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cr250owner

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I'm 20yrs old and currently 14 days sober of all illicit drugs and plan to stay that way for a while.

I live in phoenix arizona so it's like living in an oven once you step outside.

I do nothing all damn day. i don't currently have a gym membership and getting one really isn't financially possible right now.

The only beneficial thing I can think of doing is hiking, which I do.

however other than that i have no motivation or energy to do anything.
I'll be 21 in 2 days and I'm not even the least bit excited about that.

I'll be starting my third (or so) year of college in mid august, so I'll at least have that to look forward to.

Can anyone give any advice on activities or anything i can be doing to better myself at this time?


also getting a job is kinda out the window as i have 2 recent misdemeanors and have a funky school schedule coming up.
 
Don't drive yourself crazy. I turned 21 in prison while all my friends were at the bar partying it up.
But I was like that for a good few years of my life where all I did was go to school and then I had like 4 days a week of absolutely nothing to do.
The problem is when you're not doing anything, and I mean ANYTHING, its hard to do even little things.
Like you can't really date a girl when your broke. And you can't really go out and do things not having a job. So right now theres really not a lot you technically CAN DO.

I would try to start running maybe 45mins a day, and see if you can get sidejobs maybe from your family just to keep yourself occupied and put a few bucks in your wallet.
Then at least occassionally you'll have stuff to look forwards to.

I also want to say having 2 "misdemeanors" in no way stops you from working. I was facing a 7 year sentence and got a job fine, and found one as soon as I got out too. But I'm assuming for some reason you don't wanna work because of only having 14 days clean, and THAT I completely support. I think its important to have some down time after you recover to allow your coping skills to desensitize.

At this point idk if it was me personally I always have to find ways to exercise even when I'm not doing anything. But I also have the luxury of not needing a gym membership as I just go to school to workout a lot.
Does your school have a gym? How far are you from it? Because as you know schools don't charge their own students to work out?

Plus I always like to kick my cardio up right before school just to lean out a bit. Its hard to tell you though. There was times when I was super bored I'd email professors for the syllabus weeks before class, and I'd get the books and start doing assignments just so they were done for the first few weeks. But I still prefer enjoying summer whiles its here. At least on the east coast over here the beaches are only 15 mins away. I'm not sure exactly what there is to do in Arizona.
But my best piece of advice is don't drive yourself crazy. Time still goes by fast when you're not doing anything, contrary to popular belief. And before you know it school will be here and all those sexy college girls will be nervous and looking for male attention. =] G/luck!
 
mate, you go hiking, quality exercise, i goto gym/swim but i dont do hiking, cant afford the boots! haah, do pushups, eat fruits, jog, bike, read, see how high you can piss up a wall.. you get the picture just keep doing stuff.. read
 
I second (third?) the running notion, it's about the best thing you can do to feel good and give yourself energy when you're trying to get off drugs. It gets your mind off drugs, too.

Contrary to one's intuition, the more you expend energy via exercise and the like, the more energetic you are overall.
 
Help me please said:
Find a shelter to volunteer at. If you are lucky you can get into an animal shelter as opposed to a people one.
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Volunteering is wrong imo. I truly believe that a professional should be paid according to his/her level of expertise and competence. A chemical engineer student who does volunteer work lowers the market value of all engineers in that area. Things have their value and people as well.

I would rather stay home than volunteering. I have no idea who invented the concept and how it became a social value. I asked my history teacher and he said it's something that became popular in the 80s and became even more popular on people's resume in the 90s as a distinctive advantage. A candidate who did volunteering would be regarded with better eyes than someone who went to school or didn't do anything at all. Imho there is nothing more unfair especially for students in debt who have better things to do than waste their time on some payless work.
 
I'm struggling with the same problem. I've been off meth for about a month and I have very little motivation, even for the most simple things. I'm spending a lot of time at home (or at my girlfriend's place), only going out when I really need to. I can't read or write much, I don't have the energy for exercise, and so on. It's good that you're able to do some hiking - try to keep up the exercise if you can, and also try to eat well (good healthy "brain food"). What are you going to be studying at college? Maybe try to do some preliminary reading/studying before that begins if you're able to, so you'll be in the right frame of mind when the semester begins. Good luck! :)
 
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cr250owner said:
I'm 20yrs old and currently 14 days sober of all illicit drugs and plan to stay that way for a while.

I live in phoenix arizona so it's like living in an oven once you step outside.

I do nothing all damn day. i don't currently have a gym membership and getting one really isn't financially possible right now.

The only beneficial thing I can think of doing is hiking, which I do.

however other than that i have no motivation or energy to do anything.
I'll be 21 in 2 days and I'm not even the least bit excited about that.

I'll be starting my third (or so) year of college in mid august, so I'll at least have that to look forward to.

Can anyone give any advice on activities or anything i can be doing to better myself at this time?


also getting a job is kinda out the window as i have 2 recent misdemeanors and have a funky school schedule coming up.
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Man, at least you have the motivation to do college. I can't even do that, and I love class. I have absolutely no motivation or energy, and even when I'm on my opiates that I've ruined my life with I still fill awful.
 
Bojangles69 said:
I also want to say having 2 "misdemeanors" in no way stops you from working. I was facing a 7 year sentence and got a job fine, and found one as soon as I got out too. But I'm assuming for some reason you don't wanna work because of only having 14 days clean, and THAT I completely support. I think its important to have some down time after you recover to allow your coping skills to desensitize.

At this point idk if it was me personally I always have to find ways to exercise even when I'm not doing anything. But I also have the luxury of not needing a gym membership as I just go to school to workout a lot.
Does your school have a gym? How far are you from it? Because as you know schools don't charge their own students to work out?
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LOL well one of the misdemeanors is theft which looks very bad to any employer and the other is domestic violence, also not so great.

and as far as the school gym.... i'm back at a community college and they charge for a gym membership, unlike my previous university. it sucks.
 
