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I've definitely dated some crazies. Not girls though. My first "serious" reltaionship--which was a total of about eighteen months long--ended in a five year restraining order (it has to be really bad for a judge to actually grant that kind of restraining order) and him being dragged to a state mental hospital, and the last serious relationship I was in--one that lasted more than two years--was with a man who surely had some kind of mental disorder. I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be burning furniture in our fireplace or wandering around in the woods talking to himself. He told me that he always pictured what peoples' insides would look like splayed out on the wall when he first meets them. He was extremely jealous and quite controlling, and definitely one of the most brilliant people I've ever known... this was unfortunate for me as he was able to take advantage of my brief lapse in judgement and naivety. I had liked him since I was 14 and he was about 18 so it had been something that was growing for years and years, and I thought his intelligence was enough to warrant me sticking with him ("surely he will go back to school or get a better career than being a carpenter so he can actually contribute financially and feel as if he's doing something with his life..." and so on). I've never been so willingly blinded by someone's charm in my entire life. However, I learned a lot from it, so for that I am thankful.
The best thing you can do when you're with a crazy is man up, break it up, move on, and learn from everything that has happened. I have little sympathy for those who continually make up excuses as I've been there myself and I don't think there is any excuse for someone treating another human being like a piece of shit. When I see extremely jealous men and women, I want to ask their partner what the hell they're thinking and why they're willing to put up with so much shit when it only amounts to years of unhappiness. It's frustrating to watch friends put themselves through what I went through, and most of the time they're not willing to listen.
Honestly, I see posts about crazy significant others in this forum every day and I want to PM the OP and ask them what the hell they're thinking or are they stupid, but I realize this is a bit rash
The best thing you can do when you're with a crazy is man up, break it up, move on, and learn from everything that has happened. I have little sympathy for those who continually make up excuses as I've been there myself and I don't think there is any excuse for someone treating another human being like a piece of shit. When I see extremely jealous men and women, I want to ask their partner what the hell they're thinking and why they're willing to put up with so much shit when it only amounts to years of unhappiness. It's frustrating to watch friends put themselves through what I went through, and most of the time they're not willing to listen.
Honestly, I see posts about crazy significant others in this forum every day and I want to PM the OP and ask them what the hell they're thinking or are they stupid, but I realize this is a bit rash
