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[Stephy]

That sort of explain's the complicated situation your in. Pain also causes agitation, when untreated I noticed myself.

Guessing the reason for your kid staying with him is the shelter you in? Sad situation, kids need both their parents if possible. But also the other way around you deserve contact with your kid. Or was that a court order?

We posted at the same time. Over here there is lawful right to rectify, remove or add your own comment's in your file the Cop's have. First you ask up your file via post, use a example if available or ask help..
Read it and if certain facts can be be proved as lies, like false accusations. You can procede to the rectifying/ remowing adding comment's part which is another law and and for that you will need to write another letter.

On paper (the LAW) They must be removed. Then its there job to have all organisation's they shared it with (child support and such) rectify it too. At least that's over here in NL. Wonder if it truelly works?

I am stigmatized in the eyes of which is hard to get rid of. What is your short term goal?

Bout the Cannabis i enjoy it. Makes people humble. So I see no problem just not with kid's and such around. But that varies on your location NL is tolerant toward's personal use.

There were no cop files

 

[emkee_reinvented]

No my ex has been keeping him from me for almost 3 years Aug 2024 because I left

I haven't left parts of the story out on purpose....I just try so hard to get all of the story sometimes I leave stuff out.

No parenting plan was settled? That's different then over here, here you have to set up a plan for the visiting right's and other responseability's. At least if you were married or had an registrated partnership. So over here your ex is breaking the law. Not that that is a sure shot to get things straight. A lawyer might be an option or legal advice, is that free of charge?

And leaving part's I didn' t mean to come over as rude, it was ment like you don't have to go into detail's. As it will only bring the past back, aim for the future. That was a therapy I did. 'Past and Further', as lot of people deep in the shit tend to stay stuck in the past.

Do you have help? Good thing there is no police involved as most trouble starts via them. And false accusation's agains you.

ps In your writings I notice desperation, unfareness, loss and sorrow. But you don't come over as agressive imo Stephy.
Last time my kid's were here was about 4 and 1/2 year ago, and that hurts. Especially when you unable to have any influence on it.
Finally I noticed it was draining, a battle agains a system you allready lost. So taking a few gears back helped.

Now I am doing it my pace. But endurance is strenght so, keep up. Much love from emkee, father of 2 lovely kids. I do see my kids once in a while when they are accompenied by my Mom.

 

[Stephy]

No parenting plan was settled? That's different then over here, here you have to set up a plan for the visiting right's and other responseability's. At least if you were married or had an registrated partnership. So over here your ex is breaking the law. Not that that is a sure shot to get things straight. A lawyer might be an option or legal advice, is that free of charge?

And leaving part's I didn' t mean to come over as rude, it was ment like you don't have to go into detail's. As it will only bring the past back, aim for the future. That was a therapy I did. 'Past and Further', as lot of people deep in the shit tend to stay stuck in the past.

Do you have help? Good thing there is no police involved as most trouble starts via them. And false accusation's agains you.

ps In your writings I notice desperation, unfareness, loss and sorrow. But you don't come over as agressive imo Stephy.
Last time my kid's were here was about 4 and 1/2 year ago, and that hurts. Especially when you unable to have any influence on it.
Finally I noticed it was draining, a battle agains a system you allready lost. So taking a few gears back helped.

Now I am doing it my pace. But endurance is strenght so, keep up. Much love from emkee, father of 2 lovely kids. I do see my kids once in a while when they are accompenied by my Mom.

Thanks. My ex would disagree about my aggressiveness and it's hard not to fight with him when things are so hard and I don't get to see my son much which arguing is why he blocked me again

 

[Stephy]

No parenting plan was settled? That's different then over here, here you have to set up a plan for the visiting right's and other responseability's. At least if you were married or had an registrated partnership. So over here your ex is breaking the law. Not that that is a sure shot to get things straight. A lawyer might be an option or legal advice, is that free of charge?

And leaving part's I didn' t mean to come over as rude, it was ment like you don't have to go into detail's. As it will only bring the past back, aim for the future. That was a therapy I did. 'Past and Further', as lot of people deep in the shit tend to stay stuck in the past.

