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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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so until getting pregnant I was definitely known by everyone to be the least likely to ever be a parent...at any comments about me and my SO not having kids I'd just always say "I'm never having kids, it's not for me".

So when I accidentally got pregnant I was terrified. I know the exact moment when I got pregnant because there was only one accident I had with my SO through our entire relationship. I chose not to abort for some reason. I just couldn't do it. Also had the plan B option which probably would have worked. Didn't go for that either. Plus I didn't think it was that easy to get pregnant. Some couples try for months before so I thought that one time, during my non fertile days wouldn't be likely to make me pregnant.

My baby girl will be 8 months in a few days.

The love came with the child, for both of us. Now we are seriously hypnotized by her. She put us on our knees and made us her slaves.

At 8 months she is becoming more and more like a person. Laughing all day, playing. Even when I am tired and don't feel like doing anything I'll still do stuff for her.

Even thou this baby wasn't planned, when I look at her now I wonder how I could ever not want someone like her in my life. It's absolutely amazing how awesome babies are.
 
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Love, I think I'm having a girl too, mostly because I want a boy :P Like I said earlier though, I don't care as long as the baby is healthy!

Voxy, I too love BL even though I no longer use drugs. I've really enjoyed the last year here. I've met tons of awesome people and I've never found a forum with so many caring individuals. Come to think of it, it's pretty hard to find ANY place on the internet where there is so much compassion, understanding, and support. It's a great thing and I really do think that BL does touch a lot of people. This pregnancy thread, for example, allows me to vent as well as share excitement without feeling like I'm droning on and on about being pregnant :P It has been a god-send for me!
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This is why I come back to BL also, not for the drug talk mostly but for the talk about everything else. Sometimes I'd answer a question about something I know drug related but BL has been the only forum online that I visit regularly.
 
Z Y G G Y said:
so until getting pregnant I was definitely known by everyone to be the least likely to ever be a parent...at any comments about me and my SO not having kids I'd just always say "I'm never having kids, it's not for me".

So when I accidentally got pregnant I was terrified. I know the exact moment when I got pregnant because there was only one accident I had with my SO through our entire relationship. I chose not to abort for some reason. I just couldn't do it. Also had the plan B option which probably would have worked. Didn't go for that either. Plus I didn't think it was that easy to get pregnant. Some couples try for months before so I thought that one time, during my non fertile days wouldn't be likely to make me pregnant.

My baby girl will be 8 months in a few days.

The love came with the child, for both of us. Now we are seriously hypnotized by her. She put us on our knees and made us her slaves.

At 8 months she is becoming more and more like a person. Laughing all day, playing. Even when I am tired and don't feel like doing anything I'll still do stuff for her.

Even thou this baby wasn't planned, when I look at her now I wonder how I could ever not want someone like her in my life. It's absolutely amazing how awesome babies are.
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I <3 this post! It IS incredible how they change us!

There's a Native Alaskan saying that goes like this: "Every adult needs a child to guide, because that is how adults learn." Nothing could be more true.
 
Z Y G G Y said:
so until getting pregnant I was definitely known by everyone to be the least likely to ever be a parent...at any comments about me and my SO not having kids I'd just always say "I'm never having kids, it's not for me".

So when I accidentally got pregnant I was terrified. I know the exact moment when I got pregnant because there was only one accident I had with my SO through our entire relationship. I chose not to abort for some reason. I just couldn't do it. Also had the plan B option which probably would have worked. Didn't go for that either. Plus I didn't think it was that easy to get pregnant. Some couples try for months before so I thought that one time, during my non fertile days wouldn't be likely to make me pregnant.

My baby girl will be 8 months in a few days.

The love came with the child, for both of us. Now we are seriously hypnotized by her. She put us on our knees and made us her slaves.

At 8 months she is becoming more and more like a person. Laughing all day, playing. Even when I am tired and don't feel like doing anything I'll still do stuff for her.

Even thou this baby wasn't planned, when I look at her now I wonder how I could ever not want someone like her in my life. It's absolutely amazing how awesome babies are.
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This made me cry <3
So sweet.
 
Has anyone used "Your Baby Can Read", or a similar program? How'd it work out? I signed with my 6 year old when she was a baby, and I think it gave her a valuable head start. She's always been ahead of the game with verbal skills. She hates learning to read, though. Phonetic inconsistencies frustrate her, and her first grade stories are sooo boring. I'm wondering if word recognition early on would help with the former, and allow children to bypass a lot of the latter?
 
There's a Native Alaskan saying that goes like this: "Every adult needs a child to guide, because that is how adults learn." Nothing could be more true.
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So true!!! When I was pregnant I was all worried about how I would not have to be the example for my child, and how I would teach them. Now I see they teach me!!


She put us on our knees and made us her slaves
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Be careful!!!!! Remember you are the boss!!! lol

voxmystic-I used your baby can read with my daughter, she absolutely loves the videos but during the time that we used them we didn't realize that she couldn't see clearly!! needless to say it didn't work for her, but now she wears glasses and I am trying again with her and her brother (9months old) i think i dont do them regularly enough for them to be effective. it suggests to put it on twice a day for them, i do it maybe once a week :\
btw even though the kids love the videos, they can be really really annoying! i find i have to leave the room while its playing
 
Xeno, what a wonderful gift! I'm sure your friend will love it! You can really tell there was a lot of thought put into it =)

Zyggy, I was exactly the same as you! It's almost ironic that I got pregnant because I've always been on a soapbox about younger women getting pregnant (although I'm 23 so I'm not TOO young but yeah). Not just younger women but those without the means to raise a child, without a stable partner, etc. I even joined a Facebook group called "Loves Not Being Pregnant" or something to that affect as I was sick of watching young girls I know get knocked up by complete losers and then hand their babies off to their families. It was my sort of silent retaliation :P

Anyway, I've always been outspoken about this subject and ALWAYS told people that I didn't want kids, at least not until I was about 30 and most definitely married. Lo and behold the epilepsy meds my doc put me on affect birth control and voila, I "fall" pregnant! Many BLers know that at first I was seriously considering an abortion (I have no problem being really open about this, by the way) because a baby was NOT in my plan. I went an entire week looking up abortion options and telling my partner that we would not be keeping the baby. He was supportive and I still believe he wanted me to make the decision but would be okay either way.

