tweakerguy
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One poster called me a "moaning cunt lucky to get fucked at all".
That's not an opinion.
Yikes, didn't see that one
Was that the dude in question? Seemed oddly personal.
One poster called me a "moaning cunt lucky to get fucked at all".
That's not an opinion.
yeah it did ... now I admit to having had a "moan". But the rest of it was totally offensive and IMO a person capable of posting shit like that ought to be booted out of bluelight permanently.Yikes, didn't see that one
Was that the dude in question? Seemed oddly personal.
Just wanted to make the point that on occasion I have helped HIM financially. Eg he offered to do my washing for $20 per load and I went along with it! (my machine was broken but I was managing with hand washing...)Problem here is that you're expecting something as a return from sex.
Men would be laughed off if they tried same shit you did. Only reason why you've gotten this far is in fact, because you're a woman.
Go to a real relationship if you want real relationship benefits.
Just out of interest, is it only women who aren't fertile due to menopause whom you feel are unfuckable, or do you also disdain to have sex with younger women who are "barren" as well?Yeah, I like to think same way about women who aren't fertile anymore.
Why would their value be more than a pocket pussy?
It's probably less, since as it can be seen in this thread, many of them expect to get something in return.
well maybe not lending me money for a work-related expense is defensible. Or slightly defensible.BUT in the same regard- Iām not so sure that him not letting you borrow money is so wrong. OR that his reasoning is unjustified. Thereās clearly 2 sides (or 3 as people say) and you sound pissed just because he doesnāt do as you say.
Also, Deadman, my FWB is always after me to watch PORN with him even though I find most porn boring and/or offensive ...Watching porn is degenerate and there's a clear difference with fucking your own hand and the real thing.
Other one can create life, while another one probably only breeds degeneracy and fucked up prefrontal cortex.
PS I should add that one annoying aspect of the three way idea is that he always presents it as MY idea, or something he would unselfishly consent to for me, not for him. When in fact it is FWB who has the fixation on gang bangs. Most of the porn he watches revolves around gang bangs.Also, Deadman, my FWB is always after me to watch PORN with him even though I find most porn boring and/or offensive ...
Plus he has badgered me to go to a "swinger's club" with him because he wants to have a three way with me and another bloke ...
Actually maybe I should consider it. The recruited third man in the proposed "three way" would surely consent to have proper sex with me...
Actually I could live with myself having sex with a person who wanted sex and nothing else. But it would have to involve, uh, sex - not just unreciprocated blow jobs. I have no issue at all with blow jobs but if there is nothing BUT blowjobs, that's not really "sex". That's using someone as a masturbation aid.It would really be relative to the individual, buy there is no individual on this planet who could only bring sex to the table. You may just not appreciate what he has to offer
Even people who meet for the sole purpose of sex only can wind up developing long-term healthy relationships.
nothing...
...you just got into semantics and derailed the thread
anyway, we all think your 'friend' is a dickhead MrsG (except for DMW, who will state the 'real man' policy)
well, thanks for that ... to some extent it compensates for the theme of "women over 45 are sexually finished."Also for what its worth, you aren't a bad looking woman by any stretch .
Btw re "over sharing" - yeah I am guilty! I hope no-one finds it offensive. It's just that I have literally no-one to talk to about this sort of thing, and confiding in people on BL is relatively anonymous and something of a safety valve ... because I tend to be rather easily bullied, I often "over-extend" myself ... but then a point comes where I'll have a catastrophic and self-destructive attack of rage...The interesting thing in this thread is the difference in treatment between self-destructive drug behaviour and self-destructive sexual behaviour (of a woman).
BL is full of threads and posts by drug addicts seemingly unable to control their self/destructive and often quite abject behaviour for decades. These posts and threads most often receive sympathy or a knowing wink and nod.
However, a woman whose sexual behaviour is probably governed by many of the same psychological processes that contribute to drug use and addiction is called out as being particularly weak or stupid - either directly or implied.
