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The Neville 'fucking' Bartos Syndrome!!!

cherberbear

cherberbear

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Is it just me??

Am I a weird mother fucker?

Went to a club at the weekend for the first time in about 18 months, and ok so its obvious its to loud to socialize ask people how there Mam's are ect.....and all that bollocks,

but I must have seen at least a hand full of people I knew once really well and I just couldn't be arsed even to acknowledging them. They would nod at me and I would just return it with a blank nice as pie 'who the fuck are you kind of glare'.

You might think it was because of my frame/messy state of mind ect...
Nope Im like this all the time...I'm a really confident friendly wee thing but in my old age (and I'm only 27) I just cant be bothered with people. Over the space of a few years Ive sacked all but one of my good friends off, and I cant quit for the life of me figure out why. It just seems all to much effort.

Anyone else been through a similar patch, Im hoping its something I may grow out of as I don't want to come across as an arrogant bitch to my fellow man.
 
First of all, title of the thread is total win! :)

I'm currently going through this phase of removing friends from my life.. for me there seems to be a total dis-interest in their lifestyles and consequently i have little desire to even acknowledge them, because it's just going to be the same run-of-the-mill shit that im leaning away from.

Maybe your bored with these friends, i mean.. whats the point in putting in the effort to a conversation that you could care less about, some people feel obligated to put up with people they were once friends with purely because they use to get along at some point, but that just seems insane to me.
 
cherberbear said:
Is it just me??

Am I a weird mother fucker?

Went to a club at the weekend for the first time in about 18 months, and ok so its obvious its to loud to socialize ask people how there Mam's are ect.....and all that bollocks,

but I must have seen at least a hand full of people I knew once really well and I just couldn't be arsed even to acknowledging them. They would nod at me and I would just return it with a blank nice as pie 'who the fuck are you kind of glare'.

You might think it was because of my frame/messy state of mind ect...
Nope Im like this all the time...I'm a really confident friendly wee thing but in my old age (and I'm only 27) I just cant be bothered with people. Over the space of a few years Ive sacked all but one of my good friends off, and I cant quit for the life of me figure out why. It just seems all to much effort.

Anyone else been through a similar patch, Im hoping its something I may grow out of as I don't want to come across as an arrogant bitch to my fellow man.
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What distinguishes the one friend who has escaped this response?
 
^^^ She is the coolest cucumber out there, 12 years older than me and a true hippy through, which is a bit odd really as I'm the biggest chav going.

And malakaix I defiantly do have heaps in common with these people ect....I just seem to distance my self:/ Well maybe Ive out grown a few......

Ive been letting this issue chew me up for months now, its nice to get it off my chest, when my family would ask me how friends were Id feel embarrassed and change the subject as not to have to say, well aunty, Ive stopped speaking to that person for no apparent reason.
 
Resisting the urge to change thread title to The Neville Longbottom Syndrome
 
^ zomg! yes!!!!! =D

i once thought it was really important to have friends although, i've always been terrible at socializing. in my old age (i'm 28 ;)), i'm happier to spend time by myself and i'm at peace with being a bit of a loner. unless it's someone i think is really fucking cool (and there are few), i don't spend the time or energy on maintaining the relationship.
 
Some people become insular and anti-social as they get older. They also start to hate new music, and complain about kids cutting across their lawn.

Seriously though, maybe you should put a bit more effort into being decent and not making people feel like shit, and maybe stop trying to play your personality disorders off as a charming quirk. If you were my friend, and you randomly treated me like an asshole, I would be severely put off. And for what? Because you couldn't muster up the arm strength to raise your glass?

Fix it.
 
awesome thread title, but i'm 100% with cyc.

seriously, how bloody hard is it to be friendly?
 
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