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My girlfriend doesn't want to do anal..HELP!!!

euphoricnod said:
If she doesn't feel comfortable having anal sex I think you should respect that wish.

For some people that isn't comfortable. You have to understand that.
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Yeah, I understand that. Was just wondering if anyone else had gone through it, and maybe had suggestions. Like from the female point of view. Like I don't want to have to get her drunk or something like that. I'd rather it be her decision.
 
do you ever play around over there with your fingers when you guys do it doggy style? how does she react to this?

But yea, some people have baoundaries...
 
GenericMind said:
^Fuck that noise. Bring up the topic sometime and see what she says. She'll probably say it's gross. Tell her that it may sound weird, but you think it's one of the most intimate acts two people can do together. Explain that unlike vaginal intercourse, which a woman is likely to do with several men throughout her lifetime, anal sex is a way for her to share the most private part of her body with the man she loves and how much that would mean to you.

She'll disagree at first, but eventually she'll start seeing it like that and agree to try it at least once. It works every time.
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Thanks for the advice man, that answer is kinda what I was looking for. I knew I was going to hear "get her drunk!!!" or "chloroform in her cranberry juice!!!!" Thanks for the real response.

And thanks to the other serious suggestions. Appreciated!!!
 
syyth007 said:
Most females are led to believe it's dirty/hurts
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It is and it does.

I remember doing it my first time with a boyfriend (who was very thick) he knowing it sometimes leaves little chocolate treats had me do an enema first. I did so and we thought I was good to go.

We get into it and do it for a while and it's ok after getting over the initial feeling of my butthole being ripped open. (I cried but dealt with it :( ) So then he goes to pull out and a geyser of shit and water spews out of my ass completely out of my control and sprays all over him and the sheets.

Anyways, having done anal I can enjoy it sometimes if I'm really turned on and actually primed for it (if i am rolling that helps aswell). But If your girlfriend doesn't want to do it then it's probably going to hurt her quite a bit.
 
If you're really into going the anal route, and I say this with seriousness.....start by playing with your own ass. Find out what feels good and what doesn't. I don't mean go start shoving cucumbers up your butt, but while showering when you're sure you're clean explore a bit with some lube and your fingers. If you're adventurous and open minded, you may even find that over time a very small toy can be pretty amazing. Once you figure out what works for you, try it with your girl, even showing her how you play with yourself if you have the balls to do it. :-)

The anus is one of the most sensitive areas of the body and if you get yourself and your girl past the taboo of ass play, it can be incredibly pleasurable for both of you.

Just remember, too much lube is just about enough and take it easy and slooooooooooow. Very few people I know enjoyed getting ass fucked the first few times because it can be a very strange and almost unpleasant sensation and make you think you need to take a dump. It may be a good idea the first couple of times you actually try penetration is to go very slow and don't even thrust, let her get used to the feeling. If you do decide to get active, go slow and I mean slow.......if you're experienced getting ass fucked like crazy can be super hot, but if you're not experienced it's about as bad as it gets. It takes time to adjust but when you do the pleasure associated with both giving and receiving can be awesome!

Some of the worst stories I've heard are from women who talk about the incredible pain when a well meaning but clueless boyfriend or partner thought all ya had to do was shove a hard cock up their ass.
 
my girl wants to do me with a strap on but I'm so not into the idea (because I'm a homophobe, right The Is? haha, idiot). Tried it with something MUCH smaller, didn't like it. end of story.
 
obviously the enema wasn't performed correctly.. or something.. My ex-fiancé loved assplay, and I never had any incidents with brown water =P Of course you have to start VERY slowly, and work up the intensity carefully, but it can be very pleasurable.. Never had a significant other use a strap on, but I wouldn't reject a finger or toss-salad as long as I knew I was extremely clean in that area... then again I have a very open mind when it comes to those kind of things.. Not sure I would want to try out the whole strap on thing, as I am much more dominant then submissive in the sack.
 
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