🌟🌟 Social 🌟🌟 PD Social Thread 2022-2025 v. Year of the Phenethylamine

[w01fg4ng]

Then I asked her if she was trying to tell me that's what she wants, and she said "no, I was just asking. Anyway I'm not in a place where I would even want to fuck anyone right now". So it's like... is she chickening out and she does want that? Is she hoping she can pass me off to another woman for sex and have the emotional/stability aspect and maybe sometimes sex (she gets jealous/possessive of me when I tell her about girls who come on to me or something, too, though)? Is she getting bored with just one person (which I understand, honestly, newness is exciting)? Hard to tell what she really means with this stuff.

My partner presented the situation in a similar manner as yours. I was never directly told but it was a strong suggestion for me to have a “side.” This was during a time when he was dealing with his own sexual arc and interests. I dealt with an extreme amount of jealousy and pain before deciding to continue the relationship. I experimented as well and it made my lover jealous at times. Both of us had to figure it out on our own but in the end we have simply made compromises. We’ve decided that these compromises are worth it for our relationship but every relationship is different.

To answer your question, it sounds like she isn’t bored. It sounds like she cares for you and you care for her. It sounds like she realizes you have sexual needs that she would rather talk about rather than have you cheat on her. It sounds like your limits haven’t been tested yet though. The hard part is yet to come unfortunately. Both of you are most likely figuring out where exactly your “don’t cross” lines are right now. It takes a while, sometimes never.

I think the two of you have a lot of potential and it’s worth exploring avenues which allow your relationship to continue. Try new things. If things get overwhelming, give yourself time to think by yourself and then go back to your relationship when you feel confident about where your triggers lay.

 

[perpetualdawn]

Well, I can think of quite a few kid-less relationships that have been trucking along quite happily for a decade or more. I have an aunt and uncle that have had over 4 decades together and are really functional and happy and no kids. Can't say I know anything about their sex life thankfully lol.

Maybe you just never met right Mrs. Krinkle? Or maybe it's just not your style.

 

[perpetualdawn]

Holy shit that's so cool haha !

I'm not the biggest mdma fan, but it really is the perfect drug for a wedding with all that love in the air having your community and family together on a light roll is pretty amazing

 

[Mr. Krinkle]

Well, I can think of quite a few kid-less relationships that have been trucking along quite happily for a decade or more. I have an aunt and uncle that have had over 4 decades together and are really functional and happy and no kids. Can't say I know anything about their sex life thankfully lol.

Maybe you just never met right Mrs. Krinkle? Or maybe it's just not your style.

yea it happens...im just saying the odds are against it, and if it isn't working now, ya might as well move on and see if you can make it work with somebody else

or be happy being single

 

[Mr. Krinkle]

ya know what you're gonna say 10 years from now?


i should've dumped her sooner

 

[MedicinalUser247]

Well... I'd like to call it the year of the Phenethylamine or other Hallucinogens, but that stupid shit Fentanyl is still all over the streets. If I had a magic wond I would just make all the illegal Fentanyl disappear. So, down with Fentanyl and up with the Phenethylamines and Hallucinogens. Oh, and up with Marijuana too. Can't forget that.

 

[swilow]

She's made comments here and there about non-monogamy, an open relationship sort of thing. Actually she straight up asked me today what I would do if I was in an open relationship

Tough but exciting ground to tread. Ime, it doesn't enhance your primary relationship at all. Let's face it, it's the man who is going to be seeking the most external partners and after a point (again ime) this just fucks with a woman's mind. I hate to say it and who the fuck knows, but your girl doesn't exactly sound like she'd really enjoy or be comfortable in an open relationship. It's just grounds for fear, self-doubt, and mistrust unless handled extremely carefully and the effort of that vs reward is one of diminishing returns. Casual sex is one of the loneliest activities. I cannot imagine how it would feel at age 40 with a loving woman at home. We 'closed' our relationship about 5 years ago after coming close to the brink of failure. Some people can handle this, but I have no idea how. Our relationship is way better. It's not as thrilling as when we were young and we have less sex, but it's a deeper connection and a stable, reliable, comforting thing to come home to after a day in the whirring storm.

