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Why do guys cheat ?

I cheated lots bag in the day and it usually only had to do with a feeling of conquest and self pleasure. Those surrounded my core of control and command of my charming narcissistic behaviour. I am 64 and have changed immensely. My wife and I have been together 31 years and never once have I, nor will I cheat. I do cheat on her in a way with porn but she could care less. Every night when we go to bed I go with her and she rubs my cock and balls and we cuddle, then I get up and go play video games and jerk off.

My experience...most guys cheat because they are self centered cunts and don't consider the wreckage they cause, not just in the relationship but also in families. Be a man...break up
 
Actually, if you look at the statistics, women are (very slightly) more likely to cheat than men.
And people in heterosexual relationships are significantly more like to cheat than either men or women in a same-sex relationship.

Both those things are pretty much the opposite of what most people assume.

IMO, cheating is never, ever an okay thing to do. It's one of those things I feel very strongly about.

If you fall in love with another person while in a relation ship (and that other person feels the same way about you), then break up with your partner BEFORE getting with the new person.
If it's a fetish/kink that either your partner absolutely refuses to entertain (in which case if it's something that's vital to you for a satisfactory sex life, the relationship probably isn't going to work and breaking up might be best) or that you are ashamed of, or really embarrassed by and you feel you couldn't even drop hints or ease them gently into it, then even see a prostitute is better than "properly" cheating.
Being drunk is not an excuse. Being fucked up is not an excuse.
 
Because we are bored. Life is short, if I want to do something and you chastised me for it , I'll just do it behind your back. Or I don't respect you anymore, 5 years ago we were in love, now we both work never make time for each other. I don't see what the big deal is , I get along with you but some ppl are just into the same sex stuff as me, but I don't want to be with them. Cut me some slack . I cheated because I felt trapped .
 
I cheated on the love of my life twice because I was high on meth and benzos and in that headspace thought I'd be able to rationalise it and it would just go away and my partner never had to know.

I was so wrong. The guilt destroyed me, he knew anyway and I very nearly destroyed something that has become the most important and fulfilling thing in my life. I love this man more than I could imagine living anyone and he has allowed me to grow, to build trust again, to let go and not feel the need to get back at me and to simply give me the chance to be a decent, good person. And I can safely say it will never happen again. This man is my life and I promised him I'd break up with him if it happened again as he deserves only the best and others have hurt him enough for an entire lifetime.

My role now is to give him the love he never got, to build him up, not tear him down and to be the best partner I'm able to be for him. Our love is significantly stronger and I believe we will be together and monogamous until the day one of us departs.

I would do anything for him and simply think he is the most amazing human. He deserves only the best and someone who prioritises him and only him.
He's in bed next to me right now, after we do what we're doing on our devices we will cuddle and tell each other how much we love one another til we fall asleep(probably still cuddling) and our night is perfect.
I am not willing to lose this because I feel the need to fuck someone else without permission. It is so much to lose and I honestly think I'd commit suicide. He means everything to me.
 
In a society where monogamy, commitment, and marriage are the norm, because of Abrahamic religion of course, "cheating" is something that's gonna cause all sorts of problems psychologically and socially. In Ancient Rome, it wasn't really like that. It was quite common for the man to have sexual relationships outside of the family arrangement. This was his right. For the woman it was frowned upon. At this time people weren't identified by sexual orientation, only the one who gives (the phallus) and the one who takes was of note. Two women having "sexual relations" wasn't even really considered sex. Sex was only something done when it involved a penis. So sexuality in Rome was phallus oriented.. as men were at the top of almost any sort of social hierarchy.
 
Illyria99 said:
Men are like bees...they just have an urge to pollenate every flower they see.
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That's a sexist generalization and of course we know plenty of women who want babies in highschool because they figure out they don't have what it takes to succeed in life so that's some avenue for survival. That or just too stupid to wear protection. Others have degraded ability to say no to a guy who doesn't want to wear protection because "it sucks."
 
Dr. Morphine said:
That's a sexist generalization and of course we know plenty of women who want babies in highschool because they figure out they don't have what it takes to succeed in life so that's some avenue for survival. That or just too stupid to wear protection. Others have degraded ability to say no to a guy who doesn't want to wear protection because "it sucks."
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Don't take it personally. :laughing:
 
Most people, regardless of gender, cheat for a few reasons in my experience:

1) dissatisfaction with their current romantic/sexual relationship

2) The thrill of doing something bad and the desire to control the rules of engagement

3) Trauma - they've been cheated on or witnessed infidelity at a formative age which made it familiar

4) Toxic relationship - maybe they are with someone who accuses them of cheating even before it has happened - this self-fulfilling prophecy can results in partners being pushed to cheat because they're already treated as though they're doing it

5) Intoxication/disinhibition/social influence/availability - this is the type of infidelity that stems from being in the wrong place at the right time. It may or not be premeditated or something the cheater had previously considered doing, but some contextual factors result in a person make a choice which they may regret in the immediate aftermath.

6) A desire to test the waters in preparation of leaving their current partner. I've heard this noted as a factor in women who cheat on male partners in particular.
 
Robi said:
Its the lies not the sex that hurts me
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Not everyone is honest.. and you ain't gonna figure that out about someone by them being honest about the fact that they aren't. Sometimes you gotta learn certain things the hard way. And if you're feeling instead of thinking, chances are you might not even figure it out or even give a shit when you do. But with a lot of people who are not honest, the shit doesn't stop. Doesn't get better, and if it does, it's only a matter of time before they pull some more bullshit.
 
I don't cheat...enough problems...to can't hold on Ur dick in the underwear-stupid.man can't fuck the whole world....not to drink the whole booze or consume whole drugs
 
Biologic reason - 'we are meant to spread our seed as much as possible and ya'll are suppose to decide who is worthy' and that is probably in the reptile brain somewhere.

Actual reason varies by context - I never cheated on my gf of 12 years (Who cheated on me *shakes fist*) and for some reason more women through themself at me when I had a a gf. Now I am single and I can't get a call back from the same women.
(Well I moved now, but it was true after we broke up)

Something about forbidden fruit

even when you have a steak at home a hamburger is nice every now and than...

There is no GOOD REASON. It is piss poor behavior that all humans should either be better than or admit they aren't. But I am kind of a prude so idk
 
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