Feeling happy, effecting others

[bvc]

Does anyone else suffer from just general depression, and one of the reasons you want to be happy is so that others can feel your happiness? I feel like my depression and inability to be happy is bringing others down. Any thoughts?

I can't get the clip from youtube, but there's a movie called Office Space where a man's unhappy with his life. He tells his girlfriend that he wishes he could be like other people and be happy and satisfied with his life but he can't. She tells him that many people are truly unhappy but they just do the best they can. I love the scene, especially because it's drama in a comedy movie.

 

[chokojpool]

Does anyone else suffer from just general depression, and one of the reasons you want to be happy is so that others can feel your happiness? I feel like my depression and inability to be happy is bringing others down. Any thoughts?

I can't get the clip from youtube, but there's a movie called Office Space where a man's unhappy with his life. He tells his girlfriend that he wishes he could be like other people and be happy and satisfied with his life but he can't. She tells him that many people are truly unhappy but they just do the best they can. I love the scene, especially because it's drama in a comedy movie.

i understand what youre feeling, or at least ive constantly felt the same way. i dont have much advice on it but i hope for the best through your battle with depression friend

 

[endlessnameless]

Yes I suffer with severe depression (not just a low mood, but to the point where I become mute and cant communicate with people together with my body feeling like it weighs 500lbs) and yes, it seems as though it affects the people around me (not just that it brings the mood of the room down but that they seem to actually get annoyed with me) which is why I often keep myself to myself by self-isolating upstairs out of the way.

Or at least I did until recently. No more self isolating for me. If my mere presence is annoying those around me then thats their problem - I'm the one who has to live with this torture, not them.

I wish I could give you some advice, but unfortunately my current situation is akin to your own. How long have you been feeling like this?

 

[bvc]

I wish I could give you some advice, but unfortunately my current situation is akin to your own. How long have you been feeling like this?

I've been feeling this way for a long time. Part of it is that I suffer from a medical condition (Fabry Disease) that makes me a burden to others. So it's not just my depression.

Or at least I did until recently. No more self isolating for me. If my mere presence is annoying those around me then thats their problem - I'm the one who has to live with this torture, not them.

I'm really glad to hear this. Depression is a medical condition but annoyance is a "feeling". If your depression comes second to their simply being annoyed, fuck it. You deserve the best. It's not making a mountain out of a mole hill, it's not you being selfish, it's you trying to deal with a monster no one should have to deal with.

 

[rentedbythehour]

I suffer from persistent depressive disorder, dysthymia. I've had it since I was a kid. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I've had migraines since I was 11. I think anyone who has a chronic health condition suffers with depression. I really struggled for a long time. I always felt like no one liked me because I didn't fit in the way others did. I couldn't keep plans I'd made with people because I wouldn't feel well enough. After a long enough time of constantly cancelling, I stopped getting asked to do things. I isolated myself a lot. I would go thru stages where I would meet new people and have hope that things would change. It never really did though. When I was in my 30s I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I began taking cymbalta (duloxetine), an SNRI as treatment. I should mention I've been on many many different meds. They use antidepressants as preventative medication for migraines. Nothing ever worked for me. Not for the migraines, not for the depression. Not until I took the cymbalta. I felt like something was different, almost like it was how I was supposed to be feeling. That was about 10 years ago. I still take a small dose daily (60mg) I've had a few ups and downs but for the most part it's been helpful. I also started to do things, even alone, that I was interested in. I would go take photographs, explore the beaches for cool rocks, even take a walk thru the woods. I believe you have to find something in each day that brings you joy, even if it's short lived. Depression is a
bitch to battle, but ultimately you have to figure out what you want out of life and what makes you happy.

 

[M!$TER-ED]

The lazy man’s guide to enlightenment talks about health and body density..depression and illness causes body density, heaviness. When you feel positive your body vibrates faster, moving through time & space easier without obstacles.

 

[Deleted member 507397]

Every time I'm with animals (real ones) I want to let them know I love them and just spend time.

I want them to remember me (the fake alien, cat or dog, or bird)

Anyone know why dogs need thier nails clipped? Maybe cats are older in ancestry or they are lazering thier paws

 

[endlessnameless]

I suffer from persistent depressive disorder, dysthymia. I've had it since I was a kid. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I've had migraines since I was 11. I think anyone who has a chronic health condition suffers with depression. I really struggled for a long time. I always felt like no one liked me because I didn't fit in the way others did. I couldn't keep plans I'd made with people because I wouldn't feel well enough. After a long enough time of constantly cancelling, I stopped getting asked to do things. I isolated myself a lot. I would go thru stages where I would meet new people and have hope that things would change. It never really did though. When I was in my 30s I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I began taking cymbalta (duloxetine), an SNRI as treatment. I should mention I've been on many many different meds. They use antidepressants as preventative medication for migraines. Nothing ever worked for me. Not for the migraines, not for the depression. Not until I took the cymbalta. I felt like something was different, almost like it was how I was supposed to be feeling. That was about 10 years ago. I still take a small dose daily (60mg) I've had a few ups and downs but for the most part it's been helpful. I also started to do things, even alone, that I was interested in. I would go take photographs, explore the beaches for cool rocks, even take a walk thru the woods. I believe you have to find something in each day that brings you joy, even if it's short lived. Depression is a
bitch to battle, but ultimately you have to figure out what you want out of life and what makes you happy.

Duloxetine/Cymbalta was the only medication out of between 7-9 different medications that helped my TRD, even if if was unfortunately very short-lived. I'd have to look back over my journal entries from the time (which I will) for the specifics, but as far as I recall it worked at the beginning of treatment for 2-3 weeks. I remember feeling significantly more clearer - as though that thick pane of slightly blurred glass between me and the world was lifted and I felt markedly closer to how I once was...and to how I will be soon again. I feel I'm close.

So the Cymbalta still works for you eh? I believe I was on approximately 60mgs also. Like I said, I'll look over my journals from that time period this was well over a decade ago, long before the notion of self-medicating ever entered my mind, which in turn only entered my mind because suicide did on account of the psychiatrists updating my diagnosis to TRD.

I don't suppose you've ever tried (or know of anyone who has) Ketamine therapy, have you?
I've never even tried Ketamine, however having read the research studies its the only medication I'd be willing to try, having not tried meds in 15+ years. Not even Lithium would work - after which I was effectively turned away.

 

[streaM Freak]

@bvc

I hate feeling like a burden. I think it's because I realize I don't value my life as much as the people around me value theirs, therefore I feel bad that I am affecting them by wanting to disengage or just not being what they need from me.

Do you have a lot of people that depend on you?