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how can i get my boyfriend to smoke with me?

marissaaaaaa

marissaaaaaa

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we've been dating 7 months and are head over heels in love. we've opened up to each other about a lot of shit and are very close.
i found out recently that he apparently ALWAYS has weed, yet won't smoke with me. he's convinced that he'll feel weird and just doesn't want to be stoned around me. i understand cause i get the same way sometimes. but i would love to just smoke with him a little bit one night before we go to bed or something. i don't see why he wouldn't do it even then.

any advice, or anything i can do?
i mean it's not a big deal to me or anything but i just want to be able to be stoned with him at least once. i don't even really like smoking much anymore, but they'll be times when we'll be laying in his bed and i'll just start thinking how great it would be if we smoked a little.
 
we have crazy good sex sober and we both know that if we smoked we probably wouldn't even want to haha. that shit only works on like 12 year olds.
 
Ason arent you 16 or something, cant remember the thread or exact number?

Anyway good luck you can always try getting him to eat some with you and see if that alters his mind.
 
Maybe he is selling it and doesn't want you to know. Buy some yourself and smoke it in front of him and offer him a toke, if he won't smoke it under those circumstances than he probally never will. also he could have had a past experience as i have with drugs fucking up relationships, not only THC but i have had several substance binges with my girlfriends and then i come to the fact that they are a junkie and they dont really care about us anymore when they are sober. Let him know you wont use him for his weed and that it could be a great way to bond with him.
 
Just smoke up in front of him. If my girl was sparking a blunt there is no way I'd pass that shit up, but I can understand where he comes from.

Having a girl who smokes up is a conundrum... Here is why:

1) Getting high is a lot of fun if I'm with just my bros. I could see how getting blitzed with my girl would somehow make my guy friends call me out on replacing them over a chick, but that's nothing.
2) Smoking up my supply. My girl smokes, but not regularly (thank god), because lord knows I wouldn't make her pay for bud.
3) Embarassed moments while high. He is probably afraid of doing something stupid while high.
4) Past experiences. He may have had a stoner GF and things just didn't work out for one reason or another.

I think your best bet would be to T-A-L-K to him. If it's a touchy subject, then STFU and leave it alone like you would want him to do with you. Imagine if you were a nonsmoker, and your boy was trying to convince you to smoke, you'd tell all your non-smoker friends and you'd all look down on him. You shouldn't force someone into a situation they would be uncomfortable in.

Or who knows, maybe he is afraid it would become a habit or your relationship would become slightly drug dependent.
 
chainer3k said:
2) Smoking up my supply. My girl smokes, but not regularly (thank god), because lord knows I wouldn't make her pay for bud.
3) Embarrassed moments while high. He is probably afraid of doing something stupid while high.



Or who knows, maybe he is afraid it would become a habit or your relationship would become slightly drug dependent.
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veryyy good points. i didn't really think of that last one. it's probably a combination of all 3 of those things...
 
ive been in the same shoes as him before. theres a bunch of different reasons why ranging from how he looks to how he acts to the goofy shit that he may be embarassed of. do this, just have a bowl packed and show him you wanna smoke by just lighting it up and shotguning him right there without asking. i dont think he would be able to turn that down. and if he really doesnt like being high in front of you then you guys can talk about it and figure it out after the fact.
 
DXMkid420 said:
sex when your baked is EPIC, idk wtf your talkin about 12 year olds for?
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just sayin how telling my boyfriend that he'll get horny if he smokes with me is a stupid thing and that's something that 14 year olds tell chicks to get high with them.

and idk i've never been one of those people who gets horny high so yeah....




and what you're missing guys is he's the one with the weed. not me...i don't really smoke much anymore unless my friends have it and offer it to me. idk where he keeps it either, nor do i know how to roll anything or have a bowl anymore. so it's all on him haha.
 
shienar said:
Ason arent you 16 or something, cant remember the thread or exact number?

Anyway good luck you can always try getting him to eat some with you and see if that alters his mind.
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Yeah, what's that have to do with anything?

I know it affects everybody differently, but lots of people say weed increases their level of arousal.
 
Ason Unique said:
Yeah, what's that have to do with anything?

I know it affects everybody differently, but lots of people say weed increases their level of arousal.
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Nah dude, well i smoke alot of weed every day and i think its great to bond on drugs and its amazing to experience sex on diffrent drugs but i think sex on drugs frequently is a waste, i can see what she means about cuddling and going to sleep when your baked, and to be honest [call me whatever for speaking my mind] I would much prefer to openly talk to a girl and laugh and fall asleep together as we cuddle.
 
Some people just have their mind set on not doing it. I guess I was weird because I never really was pressured by anyone to do it, but I remember researching it and looking it up online and deciding for myself that I wanted to try it. Then I tried it, got high as fuck and looooved it.


I'd try telling to to try it once for you, maybe even say if he loves you he'll try it. I'm sure he'll love it and won't oblige to do it again.
 
marissaaaaaa said:
we've been dating 7 months and are head over heels in love. we've opened up to each other about a lot of shit and are very close.
i found out recently that he apparently ALWAYS has weed, yet won't smoke with me. he's convinced that he'll feel weird and just doesn't want to be stoned around me. i understand cause i get the same way sometimes. but i would love to just smoke with him a little bit one night before we go to bed or something. i don't see why he wouldn't do it even then.

any advice, or anything i can do?
i mean it's not a big deal to me or anything but i just want to be able to be stoned with him at least once. i don't even really like smoking much anymore, but they'll be times when we'll be laying in his bed and i'll just start thinking how great it would be if we smoked a little.
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You have never seen your boyfriend of 7 months drunk or high before? How old are you? (if you don't mind me asking ;))

As for what you can do, not much. Talk to him about it.. If he thinks he won't feel comfortable stoned around you then he either isn't all that comfortable around you in the first place, or he isn't all that comfortable with being stoned in general..
 
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