Saying, 'Thank you' after receiving a compliment?

[spork]

I think you might be reading into this too much Fjones. Maybe you should take a step back from the computer and calm down for a bit?

 

[mrs_mia_wallace]

^I feel you are incorrigible at the moment (however I do still like you ) becaue you are not open to actually listening to these replies... I don't how else to explain it that you will see it is money = character but EFFORT = character. Like I said, if you don't have the $ to pay for the woman's meals there are many other ways to go about it.

Also, perhaps the others have no gotten such a reaction because their responses are not so extreme...

 

[Fjones]

Not so extreme? One of the responses made an analogy to feeling like a prostitute.

I make no apologies for having "extreme" opinions. I see little value in being wishy washy and indecisive.

I am incorrigible about this topic because I find it hypocritical and irritating that women want equal rights when it suits them but then want the man to "be the man" and pay for dinner.

If men and women are equal why should the man pay for the woman's dinner?

If women want them an to pay for dinner, then they should shut up about equal pay in the workplace.

(note for clarity -- I do NOT think women should shut up about equal pay in the workplace. I thnk they should get equal pay).

 

[Fjones]

I think you might be reading into this too much Fjones. Maybe you should take a step back from the computer and calm down for a bit?

Eh. I did take a step back. I went to the gym for an hour or so

Now I am enjoying my post workout meal while debating on Bluelight. Sounds like a good evening to me.

 

[fritzz]

If it's someone I know generally I will joke around about it a little... I.E. "Did you lose weight?" Or if it's a complete stranger I just say Thank You and smile.

I was always taught to say "please" and "thank you".

 

[mrs_mia_wallace]

Not so extreme? One of the responses made an analogy to feeling like a prostitute.

I make no apologies for having "extreme" opinions. I see little value in being wishy washy and indecisive.

I am incorrigible about this topic because I find it hypocritical and irritating that women want equal rights when it suits them but then want the man to "be the man" and pay for dinner.

If men and women are equal why should the man pay for the woman's dinner?

If women want them an to pay for dinner, then they should shut up about equal pay in the workplace.

(note for clarity -- I do NOT think women should shut up about equal pay in the workplace. I thnk they should get equal pay).

When it suits them? How about when it suits men?

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I'm just going to stop reading/responding to this thread as you are not even addressing any of my or LA's points, just responding with the same old argument.

 

[Fjones]

I do apologize if I failed to address any of your or LA's points. I thought I did address your and LA's points. If you like I can review the thread and try to address any points I may have missed. I did not mean to ignore any points that were made. I don't like when people do that and I don't ever do it intentionally.

Or can we can jsut drop it. No one is going to change his or her mind about this issue so it is probably best to drop it, as you suggested.

 

[fizzle]

Wow, this became much more of a "who pays for dinner" thread than a "thank you after compliment" thread.

Way to stay on topic guys

 

[RedLeader]

"Thank you" for the reminder!

 

[LoveAlways]

Well, back on topic...

I keep getting emails to my company (www.manaoaina.com) saying "I can't afford your service, but I love what you're doing!" Basically just a waste of my time.. I feel like I should send back an email saying something like "Thanks for your encouragement" or some shit like that...idk what do you guys think?

 

[jam uh weezy]

i dunno. i never really thought about it. sometimes i say thank you, sometimes it just slips my mind. i don't take offence or think it's 'better' when someone says thank you or not when i compliment them, its just not something i dwell on...this thread is weird.

 

[mrs_mia_wallace]

Well, back on topic...

I keep getting emails to my company (www.manaoaina.com) saying "I can't afford your service, but I love what you're doing!" Basically just a waste of my time.. I feel like I should send back an email saying something like "Thanks for your encouragement" or some shit like that...idk what do you guys think?

I would. Always better to be polite. If they do like what you're doing but can't afford it, a nice email back from you might sway them to decide to put $ toward your services in the future when they can afford it-- or at least keep your name in their head. Just write up a generic e-mail to send back and save it on your computer, it won't take more than a few seconds to copy and paste and send out as as response.

 

[His Name Is Frank]

Where I live everybody opens the door for everybody else. 99% of the time a thank you is given. That said I would never go off on someone who didn't say thank you. I'd assume that they were having an off day or had something else on their mind and forgot. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.

I generally believe people taking it upon themselves to 'teach' other people manners are totally doing it wrong. Your being rude is going to make an already rude person rude no more? Huh? I don't think the memory of someone yelling at them will make these people 'remember' to say thank you in the future. If anything they'll just think "what's his problem?" and most likely pay your yelling no heed. If I was around you when you said something like that I'd think you're a jerk. Just being honest.

Actually, I run up behind them now when they fail to say thank you, slap them in the back of the head and run away. Seriously though, I think I gave you the wrong impression that I'm this guy who's out to teach people a lesson by yelling, "YOU'RE WELCOME!!!", to every person who doesn't say thank you. I've probably only done it a couple of times out of a combo of sheer aggravation and having a shitty day.

The two wrongs don't make a right approach is the wrong way to go, I agree.

 

[LoveAlways]

I guess saying "that was delicious" after a meal is equivalent to saying "thank you" I can live with that

 

[AmorRoark]

Actually, I run up behind them now when they fail to say thank you, slap them in the back of the head and run away. Seriously though, I think I gave you the wrong impression that I'm this guy who's out to teach people a lesson by yelling, "YOU'RE WELCOME!!!", to every person who doesn't say thank you. I've probably only done it a couple of times out of a combo of sheer aggravation and having a shitty day.

The two wrongs don't make a right approach is the wrong way to go, I agree.

Please post moreeee. This had me in a laughing fit. :D :D I'm glad to hear you're not 'that guy' and even more glad that you were able to describe him so perfectly.

 

[PottedMeat]

If someone pays a compliment, I usually try to tell them something about how I came across whatever they're complimenting. I find "thank you" to be tough to transition from and can kill a conversation.

That is quite funny.

 

[tree]

thanks, guys, for this thread.

 

[ThaiDie4]

Yeah, I always say thank you. I find it to be a little concieted of a person when you give them a compliment and they don't even say thanks... for example, if I tell someone they look pretty and they're just like "yeah" or "uh huh" or w\e then it sounds to me like they already think pretty fully of themselves that a compliment doesn't flatter them. RUDE!

I realise some people just don't really pay attention to it, and that's fine if that's how you are but it's easy to misinterpret that. I always say thank you. I think it's better to be "over polite" than "under polite" if you get what I mean.