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living life as an empathetic person

wingnutlives said:
Why badger someone into taking meds if they don't believe in that?
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Because, based on the symptoms she's described, it's probably the best thing for her. There's a reason Doctors don't prescribe meditation for people suffering from severe depression to the point of self-mutilation, severe anxiety, and possible Derealization: Because it doesn't cure those things. Those are very serious symptoms, and they need to be treated by a professional Doctor.
 
Being empathetic is awesome, but we must learn to take care of ourselves before showing too much concern for others. I used to be more sensitive to other people, but I realized that my foundation wasn't sturdy enough, so I began working on my self-esteem instead of trying to "feel" other people. I am in no way advocating selfishness here, but it is important to work on your own happiness, too, and it will be easier to help other people if you are able to help yourself first.

EDIT: I also think you should see a professional about this. Your symptoms are pretty severe; there is nothing for you to lose besides cash/time. Who knows, maybe you don't know yourself as well as you think you do. The outside input would at least open up some other possibilities. And in the end, if you think your doctor is wrong, then you can always just leave him.
 
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GenericMind said:
Because, based on the symptoms she's described, it's probably the best thing for her. There's a reason Doctors don't prescribe meditation for people suffering from severe depression to the point of self-mutilation, severe anxiety, and possible Derealization: Because it doesn't cure those things. Those are very serious symptoms, and they need to be treated by a professional Doctor.
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I would rather suffer than live life on medication thinking I'm a nut job and I won't be okay without meds. I think I need to find a way to center myself, and I'm still very open to seeing a professional, just not open at all to taking meds unless I'll like die without them.
 
Chimeric said:
Being empathetic is awesome, but we must learn to take care of ourselves before showing too much concern for others. I used to be more sensitive to other people, but I realized that my foundation wasn't sturdy enough, so I began working on my self-esteem instead of trying to "feel" other people. I am in no way advocating selfishness here, but it is important to work on your own happiness, too, and it will be easier to help other people if you are able to help yourself first.

EDIT: I also think you should see a professional about this. Your symptoms are pretty severe; there is nothing for you to lose besides cash/time. Who knows, maybe you don't know yourself as well as you think you do. The outside input would at least open up some other possibilities. And in the end, if you think your doctor is wrong, then you can always just leave him.
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My grandmother is very empathetic herself and always always tells me I need to get more selfish. I don't think she means it litterally, I think she means more of what you're saying. I need to get to know myself better and maybe focus more on MY life and not the lives of the people I care about. I should care about me over all else (other than 'god' of course). Do YOU think that it is 100% neccesary for me to be on medication? I don't want to be.
 
^^ my first reason is almost every single time I swallow a pill I usually INSTANTLY vomit it up. I don't know why this happens and even if I desperately want to swallow the pill (I.e. E, xanax etc) I vomit it up and waste it.

My second reason is, I have never been dependant on a medication to feel normal and I have a slight fear of it. The closest I've been is going on a xanax binge(snorting them...really ruined my sinuses) and feeling like I'll die even thinking about having no xanax. It helped my anxiety a lot and I could not feel normal without it.
 
People get used to swallowing pills eventually. You'd get the hang of it in no time.

SSRIs or something like them are nothing like Xanax. You wouldn't want to snort them and there'd be no risk of you abusing them. I'm not sure what peoples' fixation about having to take a pill once a day is. It's medicine. It's meant to help you. I don't see nearly as many women adverse to taking Birth Control because they don't want to be dependent on a pill.
 
I'm going to throw my hat in with the crowd that says you need to see a physician. Go see a doctor, Psychologist, get involved in talk therapy and stick with the meds he/she gives you.

Anyways as for not being able to swallow a pill. Take the powder from the capsule of the drug you get or if its a pill crush it and dissolve it in grape juice. Works wonders.
 
^ yeah I've used that method before when I had like realllly severe migraines to the point where I couldn't move. I just do not like medication! It makes me feel funny and sick. I don't like it. I'll just get over it though..
 
I know what youre going trough laurengotdatfire

I live almost the same thing. My brain is able to read and interpret other people's emotion and make me feel them to their full extent. Sometimes it happened when the person wasnt directly in front of me if their emotion was strong enough. Based on that and my analytical personallity I often been able to predict accurately future events.

