Homeless soon, any bright ideas?

[deficiT]

That is my dilemma now that I am back in Upstate NY. I happen to live in a small town that is being revitalized to the point that nobody can a.fford to live in it. The same 52 people are fighting for the only two apartments that ever come available. Norfolk was ridiculous also. But I was fortunate enough to rent a room on the cheap. I am going to be homeless March 2nd. I'm going to fight it in court though. And its my own cousin ousting me. Its so fucked up. I think I have developed ulcers, no fucking lie. I'm even on a fucking section 8 list. That will take about 2 years for my name to maybe come up. System is fucked up. I wish I was in rural VA right now. All I want is a piece of land big enough to build a tiny house or put an airstream on it. I had to leave Norfolk because my significant other
overdosed in a public library in front of me and died. The anniversary is Feb. 7th. I was falling into a huge depressive K-hole. We had 20 years of history there and every fucking morning I woke up,
I was faced with all these triggers...everywhere. Good luck to you!!! Maybe something good will happen for me before the end of a very short month.

Yeah, the waiting lists for the housing stuff are very long.

Damn, I'm really sorry to hear about your significant other. That's extremely rough, I couldn't imagine. You may have read here or in a previous thread, but I almost put my girlfriend through that exact same thing right before Christmas this year. So I can certainly empathize.

Well, I should have the money I need to get my place in the middle of March. Probably won't find a place immediately, but hopefully soon after I will. If you find yourself totally out of options, let me know, and if I have a living room/couch, you're welcome to crash for a bit.

 

[xaddictx]

That is my dilemma now that I am back in Upstate NY. I happen to live in a small town that is being revitalized to the point that nobody can a.fford to live in it. The same 52 people are fighting for the only two apartments that ever come available. Norfolk was ridiculous also. But I was fortunate enough to rent a room on the cheap. I am going to be homeless March 2nd. I'm going to fight it in court though. And its my own cousin ousting me. Its so fucked up. I think I have developed ulcers, no fucking lie. I'm even on a fucking section 8 list. That will take about 2 years for my name to maybe come up. System is fucked up. I wish I was in rural VA right now. All I want is a piece of land big enough to build a tiny house or put an airstream on it. I had to leave Norfolk because my significant other
overdosed in a public library in front of me and died. The anniversary is Feb. 7th. I was falling into a huge depressive K-hole. We had 20 years of history there and every fucking morning I woke up,
I was faced with all these triggers...everywhere. Good luck to you!!! Maybe something good will happen for me before the end of a very short month.

I'm so sorry for your loss....hope things are on the up for you.

 

[lovemissile66]

Yeah, the waiting lists for the housing stuff are very long.

Damn, I'm really sorry to hear about your significant other. That's extremely rough, I couldn't imagine. You may have read here or in a previous thread, but I almost put my girlfriend through that exact same thing right before Christmas this year. So I can certainly empathize.

Well, I should have the money I need to get my place in the middle of March. Probably won't find a place immediately, but hopefully soon after I will. If you find yourself totally out of options, let me know, and if I have a living room/couch, you're welcome to crash for a bit.

Thank you so much deficit. This site is awesome. I used to lurk many, many years ago. Now it is becoming a bit of a salve for me. Today is the anniversary of his death. It's been 6 years. Still feels like
yesterday. It always will be alongside me. I am so glad you didn't die. It is truly traumatic. And the handful of times he overdosed and survived were equally traumatic. Literally watching someone die
in front of you. fuck. I may take you up on that couch offer!! I am hoping a place will come through by March. If not, then I see a court date in my future over this eviction. That might buy me some extra packing timed. I don't want to live with this psychotic person, its a very toxic environment. Peace, deficit

 

[deficiT]

Thank you so much deficit. This site is awesome. I used to lurk many, many years ago. Now it is becoming a bit of a salve for me. Today is the anniversary of his death. It's been 6 years. Still feels like
yesterday. It always will be alongside me. I am so glad you didn't die. It is truly traumatic. And the handful of times he overdosed and survived were equally traumatic. Literally watching someone die
in front of you. fuck. I may take you up on that couch offer!! I am hoping a place will come through by March. If not, then I see a court date in my future over this eviction. That might buy me some extra packing timed. I don't want to live with this psychotic person, its a very toxic environment. Peace, deficit

Of course, no problem!

Yeah, I lurked for probably most of my membership here, only contributing pretty occasionally. I didn't become a mod until early 2020, so nearly two years ago. I think at the time I had maybe 500 posts, so that should show just how much time I've put into this website in two years lol.

Yeah, time is basically the only that can soothe those wounds, but even six years generally isn't enough.

Yep, I'm actually glad all this crazy shit happened because now I'm no longer trapped with the psychotic roommate and slumlord I was with.

I actually left behind basically all of my belongings because I don't have the money for a U-Haul or a truck to get my shit out of there.

So this is basically a complete restart for me.

 

[lovemissile66]

Of course, no problem!

Yeah, I lurked for probably most of my membership here, only contributing pretty occasionally. I didn't become a mod until early 2020, so nearly two years ago. I think at the time I had maybe 500 posts, so that should show just how much time I've put into this website in two years lol.

Yeah, time is basically the only that can soothe those wounds, but even six years generally isn't enough.

Yep, I'm actually glad all this crazy shit happened because now I'm no longer trapped with the psychotic roommate and slumlord I was with.

I actually left behind basically all of my belongings because I don't have the money for a U-Haul or a truck to get my shit out of there.

So this is basically a complete restart for me.

Me too, dude. A restart after a restart! I hate moving. So stressful for me. But I am in a hellish situation, so I cannot wait to go. I feel worse for my kitten. This psycho actually blew cigarette smoke into my cat's face. I have gotta go. I appreciate all the kindness. This site is so fucking awesome. The people are legit, caring individuals. You have so many posts now!!! All in 2 years...that is devotion.
Be well and great things ahead for both of us

 

[neversickanymore]

I’m not sure about the kitten in the new fee pad option

 

[Feretile]

Here is what I know of social housing in the UK and to a lesser extent, The Netherlands. WHATEVER your position - even if right now you are pulling in 10g a week, STILL put your name down for social housing. Yeah, you will be in band 4 (bands are 1-4, 4 is lowest) and that could mean it would take 20 years to be offered a sh*thole BUT if things change, you HAVE been on the list, maybe for decades. That means if things go wrong, you may be placed in a higher band BUT you have been on the list longer. Those things matter.

I have friends in Amsterdam who, when they were born, their parents applied for social housing for them. One guy got a small but nice place in the Old South (most expensive district). It took him being on list 19 years, but he got it.

Yes, I know it's a nasty trick but as long as you always help people when you can, don't shy from taking steps to help yourself - in practice to have insured yourself from homelessness. I mean, I thought taxes were supposed to manage these things as we like to say that we are a society but it's falling apart. Knowing all of the tricks, all of the help you are entitled to just about means you have enough to live on.

Nobody EVER told me that being severely disabled, I was entitled to PIP. Nobody ever told me that since I suffer serious mental illness, I do not pay council tax. In the UK at least, their is at least x10 more benefits £ unclaimed than money stolen by benefit fraud.