Condom use in casual encounters

[Psychonauticunt]

It should be obvious to anyone who's been to even one sex ed class in school that you should wear a rubber when you have casual sex. Most people would recommend it.

Yet I wonder - how many people practice what they preach? I, personally, have found that most people are pretty willing to go bareback even on one-night stands. Out of my roughly 50 sexual partners during my lifetime, not a single one has requested that I use a condom, when I myself have been willing to risk it. That does mean that many of the partners with whom I took the initiative and pulled out a rubber might have insisted, had I not assumed that's what we were doing, but when I've been willing to go bare, they've been up for it every time. I have used protection with roughly 10, max 15 partners.

I realize that my experience (as a drug user) may be skewed towards the people that are more willing to take risks. But I wonder if this is as common as my small sample would indicate.

 

[M!$TER-ED]

I don't think I ever used a condom, I married mrs. M!$TER-Ed at the time we married because she was pregnant. Don't get me wrong, we've been together 47 yrs and I wouldn't change a thing.

 

[helpingout]

I’ve only not used condoms with two partners. The sex has been so much better it’s unreal. But it’s also been pregnancy scares, stk scares, and generally not as fun between sexual acts. But I’ve been the one to insist on vomdom usage with partners for the most part.

 

[jcparker]

I don't like condoms, but they're absolutely necessary. There are some partners that I don't use them with because we know each other well enough to say something if there's any kinda new risk, so not necessarily all casual sex is protected in that way for me. I don't really do random hookups anymore, but if I don't really, really know someone I'm using a condom for sure.

 

[placebonaut]

during the peek of my sex life I wasn't using drugs very often, just drinking.

But I had plenty of sex without condoms, and thankfully plenty with condoms.

I also had chlamydia twice so there's that...thank fuck it wasn't something more serious

through my 20s in particular it was a mix of 1 night stands and short term relationships, while lack of condoms happens with both it was the short term (few weeks) "relationships" with fuck buddies that was the worst - there was never any discussion about sexual history etc, just the dumb willingness of youth to drop your pants and get down to it.

I fucked around a lot when I was young, I think I was very lucky to get away with just getting Chlamydia, I had a really nice fuck buddy who I was very fond of who came back from the USA with hepatitis, thankfully she was a grown up and responsible about it and told me - I'm guessing her partner in the USA had told her and she got tested. I nopped the fuck out of that straight away, shame cause she was very cool and on my wave length. Lucky escape!

 

[ions]

I'm about 50/50 on that topic. Caught HPV.
Where I'm at is fucks for keeps now. Sex for procreation and a partner I love and don't wind up instantly regretting it after.

 

[Chaurus]

I'm about 50/50 on that topic. Caught HPV.
Where I'm at is fucks for keeps now. Sex for procreation and a partner I love and don't wind up instantly regretting it after.

Now I don't want to have sex with you anymore.

Man , I've had a few STD's in my time, al curable and cured, but man, one guy caught syphilis from having sex with me and ended up in the hospital!

I'm so ashamed of it!

I take PreP and have a few partners I have sex with without condoms. My boyfriend doesn't like them (and gehad HIV already) another regular infected me twice before I could convince him to see a doctor.

Generally, however, we gay men know what we're doing much better than the average person.

Many more gay men were in the habit of using condoms to prevent HIV, but when folks stopped dropping dead from AIDS, the condoms came off.

I buy condoms my size in a special shop in Amsterdam and wear them about half of the time.

I had a gono infection in my hole a few months back, however.

Whenever we're infected, we warn our previous partners, however, most of the time people don't tell you.

 

[ions]

Stay away from my pooper @Chaurus
HPV was one of the required courses you'd take at mansfield to earn your diploma.
I just feel like using a condom leads people to think you're a scum bag. Then again most people can't control impulse and desire.

 

[Chaurus]

Stay away from my pooper @Chaurus
HPV was one of the required courses you'd take at mansfield to earn your diploma.

I'm suddenly not so unhappy anymore that I never graduated.

But in case you change your mind (about men) there's a subculture of gay men who are happy to receive and transmit STI's all the while using crack or meth. I'm sure you'd be popular.

I just feel like using a condom leads people to think you're a scum bag. Then again most people can't control impulse and desire.

Measure your penis, get one your size, take a Kamagra and use the right lube.

Safe chemsex is possible, but requires concentration.

 

[ions]

Not into meth or crack.
I'm into the chase just as much as the close.
My belief on anal sex is that it's battery. Sodomy is butt rape. It's not love.
There's really only one person I want to have sex with. But she doesn't love me.

Yeah that HPV required comment was meant as a joke. But they say if you've had unprotected sex you're probably going to contract HPV. It just goes unnoticed for the most part.

 

[ageingpartyfiend]

After catching an ultimately-harmless but excruciatingly painful STD straight after losing virginity age 16 (what's the fucking chances ehhhhh???) I've always used condoms except for with medium/longterm partners who I trust and then again only after taking a test initially.

If I hadn't suffered the agony mentioned above though then who knows how different things would have been in that department. The STD was called 'non-specific urethritis' and for 48 hours a single drop of urine passed it's way out of my body every 30 seconds or so and each and every one felt like molten lava. All the while my Dad wandered in and out smirking and outright laughing "That'll fukkin teach ya lad ehhhh"

Gotta say I really hate condoms though and wonder now if I could actually manage to keep it up wearing one.

 

[helpingout]

After catching an ultimately-harmless but excruciatingly painful STD straight after losing virginity age 16 (what's the fucking chances ehhhhh???) I've always used condoms except for with medium/longterm partners who I trust and then again only after taking a test initially.

If I hadn't suffered the agony mentioned above though then who knows how different things would have been in that department. The STD was called 'non-specific urethritis' and for 48 hours a single drop of urine passed it's way out of my body every 30 seconds or so and each and every one felt like molten lava. All the while my Dad wandered in and out smirking and outright laughing "That'll fukkin teach ya lad ehhhh"

Gotta say I really hate condoms though and wonder now if I could actually manage to keep it up wearing one.

Oh yeah that reminds me. With most of my partners I’ve required paperwork before sex. Like going to get tested together is fun. But I’ve met a lot of people online or through dating apps so it was a little easier to clear up the whole I want to have sex with you hurdle before actually committing to having sex. Where with in person partners it’s a lot easier to be like let’s have sex than it is to be like let’s go get tested.