Now if I was able to hide my emotions I would be a world top poker player haha.

And about being selfish.. the only reason why I havent killed myself yet is because when I think about suicide I feel the pain that my relatives would suffer so I just cant act.

Im sure tough that the day I will become selfish and not care anymore will be the day I sign my death warrant.
 
I can really relate to alot of the characteristics you mentioned of a empath. I was like that for the past 3 or 4 years until I hit bottom (jail, betrayal, trauma,etc). You should give Myers-Briggs personality indicator test a shot, I think you would like that. If your fate is anything like mine though (which I hope not), one day you will feel everything and it will be soo overwhelming and difficult that you will lose your pathogenesis completely (Love runs in circles and you will see it in everything, the things we do in life will seem like their motives surround becoming closer to the meaning. I debated whether id find my truth in others or in death. In this life we are always a step away. The question left unanswered perpetuates and instead of being mesmerized with the dryness of eternity we want more. Its bigger than us apparently). Meaning no more emotions for me, havent cried in a year even when I want to. Enjoy it (while it lasts), God knows how much I loved running around but now im just sitting there watching the thermal dynamics of humanities purpose (BORING).

PS. I hope I made a little sense there
 
Heresy said:
I can really relate to alot of the characteristics you mentioned of a empath. I was like that for the past 3 or 4 years until I hit bottom (jail, betrayal, trauma,etc). You should give Myers-Briggs personality indicator test a shot, I think you would like that. If your fate is anything like mine though (which I hope not), one day you will feel everything and it will be soo overwhelming and difficult that you will lose your pathogenesis completely (Love runs in circles and you will see it in everything, the things we do in life will seem like their motives surround becoming closer to the meaning. I debated whether id find my truth in others or in death. In this life we are always a step away. The question left unanswered perpetuates and instead of being mesmerized with the dryness of eternity we want more. Its bigger than us apparently). Meaning no more emotions for me, havent cried in a year even when I want to. Enjoy it (while it lasts), God knows how much I loved running around but now im just sitting there watching the thermal dynamics of humanities purpose (BORING).

PS. I hope I made a little sense there
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You have not lost your "gift", simply your will to have it and use it. The same problem happened with my before before I met him and he became a lowlife junkie with no love for anyone at all, even himself. He didn't feel anything for anyone. In meeting and getting to know me, he has again become in-touch with that side of himself and his energy is extremely vulnerable to me and mine. You havnt lost it, you have just completely tuned it out because of the things you went through. Do not give up hope though, that is one thing I've always learned. Get your hopes up. Anyway, TRUST ME I've seen this circle thing many time, and have always hated circles. Its weird to explain but I can not seem to escape them, and not so weird to explain that things just keep going in circles. I draw circles everywhere though.

Anyway, you have explain how I feel better than I could myself, and I really thank you for that. Don't think your energy is trapped forever, you just have to tune into it. <3
 
This is my first time blogging and I just wrote some stuff but it got erased and I just don't feel like typing all of that over again. but i basically said that I'm glade to have found a site that I can be myself in. And that I'm from a small town so this is a good site so get on when I feel like I'm trapped.

O and "Lauren got DAT fire", I just wonted to tell you that I was in the same situation and I can relate to you completely! But the only difference is that I look at my abilities as a gift from god and you should too. I just got out of my situation that I was in for five years but he didn't change because he had a lot of negative people around him and I was the only positive influence on him. I'm trying to find myself again, I had became a pott head and an alcoholic. But I think its fun being different from everybody else, I feel spacial! Believe me when I say this, all you have to do is learn how to control your gift and you'll look at it as a blessing too and not a curse! Maybe if you wont to, we could talk and maybe I could help you! You don't have to feel controlled by your gift, you have to learn how to block some people out. And you could start by rebuking the negative thoughts out of your mind and send them to hell, or bind them. But if you would like to talk more then hit me back!!!
 
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GenericMind said:
People get used to swallowing pills eventually. You'd get the hang of it in no time.

SSRIs or something like them are nothing like Xanax. You wouldn't want to snort them and there'd be no risk of you abusing them. I'm not sure what peoples' fixation about having to take a pill once a day is. It's medicine. It's meant to help you. I don't see nearly as many women adverse to taking Birth Control because they don't want to be dependent on a pill.
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are u taking any meds?
 
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