crazy drunk family member help!!!

[hydrochron]

I'm living at my house and a family member of mine just went nuts on me. I just got my life back on track, going to school and off benzos. Anyways this person screamed at me, attacked me, and finalyy I locked my self in the bathroom. They eventually went and just passed out. But the damage is done, this person was telling me I'm fucked up and have problems when there wasted. I don't think they've had a drink for 2 months before this.

I don't know what to even think, I'm baffled. I really am trying to move out but I don't have enough $ yet. I have no where else to go.I'm through with this bull shit.. I'm just stunned, I really can't believe it. This is why I don't like alcohol.

 

[Jabberwocky]

The amnesia of drug & alcohol abuse is more frequently a social accommodation than it is ever actual. Play it cool. This may blow over and you can continue to gather resources to move out. You can form a plan about what to do if the crisis continues but for the meantime hope it blows over and that you will be able to move out in accordance with your previous plan. A big exception would be if you feel unsafe or unable to cope. Do you think it could turn out livable for the interim?

 

[Depressicaa]

Hey sorry about that. These things happen. That was basically what happened everyday when I was working 14 hour shifts and my uncle would start drinking and just spewing off the same message over and over, and I would be forced to listen.

What can you do? Buy a good pair of headphones, and hopefully you have a car and if possible stay there when the person is drunk.

 

[hydrochron]

The amnesia of drug & alcohol abuse is more frequently a social accommodation than it is ever actual. Play it cool. This may blow over and you can continue to gather resources to move out. You can form a plan about what to do if the crisis continues but for the meantime hope it blows over and that you will be able to move out in accordance with your previous plan. A big exception would be if you feel unsafe or unable to cope. Do you think it could turn out livable for the interim?

I think it will blow over but shit, the whole neighborhood was watching. The person just took low blows at me, saying messed up shit like the cops are going to arrest me and eliminate me. I feel like they wanted to piss me off so I would maybe react. There definently major hung over right now. I'm safe, but what am I supposed to do act like nothing happened? This person doesn't drink everyday so ill be fine.

I'm going to see what happens today. Is there anything else I should know or do?

 

[Jabberwocky]

Is there anything else I should know or do?

Have a plan but always be aware of fresh new opportunities. If you truly master that you will eventually take over the world should you choose. What I'm saying is our plan's obscure real time perception and real time perception always obscures plans. Minimize anxiety and try to utilize the remaining anxiety in a useful way. You will get through this and better times lie ahead.

 

[hydrochron]

Have a plan but always be aware of fresh new opportunities. If you truly master that you will eventually take over the world should you choose. What I'm saying is our plan's obscure real time perception and real time perception always obscures plans. Minimize anxiety and try to utilize the remaining anxiety in a useful way. You will get through this and better times lie ahead.

Thanks for that I really appreciate it. The person appologized and feels really bad. I feel drained and want to get high. Oh well.

 

[Asclepius]

Hydro-
Geezus, that attack sounded fkng scary! Being around someone who's Alcoholic especially when they are blaming/scapegoating you for their problems
is heavily toxic-especially when your dealing with your own stuff. Have been in a similar situation in the past and have come under the wrath of a person in this situation.
When people are 'sick' you have to emotionally baracade yourself against them. Keep yourself detatched if you can, maintain distance from this person as much as is possible and keep your own emotions on the down-low around them. I know this shouldnt be your responsibility but it is just a means to keep yourself sane and not be contaminated by their destructive emotions. With me, dealing with them involved a lot of nodding 'yes' and listening to what they said but not letting it in and certainly not reacting with my own opinion but being objective. This was just to protect myself because if I didnt theyd get their fangs stuck in2 me. Please dont forget to share how your really feeling about this person though, talk with someone you trust because you dont need to carry the fall-out of their problems especially when your getting your own life back on track.
Really hope you stay focused on doing well yourself, dont give in to anyones bullshit Hydro-know its easier said than done, but a motto can sometimes keep you moving in the right direction! ..and best of luck with your moving out plans when they come...and they will!