Do you have help? Good thing there is no police involved as most trouble starts via them. And false accusation's agains you.

ps In your writings I notice desperation, unfareness, loss and sorrow. But you don't come over as agressive imo Stephy.
Last time my kid's were here was about 4 and 1/2 year ago, and that hurts. Especially when you unable to have any influence on it.
Finally I noticed it was draining, a battle agains a system you allready lost. So taking a few gears back helped.

Now I am doing it my pace. But endurance is strenght so, keep up. Much love from emkee, father of 2 lovely kids. I do see my kids once in a while when they are accompenied by my Mom.

The courts gave me supervised visitation only because of the lies he said... then he let me move in and I left after 3.3 years. Now it's been a almost 3 year fight

 

[emkee_reinvented]

The courts gave me supervised visitation only because of the lies he said... then he let me move in and I left after 3.3 years. Now it's been a almost 3 year fight

In the same situation, may only see them supervised (my mother absolutely not a loser of social work). Only difference you got this settlement in court, mine was not and technically not even legal or something. Only judges may determine that.

But for you that means if you get your life back on track, they will probably monitor this closely.
Ignore your ex negative comment's just talk about the kid's (bussiness like) and avoid reacting to stabs in the back, if he is Narcistic or even has an conduct disorder it will happen (just leave instead of letting you get agitated), show your best behaviour. Set an example and draw a line to what is and isn't acceptable.

Is it in the future possibe this will change? Un-supervised visit's, weekend's if you have a place of your own. Myself its still a long way to go starting with rectifying my Police file. The source of my disaster.

 

[Stephy]

In the same situation, may only see them supervised (my mother absolutely not a loser of social work). Only difference you got this settlement in court, mine was not and technically not even legal or something. Only judges may determine that.

But for you that means if you get your life back on track, they will probably monitor this closely.
Ignore your ex negative comment's just talk about the kid's (bussiness like) and avoid reacting to stabs in the back, if he is Narcistic or even has an conduct disorder it will happen (just leave instead of letting you get agitated), show your best behaviour. Set an example and draw a line to what is and isn't acceptable.

Is it in the future possibe this will change? Un-supervised visit's, weekend's if you have a place of your own. Myself its still a long way to go starting with rectifying my Police file. The source of my disaster.

After the divorce which he was granted supervised visitation only. He moved me back indy the house to be the SOLE CAREGIVER 24/7 ALL BY MYSELF FOR 3.3 YEARS. BECAUSE OF HIS ATTITUDE I MOVED OUT EVEN THOUGH IT RAISED MY MONTHLY BILLS BY 1,500... AFTER KILLING BOTH MY AQUARIUMS I MOVED OUT.... HE started up the stupid supervised visitation only shit again. I have my own apartment for 2.5 years but that was as long as I could keep it up. Now I'm on domestic violence shelter for almost 5 months

 

[Jibult]

peace and love y'all, today was a mother fucker of a Wednesday

 

[Thomas Davie]

ham, pineapple, turkey, mozzarella & lots of Swiss cheese. forgot to add the peanut butter.

Tom

 

[Jibult]

ham, pineapple, turkey, mozzarella & lots of Swiss cheese. forgot to add the peanut butter.

Tom

i can't really describe this other than pizza pizza

for real though, have yall seen these things when they're done right? oh my fucking god, man, they look so good

 

[emkee_reinvented]

I will send you some Stephy and a .

 

[deficiT]

BDD -----> CD

 

[Jibult]

Well jeez, this is a hell of a ride. I.... I'm honestly at a loss for words concerning the relationship aspect of this thread, but concerning the original post that started it?

You know, whether @Stephy should take up the habit again?

Typically, my answer would be something along the lines of "If it feels good, do it--" but as I read through the developing conversation, this line just jumped out at me

Have tried absolutely everything and it's not sciatica I don't have nerve pain it feels more like bone on bone. And the problem is not smoking pot it's using pot because if I show positive for pot I'll lose my pain medication and my ex would possibly use it against me to take my son away if we were fighting.

and I think OP already knows that using cannabis right now in the middle of this dispute will leave her open, vulnerable and essentially living under nuclear threat if anybody close to the situation found out how she was coping.

