Why do women judge their own looks?

[Zopiclone bandit]

Came across this random woman on a FB group I frequent & through a series of random events etc we ended up having a small chat on the basics of a faith system I have & she is interested in, skip a few days ahead were on whatsapp sending filth to each other. We basically hit it off so well it's insane & we both fell for each other really quickly.

All good you may assume? Hell NO folks, she isn't the most slim woman ever but she sure isn't Jabba from Star Wars may I add or fills a blender with ice cream so she can just pour it down her greedy mouth, she has some real fucking issue with her looks though & keeps going on & on & on & fucking on (AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH) about her weight, how I'd not get my dick up to have sex as she "is so gross & fat" her direct quote there btw folks.

I've told her several times now I see people way bigger than she is each day, she doesn't fucking listen to me for some reason & im starting to wonder if she is mentally ill or just fucking stupid. I keep getting comments or Instagram model pics she sends comparing herself to these twig body, no boobs or ass models & I wanna scream "FFS Woman!!!!!!!"

WTF can I do with this person orcis she a lost cause? Is she mentally ill? Is she just stupid & slow? I'm starting to run out of patience with this bullshit of hers tbh folks.

Anyone guide me how to bang logic into her?

 

[Zopiclone bandit]

#Bragging
Yeah @F.U.B.A.R. she's the kinda "Ye Buxom Wench" both of our stim porn sessions are crafted round. You got any advice? I swear to God she is a hybrid of Beth Chapman (Dog the Bounty Hunters wife) & Lilly Allen.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

They compare themselves with the beauty or appearance standards of fashion models, celebrities, other women who are their relatives/friends/peers, etc.?

Men also do this, but I am not sure how open most are about it?

 

[Jabberwocky]

Wait she's on stims and still big? Not being shallow, just curious.

Personally I think the best thing would to just be real with her. Tell her she's not ugly and that it bothers you when she does it. Some people simply need honest feedback.

There will always be people better looking than you. There will also always be people worse looking.

 

[Jabberwocky]

Maybe the last guys she’s been involved with or wanted to be with were far more judgemental than @Zopiclone bandit is and have fucked with her head and made her insecure? She could have been dumped by guys who gave her stick for being ‘too fat’ on the way out the door.

It’s possibly a good idea to ask her where she got such a negative view of herself from and whether people have been rude to her in the past. Then tell her you find her very attractive physically and as a person but you can’t deal with all the negative self talk. Tell her that’s the thing that will wreck your relationship, not her body shape. Just say you don’t want to hear it. If she persists after that then she’s likely the wrong one for you.

 

[birdup.snaildown]

She probably thinks you secretly want her to hit the treadmill. I'd make it clear to her that you don't want her to lose weight. Not that you're content with her as she is. That's not the same thing. Tell her she's perfect the way she is and you're into her. People get used to hearing pandering shit. Women assume men are lying. If you really like her, don't give up on her. Life is short. These connections are difficult to make and harder to maintain.

Is she mentally ill? Is she just stupid & slow?

This... what you've said here... this isn't great.

 

[Gormur]

I'm not familiar with this approach of finding people online, but maybe disable or close some things. People get insecure but this is understandable. I also wouldn't (probably ever) say anything about a girls' physique. I mean if you are going that route, it'd better mean something special to her or else it might seem fake and make her feel bad

Good luck

 

[✿Dai₷y✿]

That is a massive turn off tbh.

Its alright to be self concious and want to hide bits that are not attractive but going on about how she looks is worse.

Just tell her to knock it off as its making you want to not be around her.

Its just being honest, maybe she is more comfortable when she doesn't have to be exposed physically so seems more confident online?


Meh, you've probably moved on from her by now hopefully.

 

[birdup.snaildown]

We basically hit it off so well it's insane & we both fell for each other really quickly.

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she’s likely the wrong one for you.

you've probably moved on from her by now hopefully.

 

[MsDiz]

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An Irish saying, a quick flit is a short sit. Meant for moving houses but applies in this case.

 

[Jabberwocky]

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Hmmm. That quote of me is out of context. There were a whole bunch of things I suggested he try BEFORE coming to the conclusion she was the wrong one for him. I’m hoping they work it out and make a success of it.

 

[Joey]

Men judge their looksa
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At lraat I do;

 

[birdup.snaildown]

@Atelier3

Sorry. I didn't mean to take it out of context. I just think if there's a real connection here, it's worth fighting for. I don't know. From what the OP said, it sounds like he really likes her. If she's trained herself to hate her body, that's unlikely to change overnight.

 

[cduggles]

Society trains women to do it, and being overweight is very much criticized by mainstream society.
Tell you think the way she looks is great.
Be a little patient; it sounds like she’s worth it.

 

[Joey]

Are you drugged posting in your own forum?

Infixed it. Im sorry. I have been a a particularly harr fre days. I apologize.

 

[Joey]

Are you drugged posting in your own forum?

Homeless / couchsurfimg / notmthinking aorry

 

[Fiori di Bella]

I live in the land of plastic surgery where wealth is the only ticket necessary to access all the surgeries one needs to make themselves “feel” beautiful. In Southern CA, looks and specifically obtaining a tiny waist, while having a big ass, big boobs and long legs, is the goal of most white women, and catching one of these girls is the goal of many men.

It’s interesting that many black women don’t seem to stress about extra weight, likely because their man tells them they look good as they are. I’ve also seen this amongst some Pacific Islanders (Tongans especially) that I’ve known during/since my time on an outrigger canoe team.

My sister and my mom have both had tons of plastic surgery. My mom dated a plastic surgeon for years and were it not for my young age during the years they dated, I, too would have likely had work done.
My sister’s implants feel like immobile half rock orbs when you hug her. Her eyes don’t emote very symmetrically due to a facelift from a few years ago. She even had surgery to have prettier legs.

My mom was like Joan Rivers and if she were alive to see me now, there’d be a list of things she’d like me to have fixed surgically.

 

[Jabberwocky]

why do men care about how big their penis is?

because they think everyone else cares

People's idea of physical beauty is nearly always solely based on what they think other people like. It's a sad cycle.

 

[Jabberwocky]

It’s interesting that many black women don’t seem to stress about extra weight, likely because their man tells them they look good as they are.

Yeah, being thicc is embraced in their culture. Just like being a skinny twig is in white culture.

And soul food isn't the pinnacle of healthy weight xD. Sure is good stuff, though.

 

[F.U.B.A.R.]

#Bragging
Yeah @F.U.B.A.R. she's the kinda "Ye Buxom Wench" both of our stim porn sessions are crafted round. You got any advice? I swear to God she is a hybrid of Beth Chapman (Dog the Bounty Hunters wife) & Lilly Allen.

No advice other than do not compare her to Beth. Or any other woman over 8 stone in weight.

Women seem to think that all blokes want tiny little fragile fucklings.

But some of us want real women...