This is too much how do I get away from the bad environment?

[Jabberwocky]

Hi all have been a long time member of this forum and now it's just gotten to be too much. I originally used this forum for when I was on pills to better educate myself but then I reformed myself, got off the booze and alcohol as well as drugs but used bluelight as an escape for when doing my uni studies. Atm it's been taking up a lot of my time and it has influenced me to drink again and see bad people from the past.

The past few nights I have been at a mates place who has psychosis and he's been chowing down the drink very hard. Being within this environment has been hard, I believe I get drawn back into it because I barely have any friends outside of this particular zone. Atm I am a struggling 25 year old uni student with no job and ths whole saga of mine just sucks. On top of this I have anxiety and depression.

Anyone got any suggestions on how to eliminate at least some of the bad environments? As at the moment it's damaging my uni work and everything else that comess with it.

 

[masta.spliffz]

Have you tried making some new less sketchy (no offense intended) friends at uni? I'm sure there are a lot of interesting people in a place like that, just gotta find someone you share something in common with, other than drugs, like another more positive hobby?

 

[7ca5p]

try rewarding yourself for not going on bluelight or somthing, read up on procrastination, its really interesting.

There was one man who was asked to read a 2 page advice leaflet on his condition, but ended up finding more menial and trivial things to do, and in the end spent 40 hours putting off a task that would only have taken 2 minutes!


As for the friends, try joining a club or somthing? I dunno, its a difficult one, but its definatley worth finding good people to socialise with.

 

[User Name Here]

Hi all have been a long time member of this forum and now it's just gotten to be too much. I originally used this forum for when I was on pills to better educate myself but then I reformed myself, got off the booze and alcohol as well as drugs but used bluelight as an escape for when doing my uni studies. Atm it's been taking up a lot of my time and it has influenced me to drink again and see bad people from the past.

The past few nights I have been at a mates place who has psychosis and he's been chowing down the drink very hard. Being within this environment has been hard, I believe I get drawn back into it because I barely have any friends outside of this particular zone. Atm I am a struggling 25 year old uni student with no job and ths whole saga of mine just sucks. On top of this I have anxiety and depression.

Anyone got any suggestions on how to eliminate at least some of the bad environments? As at the moment it's damaging my uni work and everything else that comess with it.

Completely remove it from your life, or move period. Why are you exacerbating the problem by willingly being around folks who might trigger you? I know it's easier said than done, but if you're truly after bettering yourself, you need to get out of that kind of environment.

The only way I was able to move on from being a drug addict was to move out of the state entirely and completely remove "those" people from my life. When I moved to a new place, I made it a point to absolutely avoid befriending anyone who uses drugs. I haven't looked back since. I don't even go home save two or three times a year now because it's too tempting to be around all of the drugs again. I know where to get anything there, and I know that as an addict I am weak. I don't know where to get anything here, so even when I crave something, I wouldn't know how to go about getting it. It's wonderful.

 

[Sweet P]

I wish I knew the answer. I no longer have anything in common with the mainstream, so all my "friends" are gang members and dealers.

 

[User Name Here]

I wish I knew the answer. I no longer have anything in common with the mainstream, so all my "friends" are gang members and dealers.

So you wish you knew how to get away? Are you unable and/or unwilling to move? If you're able to, I would give that a go... I always tell my old friends back home that's the main thing that saved me. They're too scared to move though, even though they talk about how much they want to. They all make grandiose plans constantly but never follow through with them because, well, if they move somewhere new, how will they find drugs right away (not saying this is your case by any means)? Anyway, I finally found out who I really am without all of these outside influences. I started off without any friends at all, and when I started meeting people, I started meeting really great folks; the kind of people you want to surround yourself and the kind of people you actually want to bring home to your family.

Anyway, good luck. Hopefully you will figure something out for yourself soon!

 

[Sweet P]

^ I'm not sure what I want, to be honest. I've lost touch with all my old friends who weren't into drugs.

 

[yellodolphin]

its hard when this happens. but you dont need people around u that are gonna bring u down. im in the same situation im trying to recover and work through lots of stuff but the environment i live in is adding to the problems. i think u need to asses that if its serious enough u get away for a little while for a break or permanently. i usually go to a friends house when i can but people seem to be busy always when u need em most so thats not always an option.

 

[Jekyll and Hyde]

I personally can't drink as much as I used to, as it makes my depression worse. The thing is, I don't see my friends that like to party all the time as much and I surround myself with friends that don't pressure me to drink and I find I'm a much happier person for it.

 

[bagochina]

You have to want to change... In the past I have moved all across the country telling myself, oh things will be different, you wont find dope hidden in the mountains or on the beach or in the city. WRONG. I wasted so many years trying to run from my addictions. It was not until I actually acted on what I have been told in countless rehabs. Change your friends, change your life.

In the past couple years I have shattered alot of my old friendships [ppl I have known all my life], it has been one of the hardest things I have ever done but it was an absolute necessity for me to stay clean. Previously 'friends' were a sure fire way for me to relapse, here have a pill, a line, a bag, a shot, etc. It was never ending.

I tried absolutely everything to stay clean and not rearrange my friendships but in the end it was one of the only answers. People dont always understand and it has taken quite awhile to get used to the slowed down pace but hey I am not gulping pills nor shooting dope. Granted I waited till I was in my 30's to do that and ALOT of my old friends are dead or locked up, I just didnt have the heart to do it when I was younger. I couldnt imagine trying to clean up when I was 19, 21, 26, 28... Sometimes the hardest things to do are the best things. Than again its just not your friends its you and your thinking.

peace.
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