I'm admittedly a little late but it doesn't happen every day that a fully-formed thread just pops up in my favorite forum for perusal.

 

[smokeymcpot42088]

*EDIT* (normally goes at the bottom but Jibuilt hit the headline) DO NOT RISK YOUR MEDICATION FOR A BUZZ THAT MAKES YOU MORE SOCIABLE. What country / state / area of the world are you in? Medical Marijuana? Sounds like you more than qualify.
(*I once watched a guy (and this was a decade or two ago) dial the # to an "online pain doctor". He put it on speaker, Doc: "Hi I understand you are having pain issues?" My buddy "Yea my fingers have been killing me" Doc "What happened to your fingers?" Friend. "Dialing this phone number really did a number on them" Doc: *laughs audibly* "So would 90 vicodins work?" Yes sir!... and that was that.) now with painpills that atmosphere has changed but medical marijuana is still the same type deal

I admit I only read the original post.

I am male (so a little more prone to physical violence?) I started smoking pot to keep my ass out of trouble. So I think I understand what you are saying. I am a bit of a dick if im not smoking pot. Probation was A LONG ASS YEAR for everyone who interacted with me I am sure.

I know it is now my practice (screw deep breathe count to ten) to roll a fat joint and really run the logistics on what I am thinking about doing. Almost everytime I decide 1. Its an overreaction or 2. (admittedly more often) decide the logistics and possible consequences would make 'acting rash'.....well the juice wouldn't be worth the squeeze.

If you are like me and IME (*go ahead you can hate me* most people) than yes, for your sake and the rest of ours get blunted.

FINAL NOTE: Something in the pit of my gut is telling me this isn't the healthiest way to fix this problem....but hell if I wanna go on a journey of self discovery and find out why "Im mad" according to someone else....pot is like the cheat code lol.

 

[Stephy]

BDD -----> CD

???

 

[Stephy]

*EDIT* (normally goes at the bottom but Jibuilt hit the headline) DO NOT RISK YOUR MEDICATION FOR A BUZZ THAT MAKES YOU MORE SOCIABLE. What country / state / area of the world are you in? Medical Marijuana? Sounds like you more than qualify.
(*I once watched a guy (and this was a decade or two ago) dial the # to an "online pain doctor". He put it on speaker, Doc: "Hi I understand you are having pain issues?" My buddy "Yea my fingers have been killing me" Doc "What happened to your fingers?" Friend. "Dialing this phone number really did a number on them" Doc: *laughs audibly* "So would 90 vicodins work?" Yes sir!... and that was that.) now with painpills that atmosphere has changed but medical marijuana is still the same type deal

I admit I only read the original post.

I am male (so a little more prone to physical violence?) I started smoking pot to keep my ass out of trouble. So I think I understand what you are saying. I am a bit of a dick if im not smoking pot. Probation was A LONG ASS YEAR for everyone who interacted with me I am sure.

I know it is now my practice (screw deep breathe count to ten) to roll a fat joint and really run the logistics on what I am thinking about doing. Almost everytime I decide 1. Its an overreaction or 2. (admittedly more often) decide the logistics and possible consequences would make 'acting rash'.....well the juice wouldn't be worth the squeeze.

If you are like me and IME (*go ahead you can hate me* most people) than yes, for your sake and the rest of ours get blunted.

