I have to say the more I hear, the more alarmed I get. I'm glad you're reaching out and speaking with people about this. A lot of times you don't realize how wrong things are when it's just you. It seems like there's a consensus on this. It's time to go. The longer you stay, the harder it gets to leave.
He seems so off… I’m spending the weekend with my Aunt, (she’s like a second mom to me) and he’s so hot and cold. He actually asked me for confirmation that I was with my Aunt, because he didn’t see me leave with her. So I sent him a picture of her kitchen (he’s been to her house). But we talked on the phone last night and he was so good till the end, then it was weird. I sent a goodnight text and didn’t get anything for an hour and a half. Then this morning he sends me a good morning text, I wasn’t up yet, he calls me (So I don’t answer) and when I wake up I ask if he wants to talk and he goes, no, it’s good. Good morning. Like…
my heart man! I kinda guilt tripped him into talking on the phone and he sounded off. 
I found out it was because of a comment I made last night on the phone… he feels like I don’t love him as much as he loves me. I had to tell him how much he means to me and that I do in fact love him.He seems so off… I’m spending the weekend with my Aunt, (she’s like a second mom to me) and he’s so hot and cold. He actually asked me for confirmation that I was with my Aunt, because he didn’t see me leave with her. So I sent him a picture of her kitchen (he’s been to her house). But we talked on the phone last night and he was so good till the end, then it was weird. I sent a goodnight text and didn’t get anything for an hour and a half. Then this morning he sends me a good morning text, I wasn’t up yet, he calls me (So I don’t answer) and when I wake up I ask if he wants to talk and he goes, no, it’s good. Good morning. Like…
I’m so hurt… he’s out drinking with his friends. We haven’t been out on a date together since like January. I never go out with friends. He isn’t doing anything like he expects of me. I have to text like every 15 minutes when I’m away from him. He’s just out basically ignoring me… then he’s going to go home and stream. I just feel like there’s double standards and it’s not fair… he tells me we can’t afford to go out on dates. But he’s going out drinking.
I don’t know. I just feel numb today. It hurts but I’m kind of numb to it too. It’s a dull breaking pain in my heart.
I feel like he's manipulating you. He has some issues that are his to deal with, like confidence, self esteem, etc, but you're paying the price for it. Even my male friend that I'm with said no one should have to monitor their relationship like that. His advice was to run. His words were 'that's not love'.
He sounds like a grade A asshole to be honest. You know I read something once that said something like people can only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you put up with it, it makes it ok. I was looking for that quote when I came across this article. Maybe it will help.I’m so hurt… he’s out drinking with his friends. We haven’t been out on a date together since like January. I never go out with friends. He isn’t doing anything like he expects of me. I have to text like every 15 minutes when I’m away from him. He’s just out basically ignoring me… then he’s going to go home and stream. I just feel like there’s double standards and it’s not fair… he tells me we can’t afford to go out on dates. But he’s going out drinking.
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Late at night is the only time I really get to myself, and I had already taken my Ambien for the evening. So yeah, it had kicked in. I was a bit high from it when posting. Doesn’t mean I wasn’t still hurt.
I’m going to read that article. I’m just hurt that he got to go off and do all these things. I’m not free to do anything. He asked me for actual proof of being with my family this weekend since he didn’t see my Aunt pick me up. Which broke my heart. She’s my second mom, because she took me in when my mom was literally dying and has helped raise me and protected me and helped me through some of the most traumatic things in my life. My Aunt is a fucking saint. It just… hurts. I’m locked in a year lease with him. I can’t leave until December.He sounds like a grade A asshole to be honest. You know I read something once that said something like people can only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you put up with it, it makes it ok. I was looking for that quote when I came across this article. Maybe it will help.
What Should You Do When Someone Treats You Badly in a Relationship? - Her Norm
You don’t have to just accept when someone treats you badly in a relationship. Here’s what you can do to make things better.
Thank you so much for your kind reply and for the advice. I unfortunately can’t get out right this second anyways because we are locked into a one year lease. I’d have to come up with some way to pay the rest of my half of the rent. Which is currently impossible. But I want things to start changing. He was so amazing at first. And now… it’s so different.
Compression of the spinal cord C3-C4, C4-C5 ~40% compressed, impacting the right side of my body more than the left. I also have a torn disc C4-C5. C3-C5 are herniated to the point of compressing my spinal cord. Neurosurgeon wants to wait a little longer before doing surgery because I’m so young. I’ve had these injuries since I was 11.
I think a serious conversation and setting some limits needs to happen. One thing that article said was things shouldn't be one sided. And you need to let him know when it's not ok to treat you like you're not good enough. If there's any hope for this relationship, communication, understanding, compromise, and support are all things you need to have. Not want to have, need to have.
No, he says he’s just worried about me.
He’s projecting something… god, I hope not.