I trust his opinion more than mine though, since he actually lived there and I was just there on holiday.QUOTE]
Ive been living and working there (here) almost a year - after many many vists. I have traveled all over the country (not just the bars) I have went far off the tourist trail - To tell the truth I have been staying at my soon to be wifes home (no work school holidays) for over a month, where i havent even seen another westerner and have been mainly speaking Thai (except some times with my girl who speaks fluent English)
It pains me that people only see the sterio typical BS - its like saying all English people live in castles and know the queen....
...Its all subjective - i have found Thailand has the tendences to draw out the strong points of peoples personalities, which alot of the times can be bad (as its all here for the taking) be it:
alcohol,
drugs,
perversion,
zenaphobia,
snobbery,
Voyeurism.
be it voyeurism in the sense going round all the go-go bars etc so they can go home and say to their friends ''yes Ive been to Thailand, its nothing but prostiutes and fat 40 year old men with 16 year old girls'' - look at me Ive been to some crazy places - ''arnt i crazy!''
or be it:
Buddism,
'mai pen rai' attitude,
working hard,
meditation,
chilling in some of the most beautiful places in the world,
learning to smile again simple plesentrys (this is the land of smiles and you will often be greeted by a new person with a smile)
Songkran - the whole country turns into a massive water fight,
learning a new language (often fustrating but mainly fun)
REALLY experiencing a different culture which has a massive fountain of personal growth and character building,
and yes going silly in a go-go bar (sometimes) - however Ive only ever been to one, which was the one my then new girlfriend took me to for fun and to see to if i was just a butterfly** farang)
Its all there...but its all up to you what you take from it....
**butterfly - term give to alot of westerners. meaning - someone who sleeps with lots of ladys - like a butterfly stops at lots of different flowers...
...yes lots of Thai's only take the sterio typical view of us westerners. i.e we all go to the touristy place get very drunk and sleep with prostitues. We are drunks and crub crawlers, with LOTS of money.
its crazy how a few streets in Bangkok and a small touristy place - Pattaya - has tarnish the whole world (most of) view on such a beautiful fasinating country and has also tarnish Thailand's view (generally speaking) of the whole westerner world!... Crazy....Its like people only judging America through Los Vegas. or England through Soh Ho
by the way im not an old fat ex tourist or sex -pat. Im 27, been told Im good looking (no trouble finding a girl in my home country) and only ever been with one girl since Ive been here - which I will soon to marry.