Honestly, when I started testosterone, I wanted to fuck everything (as well as dominate conversation and yell at people in traffic). I'm on 150mg a week but I titrated up much slower than you. It's an amazing substance for quality of life but reading about your all night jealous brooding- that is just pure testosterone! The problem with this stuff is that it doesn't feel like a drug- it feels completely normal. It's totally undermined whatever paltry belief I had left in free will. We are deterministic engines being semi predictably buffeted by biological forces well beyond our control. We do seem to be able to hit the brakes somewhat though- in this case, it may be titrating up more slowly. But mainly we just have to enjoy the ride.

I'm so glad you're feeling good though Xor you deserve that.

 

[perpetualdawn]

yea it happens...im just saying the odds are against it, and if it isn't working now, ya might as well move on and see if you can make it work with somebody else

or be happy being single

Yeah if you know it's not working you're not doing anyone any favours by sticking it out. There's a difference between when you know things need work in a relationship and when it's not going to work and you know it, and sometimes you know it's the latter but you keep pretending because it's too hard to deal with.

 

[swilow]

Can't believe we just have cows milk in these little cold chambers all over the world.

 

[Mr. Krinkle]

Yeah if you know it's not working you're not doing anyone any favours by sticking it out. There's a difference between when you know things need work in a relationship and when it's not going to work and you know it, and sometimes you know it's the latter but you keep pretending because it's too hard to deal with.

that's all im really saying....


but hey - you guys do whatever you want - im just throwing the other thought of mind out there - whether you wanna believe in something else is entirely up to you

i speak because ive been around - and ive had quite a few long relationships and i can tell you all about them - and i don't miss them either - im happier living with just my kid now - and if and when she decides to leave, i plan on being just as happy

i just think co-dependence is a problem most ppl will have to solve some time in life and it's one of life's lessons


but what the hell do i know

 

[perpetualdawn]

Can't believe we just have cows milk in these little cold chambers all over the world.

Some of us have pigs milk; pilk

 

[swilow]

Emu milk ftw

I'm actually a preferential oat milk imbiber ever since cowtitty juice started raping my stomach.

 

[cosmic charlie]

Im into almond milk or coconut milk these days.

Oatmilk is good also swilow, i dont have a problem with cow milk effecting my stomach i just sorta enjoy the flavors of the different types. Im not drinking no pig milk tho, not sure why exactly but it kind of bugs me out for some reason. Who knows its probably tasty and im missing out on some chocolate pilk

 

[swilow]

 

[swilow]

Got me some moclobemide. I think 300mg is the right amount to orally activate DMT? I'm going to dive on in this weekend, am thinking 300mg moclobemide and maybe 45mg DMT. I recall being utterly overwhelmed by MAOi and 70mg DMT many years ago and so a bit nervous, but I think that's a reasonable dose. Happy to hear thoughts on this.

Ate .75g of mushrooms today, just enough to get that weird leaden tryptamine limb feeling and a nice fizzy euphoria with saturated vision and interesting thought loop/tangents. I've acquired a fuckload of bone dry mushrooms which I cannot wait to dose in bedridden darkness. Never pushed mushrooms too high, they were always so psychedelic and felt threatening but I really want to try a "heroic" dose at least once.

Anyway, time for kava and hopefully many hours of music making.

 

[Img_9999]

you found somebody that it still works with - and that's rare - but it's good you found it

but if it's not working now, and hasn't been working for years, tell me how it's supposed to work in the future?

that's why im saying, it's time to move on


some ppl don't like to hear the truth - but that's the truth

Yeah, you have a point. It's way too common that people overstay in a relationship that's not working for them. I had two long-term relationships before my wife, and I guess after both break-ups I had the feeling that we should have split earlier . But I guess that's life, we are always trying to figure things out, in retrospective you can see a lot of stuff you miss when you are embedded in the moment. Sometimes things that seem like such a big issue get easily solved later. And other times, you just endure stuff that you really shouldn't be dealing with. I guess you are right that most relationships don't succeed, although I remember reading somewhere that once you pass the 5 year mark, statistically speaking the chances of break up go down to 20%. But of course that depends on many factors, including age for example.

