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The singles thread v 'Your VD really scares me'

Singlehood would be great if I were getting laid, it would be the best of both worlds.
 
Being single kicks ass. Ok, it takes a little practice to really start enjoying it but you have to decide you want to first

If your 5 year plan is an abusive husband/cheating wife and a handful of screaming babies then fine. But obsessing about being in a relationship and being discontent is really ugly
 
^To be brutally honest, you sound like you need to spend time on yourself and learn to be happy in who you are.

People will be much more likely to want to be your friend or lover then.
 
Word Jo! :D

And even more word to Maddog! Sorry buddy, you're never allowed to leave this thread. We'd all be lost without you.

(You should probably stop leaving the country too)
 
^^ counselling helps some people.

Also, being happy with yourself comes with age and life experience I guess. In your late 20s/early 30s you tend to look back on your much younger self and wonder why you felt bad about yourself. You kind of need to go through difficult experiences to be a better person, I really believe that.

This probably sounds horribly condescending but its not meant to. When I was in my early 20s I thought I was overweight, unattractive, didn't have a lot of confidence in my abilities, worried about what other people thought of me (in reality I was a size 8, was definitely not unattractive, and did well at uni). What a waste of being 21, worrying about things like that!

These days (a few years down the track!) I pretty much like who I am, faults and all.

It does get better <3
 
The key to loving yourself is to find yourself losing patience with how shit other people are.
 
Pillthrill said:
How do you do that though?

Apparently I lack some basic skills here.
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Counselling, meditation, religion, affirmations, EFT, self help books... any and all of these can work, in the long run it's about introspection and self analysis.

No one wants to be friends/lovers with a sad-sack (do you?). Working out what is causing your negative outlook (and working to improve it, though even just recognising it helps a lot) will hopefully equal a happier Pillthrill who people want to be around.
 
I believe exercise is the key to mental health and feeling good. Not necessarily intensive training, but just incidental stuff like walking to do your grocery shopping instead of driving. Being fit and physically capable feels awesome.


12 months single now :D There are a few girls I could persue things with but it wouldnt be anything special. People keep telling me I'll find a princess soon enough :)
 
^I prefer Eugenie myself, less buck teeth.

I totally agree with Jo's advice - you need to be happy and confident with yourself. You also need to not 'look'. I find love presents itself when you aren't looking for it.
 
There's a big difference between being resistant to change and just not wanting to change. It's obvious from everything that you post that you'd rather dwell on your misery than change it, and that's no way to live. The post above is just a bunch of excuses. Suck it up and get on with getting better!
 
There is no such thing as an easy fix, or specific steps you need to take to make everything better. I'm sure you're not so naive to think that life works like that. The only person/ thing that can help you is yourself. It sounds like a cliche because it is, but it's also true. Stop thinking your life is worse or harder than everyone else's around you because your problems, whatever they may be, are definitely not insurmountable.

To be blunt, if you didn't whinge so much people may like you.
 
Just embrace your depression, get drunk, and listen to some fucking awesome music. All great artists are depressed cunts.

Never trust a happy person.
 
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