Not true, severe cases of BPD have more or less often (like, several times a year) episodes which are dissociative. Dissociation by itself could be called psychosis in terms of not seeing the reality as it is, not contacting with the reality.
In fact the very term BORDERLINE was built on the idea that those people were on a thin line between psychosis and neurosis, so they were not entirely psychotic in personality but during the severe episodes they have total disconnection with reality even if they don't go dissociative because they cannot see that their fears and false interpretations are just not true.
If you see the most basic DSM5:
Borderline personality disorder criteria for DSM-5, ICD-11 includes personality functioning impairments with pathological personality traits.
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"Transient dissociative symptoms or psychotic-like features (e.g. brief hallucinations, paranoia) in situations of high effective arousal"
you may call that "only when" but when you live with some of them for years it doesn't really matter because most people who have psychotic features don't are 100% 24/7 psychotic, but only during specific situations.. So what's the point? they can be and are psychotic during episodes if their BPD is severe enough.
Saying that
I have the issues is well, I prefer not to say what I think of that comment.
Look, my mother has BPD features, "high functioning BPD) so I grew up normalizing abuse, so I became what's commonly called a "co-dependent" empath, what brings me close to those who tend to abuse others, consciously or unconsciously, you should not judge what you don't know cause you can commit big mistakes.
It's a common feature of BPDs to abuse others
as a defense mechanism. But for those abused it's not super important if they do it on purpose or not, we are also victims of their wreck.
Ok, I won't take personally, I guess you're in trouble so I won't judge your ourtburst, I can swear that I know quite a lot about BPD and people with BPD, in fact I know enough, because I grew tired of living with them, I'm not saying that you don't deserve someone caring and empathetic who could help you, care you and love you (and be loved and cared by you as an exchange) but, personally talking, I'm just so tired of relationships with BPDs to the point that I would run if I met another.
It's actually not something personal against you, but more like a boundary I need to apply for my health and self-steem to recover. Sometimes I feel like a shell of what I was in the past, drained and muffled.
You're not "fucking evil", but you (BPDs) can be very unconscious when you are in rage spell.
so the fact that that happens, if you are a son of one of those people, is that you build a super strong barrier for yourself, so in a way you desensitize against your own suffering, because
1-you don't want to be like that as a children, as you perceive it as dangerous.
2-you become separate from your own feelings due to that self-imposed barrier, you just don't give them enough credit, cause you've learn not to take things so seriously.
So you basically invert the BPD mechanism, to be able to be raised by one of those, got me? it's a bad thing, trust me.
I'm a bit busy so I couldn't reply to the rest of your message, excuse me. Hope you're pain will decrease and heal with time.
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