It's tough becasue in this kind of stuff only you (Not you in specific, Mr. Krinkle, just an abstract you directed at everyone lol) can decide what you want to do, but at the same time you never know exactly what will work best for you, there are no right or wrongs in love, or as Nietzsche put it in one of his famous aphorisms: “What is done out of love always takes place beyond good and evil.” Radical freedom and all that existencial stuff. In the end, we all figure out what works best for as. Or, in some cases, what works best for us ends up figuring us. But it gets sorted one way or another.

Some of us have pigs milk; pilk

LOL, what the fuck

 

[AutoTripper]

unless you get married and have kids with somebody, 9 times out of 10, a relationship will run it's course

and by running it's course, that's always what i tell somebody when they ask me how come i broke up with a certain girl i dated - i simply state "it ran it's course"

That's why I was never even tempted by one single chick before 2005. I'm only all or nothing. I blame fragrances you know secretly long have.

Put 400 bees into a nightclub. With vastly varying degrees of compatability. 200 ideal partnerships but if there is one mismatch, it's incremental.


How does nature really attract correctly though?

This is it. Pheremones! Our individual body's own NATURAL pheromones govern the attraction and sexual connection process.


So not 1 of 400 bees will fail. It's automatic and instinctual.

So hire Giorgio Armani, roll out a For.Bee-him.Magazine.

Vanitise things, culturallise, mystify and extort the concept of romance.

100% obstruct every single bee's inherent natural instinctual ability to choose the right partner, because fuck it I can't even tell anymore she smells Fiiiiiit she'll do they're all fucking anyway she was a bitch f that I'm keeping the car...


No bee able to use it's olfactory bulb to direct it to a suitable, sustainable alley.


It makes too much sense. The man-made perfumes, aftershaves deodorants body whatevers add in even worse long time ultra high VOC fabric conditioners tumbledried 100 x worse too.

They are designed to lure, deceive senses, create illusion and lust. Artificial attraction. So I go into a club. MY girl is in there and I tell you she's one hell of a girl, I waited over 25 years for her thus far never lured, no interest in anything but real deal soulmate.

But let's pretend. Zero artificial fragrances, 100% natural olfactory bulbs, no way is my girl getting drawn nor me to another, IF we are the most compatible together & so on next 2 & 2, providing there's chance for us to meet.

The odds are very high with this model of natural selection. Bring in what we have, 9/10 people?? Surely! Aftershave perfume deodorant Lynx, Febreeze, Lenor etc.

95/100 Western houses??


I bet even here over 80% of us here now, would admit to using artificial fragrances as a longterm way of life to "smell good"

And also, seriously who here if anybody can actually say they met their partner without either smothered in fake odor blocking the pheromone's action?


Or, I bet almost ANY time you've pulled or been out to pull slap of Aftershave right? All purely general.

It's just the way it's been bred into us. V convenient for ptb too if relationships relentlessly fail. Weak society, more disharmony, all round feeds into their hands.


I know this sounds unconventional and exactly!

I know it sounds barmy but I also KNOW it makes more sense than sliced loaves.

Once you let that (anti)attraction venom out, you'll see mismatched unhappy failing couples, everywhere. Which is what we see, because of what we have.

 

[TimTim1993]

One time when i was on a binge smoking PCP i listened to this song about a hundred times in a row. It was probably the most beautiful thing i ever heard in my life at that moment. Really miss that stuff, hands down one of the best drugs ever. Did about ten vials over a couple days which are around a gram of mint leaves sprayed in each one, glowed for a week after i stopped that time

PCP is awesome imo and it sucks that it has the reputation it has, mostly by uninformed people who have never done it. I never had the vial itself but I used to buy the dime bags of the mint leaves soaked in it

 

[Mr. Krinkle]

i guess you are right that most relationships don't succeed, although I remember reading somewhere that once you pass the 5 year mark, statistically speaking the chances of break up go down to 20%. But of course that depends on many factors, including age for example.

that's funny because almost all of my long term relationships expired around the 5 year mark - and the one that went 7 years, should've ended at 5

imp:

 

[perpetualdawn]

Im not drinking no pig milk tho, not sure why exactly but it kind of bugs me out for some reason. Who knows its probably tasty and im missing out on some chocolate pilk

It's deloinkful!!

It's also a joke, for the record. It's from a silly show called Look Around You