I find @MrsGampās oversharing quite confronting but I donāt see her sexual life as in any way different to the drug life shared by dozens of people on this site (including myself).
The lack of control, the lack of self-respect, the seeking of solace, the regrets, the desire for change but the inability to break free - all very much the same in my view.
I was no more capable of putting down the needle than MrsGamp has been able to say no to sorting out her FWB - yet I got nothing but understanding and support from people regarding my weakness.
Also, Deadman, my FWB is always after me to watch PORN with him even though I find most porn boring and/or offensive ...
Plus he has badgered me to go to a "swinger's club" with him because he wants to have a three way with me and another bloke ...
Actually maybe I should consider it. The recruited third man in the proposed "three way" would surely consent to have proper sex with me...
oh no way ... he's been banging on about the threesome thing for years...haven't contacted him at all this last week. I'll have to get in touch at some point though as he still has my laptop...I thought you were going to "ghost" this guy? Now you're talking about maybe having a threesome?
can't write much but had a really lousy day ... long story but my job opportunity might get screwed up because I didn't have the correct version of birth certificate to apply for my Working With Children Clearance.
So had to ring boss, who was less than impressed. I still get to work but have to get the clearance done on Tuesday - need $50 for birth certificate thing, plus $87 for the application itself. The $87 can be refunded by the government to whatever bank account I like. So I called friend with benefits, and asked him he could lend me $137, to be reimbursed by government.
No, he couldn't. Could he lend me $50? Palpable reluctance.
Then I recalled that during COVID lockdown I had no money or food and he wouldn't even drive past my house to drop off a can of baked beans.
I reminded him of this, and he said, "why should I help you - obviously you spent your money on alcohol and (his special bugbear) cigarettes."
I said, " so what. If you are having sex with someone, you are obliged to feed them if they are starving,"
He said, "it doesn't work like that."
I said, "Actually, it does work like that,"
And hung up.
Then ruined it all by sending him a stupid text message, not apologising, but pointing out how I give him attention, emotional support, oral sex on demand more or less. In return I get lectures and "life advice". I am meant to be grateful for this. I am meant to be grateful ... for WHAT?
He also says my place is a dump, that I am crazy, that he's got better things to do ...
WELL MAYBE I HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO MYSELF
I hate our sordid sexual encounters, which make me feel like an unpaid prostitute.
The catch is he has my old computer - he was going to do "data retrieval" for me. In a grandiose outburst, I said I'd PAY him for the data retrieval. But I expect to get that laptop back, data retrieved or not .
I've only kept up this poxy thing because I am lonely. But with him, I am lonely and trapped. Without him, I'll be lonely but free.
I want a real friend.
He always constructs me as a mad woman. My craziness makes everything impossible, etc. But the facts are: he gets looked after and I don't. Not in any way. If I am lucky I get a lift in his car very occasionally.
No point distressing myself ... I got shit to do. Right now this is mainly cleaning up this joint.
My brother says he plus Dad will help me with the working clearance. I shouldn't have even asked "frenemy without benefits" in the first place - dunno WHAT I was thinking.
oh no way ... he's been banging on about the threesome thing for years...haven't contacted him at all this last week. I'll have to get in touch at some point though as he still has my laptop...
Actually maybe I should consider it. The recruited third man in the proposed "three way" would surely consent to have proper sex with me...
Sorry if that was confusing ... I was attempting to make a joke!But you said...
he is degenerate. dumb him immitediatly.PS I should add that one annoying aspect of the three way idea is that he always presents it as MY idea, or something he would unselfishly consent to for me, not for him. When in fact it is FWB who has the fixation on gang bangs. Most of the porn he watches revolves around gang bangs.
It makes more sense as a response to the post I quoted. He argued that there was not an emotional element, I argued that there was.I am not quite sure where you are going with "But if we investigate the motives of someone who is having sex regularly with a 47-year-old woman, shouldn't we look for aspects of the relationship that might distinguish it from a visit to a prostitute?"