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Friends Doing Coke...

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I generally consider myself (and my group of friends) to be the stereotypical stoner. We don't really drink, we don't do hard drugs, mainly we stick to weed and hallucinogens. Lately though, a couple of my friends have, apparently, started getting into coke. I'm a little conflicted in how I feel about this. On one hand its coke, and no one can claim they don't know it's bad. On the other, coke kind of has a negative stigma attached to it like marijuana, LSD, ect. I know people here indulge in these substances, and I'm okay with that, but I'm, obviously, worried about my friends. I'm not opposed to the notion that anyone can take a substance responsibly, but when you get into substances that are quite clearly dangerous and addictive I don't know how to feel about that.

I want to say "don't do coke, that's dumb" (although I kind of already have), but I feel like that sort of makes me a hypocrite. I haven't noticed it having an detriment on their life yet, but that could change any day. I don't know what to do about it, because I'm pretty sure they're already kind of set in doing it, but they've already gotten a few of my other friends to "try" it, and that doesn't sit well with me. I don't want them getting addicted, fucking up their bodies, but, in the end, it's their choice.

What should I do? Should I do anything? I honestly don't know what to think...
 
first of all Coke really sucks, everything about it including the high, there is nothing you can say to stop them from doing it. But what I have noticed is most people who do coke stop after certain time, either as short as a few months or a few years. At least that's what I have noticed with most people..
it's not like opiates, which is impossible to stop
 
Your a good person for caring about your friends like that. Personally I don't think there's anying wrong with telling your friends doing coke is stupid. I say it all the time, normally I won't hang out with someone who's skiing (and that's coming from a hugeeeee cokehead).

If they end up getting pissed at the idea of you trying to benefit their life, then they're not worth it. I'm all for seriously saying something to them, but if they don't wanna hear it then chances are they're one of those people who has to find out for themselves. And at that point it's best to just drop it. That's how i was.

If that is what happens, I wouldn't take it personally. Addiction, especially coke and heroin, change people. If eventually they get a straight head on and realized what theyve been doing and want to apologize, don't,hold grudges. Again this is all from experience
 
How often are they using coke? For example, I like it, but using it is rare...I'll encounter it, use it for a couple weekends, and then not again for a year, so for some people it can be kept to moderation. The coke high isn't too great. I feel like everyone else in here is jumping into these people already having turned into daily coke users, but I suspect that's not the case? Maybe a lil more info OP? It's a positive thing that you are worried about them, but more info might make any suggestions anyone could possibly give you or comments more directed and easier.
 
shahab6 said:
first of all Coke really sucks, everything about it including the high, there is nothing you can say to stop them from doing it. But what I have noticed is most people who do coke stop after certain time, either as short as a few months or a few years. At least that's what I have noticed with most people..
it's not like opiates, which is impossible to stop
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That would be ideal, I would hate to stop being friend with someone because of an addiction...
poopymcpoop said:
I probably wouln't lend them any money...
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One of them actually already owes me money, so definitely not, heh.

Wolfmans_BrothEr said:
Your a good person for caring about your friends like that. Personally I don't think there's anying wrong with telling your friends doing coke is stupid. I say it all the time, normally I won't hang out with someone who's skiing (and that's coming from a hugeeeee cokehead).

If they end up getting pissed at the idea of you trying to benefit their life, then they're not worth it. I'm all for seriously saying something to them, but if they don't wanna hear it then chances are they're one of those people who has to find out for themselves. And at that point it's best to just drop it. That's how i was.

If that is what happens, I wouldn't take it personally. Addiction, especially coke and heroin, change people. If eventually they get a straight head on and realized what theyve been doing and want to apologize, don't,hold grudges. Again this is all from experience
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Just a little confused, are you saying "Don't hold grudges" or do hold grudges? I assume the former, but your message is a little confounded there.

purple_cloud said:
How often are they using coke? For example, I like it, but using it is rare...I'll encounter it, use it for a couple weekends, and then not again for a year, so for some people it can be kept to moderation. The coke high isn't too great. I feel like everyone else in here is jumping into these people already having turned into daily coke users, but I suspect that's not the case? Maybe a lil more info OP? It's a positive thing that you are worried about them, but more info might make any suggestions anyone could possibly give you or comments more directed and easier.
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The thing is I don't really know as of yet. One of them I know used to do it a year or 2 ago (at least for a while), and then has started doing it again at least 3 times (likely). The other, his ex step dad is a coke head, and from the sounds of it he (not the step dad) does it "casually" and has been for possibly a while. For these two, and given their current life situation, I think any coke is probably bad coke, though I could be wrong.
 