So that week goes by and I decided I had no reason NOT to have a baby. Despite years of thinking that abortion is not murder (and it isn't, IMO), I still couldn't help but feel like I was killing something... I didn't keep the baby out of guilt though, not necessarily. I kept it because I realized we could do it. We were already planning on getting married and more than stable enough to bring a child into this world. I realized that I'd already gotten my partying, drug use, etc. out of the way long ago (sober for three years!) so it wasn't like I was ending life as I know it.

But yeah, I thought long and hard about keeping this baby and so far I'm glad I decided to. I have settled into the idea of being pregnant and actually find myself loving it despite all of the negative side effects. I can only imagine that the moment I look into my baby's eyes, I will know 100% I made the "right" decision.
 
voxmystic said:
I <3 this post! It IS incredible how they change us!

There's a Native Alaskan saying that goes like this: "Every adult needs a child to guide, because that is how adults learn." Nothing could be more true.
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I love that saying, think I will get it printed off as a nice little poster on the fridge, along with M is for mother not for maid and I no longer skinny dip I chunky dunk lol.
 
voxmystic said:
There's a Native Alaskan saying that goes like this: "Every adult needs a child to guide, because that is how adults learn." Nothing could be more true.
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I love this. I have felt so rudderless and lost. I grew up an only child; I'm close with some family members but not others. I want to give a child a good life. I want to learn and grow from being a mother. I have such strong premonitions about teaching a child to read. I think I need to get my teaching credentials, or a puppy, or something.

I have been totally abstinent as to anything that could get me pregnant for awhile now, and have had an IUD for a couple of years. I will certainly bump this thread when/if I am pregnant or adopt a child.

UNH, I do think 33 will be the year. I turn 31 in 6 days. I also believe you are having a little girl. She will be as beautiful as you are and have curly blonde hair. We'll see if I am right.

<3

I am worried about a friend right now. I think she is experiencing postpartum depression. How is this usually handled, medically speaking?
 
Mariposa said:
UNH, I do think 33 will be the year. I turn 31 in 6 days. I also believe you are having a little girl. She will be as beautiful as you are and have curly blonde hair. We'll see if I am right.

<3

I am worried about a friend right now. I think she is experiencing postpartum depression. How is this usually handled, medically speaking?
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Well it sounds like you are extremely intuitive and while I'm not so keen on people predicting the future, I totally believe in things like this happening! It sounds like you know yourself well enough to make such a call.

On me having a girl: Like I said before, I wouldn't doubt it since I want a boy :P That's how life ALWAYS works with me! Unfortunately I can only think of guy names so far... Our boy names are as follows:

Jameson
Damon
Bennett
Ethan (my favorite)
Anderson (my favorite after Ethan so far)
Bowen (a great Southern name)
Asher
John Joseph (after his father... unfortunately I'm not a HUGE fan of Christian names and not because I don't like them but because they're SO common, however, I do like his dad's name and middle name together and it would be nice to have a John Joseph the 2nd)

No girl names yet :P

I'm thinking our child will definitely have blonde hair and blue eyes because dad STILL has bright blonde hair (he's mostly Dutch) and was born with it; had it until my teens. We both have blue eyes and so do most of our family members.

Any good ideas on girl names?? I love names that can go for either sex, by the way.
 
My favourite names for a girl are-

Lilith
Grace
Jordan
Savannah
Kelsie
Isobel

And just found out my sister in law is pregnant! About 6 weeks along. I'm really excited, this is the first time I will be an auntie.
 
We've got some names picked out, including some in the above lists. However we've decided not to give the name away until the baby is born. I'll make a decision once we know whether it's a boy or a girl. In just a bit over a week I get to find out and the suspense is killing me.

Also i'm starting to pop so to speak, not fully but it's looking less like fat rolls and more like a bump. 1 weeks and 6 days today, have so far put on just under 4 kilo's.
 
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Miss, I think I know what you mean! My bump just "exploded" overnight. I swear it wasn't there last week! Amazing... I love it!

Let us know what the baby is when you find out if you want! I'm so excited for you.
 
Hahaha. I just noticed I was nippin'.

My boobs are out of control. They have grown about half a cup size and are ultra sensitive. Hopefully this isn't TMI but my nipples are getting bigger too... I knew boobs grow but nipples? I guess it makes sense. Whatever the case they're still sore as can be, especially in the mornings when I wake up. My poor husband loves to look but can't really touch because of this.

If my boobies keep going at this rate, they could be considered weapons of mass destruction...
 
Just wondering, for those who can remember, when did you begin to feel the baby move with your first pregnancy? And dads, when were you able to feel movement through your partner's tummy?

I'm over the half way mark and feeling a bit retarded because I can't feel anything yet - bub's placenta is on the front of my tummy which will mean I feel movement later, but still, I thought I'd feel something by now!
 
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