weird question about visiting someone in jail

[sadgirl90]

So the back story is that I used to date this controlling asshole boyfriend. Said boyfriend was also a thief who stole things to support his heroin habit. Now my boyfriends friend H who he knew before me also got pulled into stealing stuff for dope because of my ex-boyfriend. H is a great guy and really sweet but just got influenced by my asshole ex. I always liked H because he was so sweet to me and stood up for me when my boyfriend was being mean to me, and listened when I had problems. Well now both my ex and H have been caught for burglaries and are both currently in jail (not the same jails, though).
I really want to visit H and tell him how I feel. I would go do this now but the thing is, the visitation is recorded obviously and I know I am a "person of interest" or maybe even a suspect in the burglary stuff because the cops knew I was with my boyfriend at the time and that we are both friends with H. I also drove both of them around a lot. I know the cops are interested in me because they have tried to talk to me a few times but I always avoided them. So what scares me is, what if I go visit H, the cops take notice to that, and then use the tape of me visiting H to show to my ex and say something like "look she doesnt even like you anymore, she wants your friend, why dont you give up stuff on her to make a deal?"
I know this seems far fetched. I have not visited my ex in jail (he isn't out because his parents wont bond him out) and I don't even know if he realizes that it is over now. it is almost a blessing in disguise because I am finally free from my ex. he was abusive (one time when a cop tried to question me, he saw bruises on me from my ex, but I denied it was him). I never told H how I feel and I really want to, he really is the sweetest guy ever and is not some dumb criminal. what do you guys think?

 

[amapola]

Hey sadgirl90,

I'm not quite sure where you want this to be placed, but I'm going to send it over to TDS for you. If you were thinking SLR then PM me or leave another message in anon.

Best of luck!

AP >>> TDS

 

[Gerald92]

if youve been able to "avoid" talking to the cops, i doubt theyd go as far as to do all of that.

 

[thugpassion]

The police can and do use taped jail conversations for what ever reason they want. For them to play you off your boyfriend like that he would have to be a big deal to the police not just some junky breaking into houses and what not. If your friends are in totally differant jails than theres not really gonna be a conflict like that.
The police know who you are and your going to visit your partner in crime isnt the brightest idea.
Also if your already a felon your not allowed to visit, or if youv been incarseated at the same facility in less than twelve months you are not allowed to come back to visit any body for a year.

 

[panic in paradise]

if youve been able to "avoid" talking to the cops, i doubt theyd go as far as to do all of that.

yeah, what i was thinking -

your concern is a valid one, and a possible scenario, IF this was a much bigger if.
although if i were you,,, i would maybe see what goes on when he gets out - maybe more trouble with even more emotional attachment...


watch out for your own freedom in more ways then one.

 

[TheLostBoys]

I wouldnt wanna be caught up in that mess. Dont visit anyone. Wait until "H" gets out & tell him how you feel & why you couldnt visit him in jail, if hes as sweet & understanding as you say he is, he will understand.

 

[nuttynutskin]

Find someone who isn't a heroin addict.

 

[Wolfmans_BrothEr]

Is the case still in progress? If there's already been a verdict then it's case closed and your in the clear. But honestly, they got a lot more shit to worry about than who your visiting in jail that stole some shit