If they're only using recreationally it's not that big of a deal. It's when they start doing it alone or when they're not partying that it's really bad. A few times a year (it sounds like that's how much they are using) isn't much.
 
yeah at first it seems like a good idea you have friends and even girlfriends around when you do it and it's all fun before you even know what a coke buzz really is. Then all of a sudden your in the bathroom alone with bells ringing and you don't want anyone to hear those bells but you. I think if it's one of the first hardcore drugs they have really done a lot of the chance is higher of them getting hooked later in life. I use to do coke and it's real easy to drop a bunch of cash fast like a days pay for maybe little more then a 2 hour buzz. When I was young I could do it and not even geek out but now if I was touch it I would be a mess looking at the floor and everything. Drugs are like a allergy the more and the longer you mess with it the more it get it's hold on you. Everyone says I hate a coke head or I hate drunks. I hate to be around an any addict when they are using their drug of choice.
 
First off its really nice that you care enough to post in here about it. Keep being a good friend. On the other hand though, coke is not that big of a deal. I have done a lot of drugs, and I have found coke to be one of the 'least intoxicating' in the sense that it only lasts a short period of time (20-45 mins), and it doesn't really 'mess you up'. Chances are you wouldn't know if someone around you was doing coke. It really isn't a good drug and I'm fairly confident if your friends smoke and do hallucinogens they will realize its not worth the money.
 
plus if you keep telling them not to do it, chances are they will do it behind your back..
For example friends that hated me doing whatever drugs, I would just tell them I don't do it, or do it without them knowing..

Just tell them, the drug sucks, and you don't understand why they even do it..


the best thing to do is not to do anything, because I really doubt they will listen to you anyway..
 
I agree with what shahab says. The best you can do is not enable them, and that's what you're doing. Coke doesn't always lead to a black hole addiction. State your opinion, and be there for them if any of them do fall too far down the rabbit hole. I think that's all one can ask of a good friend.
 
chitown rollin said:
First off its really nice that you care enough to post in here about it. Keep being a good friend. On the other hand though, coke is not that big of a deal. I have done a lot of drugs, and I have found coke to be one of the 'least intoxicating' in the sense that it only lasts a short period of time (20-45 mins), and it doesn't really 'mess you up'. Chances are you wouldn't know if someone around you was doing coke. It really isn't a good drug and I'm fairly confident if your friends smoke and do hallucinogens they will realize its not worth the money.
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She's not asking whether you think coke is a big deal or not shes asking whether or not she should do something about her friends ruining their lives.

No matter how long the high lasts for you can still suffer a heart attack, weight loss, loss in nose cartilage, loss of money, family, friends and all the other consequences of addiction not to mention you turning into a huge scum bag.

Just because one random person on the Internet views coke as "not that big of a deal" doesn't make it true.
 
If you do it occasionally and say stick to snorting it you shouldn't have any problems. Hell i used to snort it or hit the pipe once every few months and i never had a problem. So ya if your doing it a few times a year it's not a big deal at all. Also yeah coke does suck big time in regards to the high.

If your friends start doing it on a regular basis then i would get worried. I have had so many friends completely fuck their lives up on coke/crack that it's not funny. Ive gotten pretty fucked on it myself on occasion actually but whatever :\ . All im saying is that there is nothing wrong with having abit of fun with it it's when it becomes a habit that things get bad.

Basically if your crawling around on the floor picking up anything that's white and sticking needles in your arm every 10 minutes or constantly hitting the pipe then things might be abit fucked :\
 
You can always express your concern and if they decide to continue then there may be nothing else for you to do. When I've had friends nag at me over things I would just ignore them. We can't really change people's minds if they are determined to do something. And sometimes the best way to learn is through experience.

I've seen a few people get heavy into a coke and it's not pleasant to watch. But of course it's possible that it won't even become a problem for them. Don't feel responsible for whatever happens either way. But if you feel uncomfortable being around it then there's nothing wrong with you staying away while they are using it.
 
You can always express your concern and if they decide to continue then there may be nothing else for you to do. When I've had friends nag at me over things I would just ignore them. We can't really change people's minds if they are determined to do something. And sometimes the best way to learn is through experience.

I've seen a few people get heavy into a coke and it's not pleasant to watch. But of course it's possible that it won't even become a problem for them. Don't feel responsible for whatever happens either way. But if you feel uncomfortable being around it then there's nothing wrong with you staying away while they are using it.
 
paranoid android said:
If you do it occasionally and say stick to snorting it you shouldn't have any problems. Hell i used to snort it or hit the pipe once every few months and i never had a problem. So ya if your doing it a few times a year it's not a big deal at all. Also yeah coke does suck big time in regards to the high.

If your friends start doing it on a regular basis then i would get worried. I have had so many friends completely fuck their lives up on coke/crack that it's not funny. Ive gotten pretty fucked on it myself on occasion actually but whatever :\ . All im saying is that there is nothing wrong with having abit of fun with it it's when it becomes a habit that things get bad.

Basically if your crawling around on the floor picking up anything that's white and sticking needles in your arm every 10 minutes or constantly hitting the pipe then things might be abit fucked :\
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This. I've done cocaine a handful of times and had no problems doing it, enjoying it, and then stopping it for months. I have a very addictive personality but, as others have mentioned, the comedown is pretty much the best anti-drug experience one could have, makes cocaine self-limiting for me.

If moderation is the name of the game, cocaine can be enjoyed. From time to time.
 
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