FINAL NOTE: Something in the pit of my gut is telling me this isn't the healthiest way to fix this problem....but hell if I wanna go on a journey of self discovery and find out why "Im mad" according to someone else....pot is like the cheat code lol.

thanks

 

[Stephy]

thanks

Sorry for the late reply... I'm not the player I used to be so I'm not in these sites so often

 

[Stephy]

*EDIT* (normally goes at the bottom but Jibuilt hit the headline) DO NOT RISK YOUR MEDICATION FOR A BUZZ THAT MAKES YOU MORE SOCIABLE. What country / state / area of the world are you in? Medical Marijuana? Sounds like you more than qualify.
(*I once watched a guy (and this was a decade or two ago) dial the # to an "online pain doctor". He put it on speaker, Doc: "Hi I understand you are having pain issues?" My buddy "Yea my fingers have been killing me" Doc "What happened to your fingers?" Friend. "Dialing this phone number really did a number on them" Doc: *laughs audibly* "So would 90 vicodins work?" Yes sir!... and that was that.) now with painpills that atmosphere has changed but medical marijuana is still the same type deal

I admit I only read the original post.

I am male (so a little more prone to physical violence?) I started smoking pot to keep my ass out of trouble. So I think I understand what you are saying. I am a bit of a dick if im not smoking pot. Probation was A LONG ASS YEAR for everyone who interacted with me I am sure.

I know it is now my practice (screw deep breathe count to ten) to roll a fat joint and really run the logistics on what I am thinking about doing. Almost everytime I decide 1. Its an overreaction or 2. (admittedly more often) decide the logistics and possible consequences would make 'acting rash'.....well the juice wouldn't be worth the squeeze.

If you are like me and IME (*go ahead you can hate me* most people) than yes, for your sake and the rest of ours get blunted.

FINAL NOTE: Something in the pit of my gut is telling me this isn't the healthiest way to fix this problem....but hell if I wanna go on a journey of self discovery and find out why "Im mad" according to someone else....pot is like the cheat code lol.

I'm in Houston Texas... Texas ain't so agreeable to pot but I did get a medical marijuana card... I'm just not using the meds yet

 

[deficiT]

???

Moved the thread to cannabis discussion from basic drug discussion

 

[smokeymcpot42088]

I'm in Houston Texas... Texas ain't so agreeable to pot but I did get a medical marijuana card... I'm just not using the meds yet

Oh wow, I am in MI and we fear Texas, once a dude from MI got caught in either TX or FL (sorry i can't remember) got pulled over with like 15 prerolled joints. He ended up being sentenced to 20 years and labeled "the joint man from Michigan". This was before anyone legalized though.

If you have a medical marijuana card in MI (This varies state to state) you are now allowed to smoke pot while on probation! Check with, well if you can 1. another patient that goes there and smokes 2. Look up the hospital policies regarding medical marijuana; quite likely if you have a medical card you will be able to fail your THC test. ....3.. If all else fails call anonymously and say you are interested in being a patient but are wondering if your medical marijuana card would cause a problem. Id just ask straight out as they are going to try and get your information at some point; you aren't interested in divulging anything until you know the policy.....at which point idk hang up? you can figure it out from there.

You aren't using pot yet or your pain medication yet? again sorry I didn't read all the build up backstory just tried to catch what was pertinent.

 

[Jibult]

I'm in Houston Texas... Texas ain't so agreeable to pot but I did get a medical marijuana card... I'm just not using the meds yet

Well that's pretty sweet that you're already prepped!

So I have a question that you're entirely free to ignore and not answer:

As far as you know, if you were to utilize your medical marijuana (MMJ) card and started indulging, would your primary care physician pull the plug on your current medication(s) and treatment plan?

And also, given the fact that you currently have an MMJ card, I'm curious if you or, more specifically, ANYBODY HERE has any insight into legal precedents of a legal MMJ patient being embroiled in a custody battle as a result of their medication? I'll probably get drunk and bored enough in a few hours to jump down that rabbithole myself but it's always nice when somebody's already done the research.

I do want to double-down on the sentiment that I don't think you should do anything that will risk separating you from your children.

Regardless of whatever advice you get on here that you decide to run with, just make sure to look before you leap and ensure that you're not jeopardizing your homelife for a little short-term relief from a vindictive, stressful ex.

If you have a medical marijuana card in MI (This varies state to state) you are now allowed to smoke pot while on probation!

That's actually really awesome for the non-violent offenders that seem to be the majority of probationers. Do they still prohibit alcohol if you're on papers? [EDIT: realized the answer's "they probably do unless you have a prescription for whiskey"]