maria xoxo
Greenlighter
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- Nov 3, 2023
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hi everyone!! :3 so i've started talking to/seeing this really nice and sweet guy, i'm very sure he's going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon :] i really like him a lot, but we only met about a month and a half ago. before him, i was in a weird co-dependent relationship for about a year and a half and i guess i got used to the dynamic of that relationship, so now i'm trying to figure out how like normal relationships work? and when it's like appropriate to tell this new guy about i guess the "bad stuff"? i've got a history of mental health problems, self-harm and obviously using etc. he's a bit of a goody two shoes and doesn't drink or smoke or anything; he knows that i drink and smoke occasionally, but that's sort of the extent of his knowledge. i'm also a bit wary of exposing too much of myself and maybe trusting him too much in case things don't work out. i haven't used anything in a few months simply because i haven't had the opportunity to, but i think i would if i could get my hands on something, and i guess i'm worried about what might happen if my mental health takes a dip while we're together. i'm by no means an addict but i don't want to potentially mislead him about the kind of stuff i'm into and struggle with if i wait too long to say something, but at the same time, i'm kind of worried i might scare him off or make things weird if i tell him too soon. so does anyone have any thoughts about when to bring this sort of stuff up and how to do it? it's killing me feeling like i'm hiding things from him :[