Provoke said:
Volunteering is wrong imo. I truly believe that a professional should be paid according to his/her level of expertise and competence. A chemical engineer student who does volunteer work lowers the market value of all engineers in that area. Things have their value and people as well.

I would rather stay home than volunteering. I have no idea who invented the concept and how it became a social value. I asked my history teacher and he said it's something that became popular in the 80s and became even more popular on people's resume in the 90s as a distinctive advantage. A candidate who did volunteering would be regarded with better eyes than someone who went to school or didn't do anything at all. Imho there is nothing more unfair especially for students in debt who have better things to do than waste their time on some payless work.
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Sweetie when you are old enough to go to a school that has professors rather than teachers ask the question again. You'll find out that you have been misled. Volunteering is highly regarded on both resumes as well as college apps.

Edit. Sorry, your teacher did give you the correct answer. You just think he was wrong or rather don't agree with the norm of doing things.
 
Help me please said:
Sweetie when you are old enough to go to a school that has professors rather than teachers ask the question again. You'll find out that you have been misled. Volunteering is highly regarded on both resumes as well as college apps.

Edit. Sorry, your teacher did give you the correct answer. You just think he was wrong or rather don't agree with the norm of doing things.
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chiefmojorising said:
Man, at least you have the motivation to do college. I can't even do that, and I love class. I have absolutely no motivation or energy, and even when I'm on my opiates that I've ruined my life with I still fill awful.
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Motivation is hard to come by these days. Too many video games...too much porn everywhere, to study has become the worst alternative of them all. I can only study while I'm buzz on dex...it's a reality.
 
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Provoke said:
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Motivation is hard to come by these days. Too many video games...too much porn everywhere, to study has become the worst alternative of them all. I can only study while I'm buzz on dex...it's a reality.
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Your user name is "Provoke" but unfortunately for you I will not allow you to provoke me. I think you laid you shit out on the table and everyone can see it. "Nuff said!
 
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Provoke said:
Volunteering is wrong imo. I truly believe that a professional should be paid according to his/her level of expertise and competence. A chemical engineer student who does volunteer work lowers the market value of all engineers in that area. Things have their value and people as well.

I would rather stay home than volunteering. I have no idea who invented the concept and how it became a social value. I asked my history teacher and he said it's something that became popular in the 80s and became even more popular on people's resume in the 90s as a distinctive advantage. A candidate who did volunteering would be regarded with better eyes than someone who went to school or didn't do anything at all. Imho there is nothing more unfair especially for students in debt who have better things to do than waste their time on some payless work.
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I think the concept was invented by the same bunch of people who invented the concept of charity. The concept that sometimes there's a need but no funding or budget, so time & effort is given for free, for altruistic purposes. Thats a pretty selfish attitude you have there, it's not all about you & your CV. It's about human (or animal) need, but theres no doubt in my mind that the volunteer can benefit as much as the recipient.
 
Provoke said:
Volunteering is wrong imo. I truly believe that a professional should be paid according to his/her level of expertise and competence. A chemical engineer student who does volunteer work lowers the market value of all engineers in that area. Things have their value and people as well.

I would rather stay home than volunteering. I have no idea who invented the concept and how it became a social value. I asked my history teacher and he said it's something that became popular in the 80s and became even more popular on people's resume in the 90s as a distinctive advantage. A candidate who did volunteering would be regarded with better eyes than someone who went to school or didn't do anything at all. Imho there is nothing more unfair especially for students in debt who have better things to do than waste their time on some payless work.
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Good Post ^^

Either way, if the goverment gave a shit about people they would be fund shelters mabye? and other voulanteer work such as trial work, and such
 
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Shelters, both animal and homeless, can only really function and help when people are willing to give their time freely. To answer phones, care for dogs, cook meals for the homeless. They don't have the funding to hire proper staff, hence relying on volunteers.

It's certainly a worthwhile and rewarding way to both keep yourself busy and give back to society.
 
badandwicked said:
I think the concept was invented by the same bunch of people who invented the concept of charity. The concept that sometimes there's a need but no funding or budget, so time & effort is given for free, for altruistic purposes. Thats a pretty selfish attitude you have there, it's not all about you & your CV. It's about human (or animal) need, but theres no doubt in my mind that the volunteer can benefit as much as the recipient.
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I understand an fully support volunteering if you believe in a cause, like helping orphans or bringing medicine to the poor. Those are noble actions and people doing this type of volunteering should be greatly appreciated, not for the volunteering work itself but for the kindness of soul of caring about people and wanting to make a difference. Those are moral values pushing people to volunteer and in my opinion, any kind of appreciation should stop with those values.

Those people are doing volunteer work because they chose to and that is very important, choice. People should have the choice weather or not they believe in certain things and weather or not they should volunteer.

What I was denouncing is the nowadays mentality who tends to remove that choice from us. You do volunteering, you are good man and we appreciate you; you don't do volunteering, you're bad and we don't hire you, we don't offer social benefits to you and we deprive you of your rights as a human being. That...is wrong.

Employers are very careful with this, especially with people like me who know the law at it's full extent and who would sue them for discrimination at the slightest clue I may observe that they emphasize volunteer work in the hiring process without stating such requirements in the job advertisement.

The granny suggested that he does volunteering for the sake of doing something, not because he believes in something and he truly feels the need to help people. This feeds the mentality I criticize above and that's why I am against it. I could be wrong...this is just my opinion.
 
I understand everyone's idea about volunteering but i'm not a big fan of that right now, nor do i have the MOTIVATION or DRIVE to do it, especially since I need to work on myself first, not others.

but thank you to all who replied
 
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