friend and a boyfriend and everything :)
 
trying to resurrect a fresh pheonix so to say

was 17 years single before ending a relationship with a girl who wasn't who she pretended to be, realized what i've missed

strange doesn't really interest me, i do go for the hunt sometimes

but i'm looking for a serious girl to atleast last me my final year of high school, depending on college maybe longer
 
My current love life is this -

I have this woman who I met 5 years ago, through some friends, and was amazed at her energy - but she's seriously goddess-gorgeous, so me being not self confident (was always intimidated by her beauty til last year I realized that I had some real strong feelings for her) got to know her slowly but never made a move.

She's now in a relationship but I told her how I feel, and I'm working up to making her mine, by just being myself and feeling pretty sure that when I'm focussed she will be attracted to MY creative energies/

If not - well, there's plenty more fish in the sea - I'm a lot more self assured these days, so I have gals on my case a lot - I've just got a lot pickier (damn right!) - and I can take my pick of ones to get to know a bit better.

Have been trying to focus on my art and building a house though, so love life has taken a back seat - I'm happy with how it is though. <3
 
Dunno.. sort of deciding what i want to do.. went from slut to gf to dumped, thinking i might just chill for a while.. ive been on the pussy buzz for a while, i need a holiday.
 
My love life right now is actually the best it has ever been. I found this amazing guy and I love him <3 Couldn't have asked for anyone else. This relationship is serious and I'm happy to be done with those guys who just led you on and weren't worth your time.
 
ugh. love life is so confusing at the moment.
my bf and i have been together for 4 years, and it's been wonderful. like, i want to marry the guy. but this summer came around and i've been meeting new people, and several of them are sexy "bad boys"/drug dealers/psychonauts/etc. and they're all i've been able to think about. so about a month ago i broke things off with my bf so i could be single for awhile, and i'm just horny horny horny all the time! it's like a curse. and all i wanna do is go fuck these miscreants. meaningless, fun sex. it's like i've been locked up in a cage for the past 4 years (albeit, a very comfy and delightful cage) and now i just want to get out for awhile and be free.
BUT i still want my boyfriend. i don't want to lose him. i don't want him to get over me and then when i get all this promiscuousness out of my system, him not be there anymore. i still love the guy SO much. i'm so confused and i'm running out of time. i have to choose him or the single life and i risk losing the man of my dreams.
so frustrated! :(
 
Lysis said:
This is one of the most awesome parts of dating an older guy. It's so true. None of the emo bullshit
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It's really a damn shame how most younger guys can give the rest of us decent younger guys a bad rep.

I have almost exclusively been with older women, hell, when i was 19 I was seeing a 33 year old with a son.

She was a bit reluctant at first, given the age gap but I told her just to forget the age gap and enjoy what quality time we have together for what it is. She ended up falling for me, I fell for her temporarily but it just couldn't work with her ex being absolutely livid so it had to end inevitably as it caused too much volatility for the son, which was truly a shame.

But I have always much, much preferred the company of older women. I generally tend to just connect a lot better with women much my senior.

But yeah, anyway, it really is a irritating when so many petty, immature and disrespectful, selfish men give the rest of us a bad name!

longtimesunshine said:
ugh. love life is so confusing at the moment.
my bf and i have been together for 4 years, and it's been wonderful. like, i want to marry the guy. but this summer came around and i've been meeting new people, and several of them are sexy "bad boys"/drug dealers/psychonauts/etc. and they're all i've been able to think about. so about a month ago i broke things off with my bf so i could be single for awhile, and i'm just horny horny horny all the time! it's like a curse. and all i wanna do is go fuck these miscreants. meaningless, fun sex. it's like i've been locked up in a cage for the past 4 years (albeit, a very comfy and delightful cage) and now i just want to get out for awhile and be free.
BUT i still want my boyfriend. i don't want to lose him. i don't want him to get over me and then when i get all this promiscuousness out of my system, him not be there anymore. i still love the guy SO much. i'm so confused and i'm running out of time. i have to choose him or the single life and i risk losing the man of my dreams.
so frustrated! :(
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Please, please whatever you do, do not string him along.
You are in a tough situation where you feel you need liberating freedom to do as you please and must cater to that desire, but seriously have a long, hard think about what you really want so he knows where he stands instead of being left in the dark whilst you enjoy a vibrant sex life.

It's not a decision easily rushed and i'm not proposing that you are being careless or heartless in any way so don't think that as you are in a damn confusing situation, but it's really not right that you want to have your cake and eat it then have him waiting politely like a lapdog when you're done with your bout of promiscuity.
If your relationship is lacking, physically or emotionally then you must discuss this with him and try to fix it or just admit that it's over and you aren't satisfied any more then you may do as you please :)
 
My gf was shady, and alot of unworked issues. Feel like all those months down the drain. Wish it could of been worked out. Single now, enjoying it. Might go back to men. Bisexuality really is interesting.
 
Word. Being bi is awesome. I identify as bisexual, most of my sex has been with women so I suppose I am more towards straight on the scale of things. Feels nice having that option however, for some reason I always thought it would be much easier to get laid as a gay guy. Tbh I have found it easier to fuck women in reality lol.. But yeah, +1 on bein bi.
 
Mine has always been pretty nonexistent. I've always been shy when it comes to relationships but pretty outgoing and friendly overall. Which really throws people for a loop, as they just assume that it's easy for me to get the ladies. Girls have mostly treated me as the "good friend" and that gets old. After always being questioned on my sexuality, because I was always single and could never "seal the deal" it started getting to me and I thought maybe I was bi or something. Guys are definitely easier in some ways...but in no way easy. And because I'm not willing to totally go to the other side...guys are pretty leery of me.
So, here I sit in limbo land. Still single.
It bothers me sometimes...but sometimes it's nice to be independent and do what I want when I want.
 
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