How come when Im on meth it takes me 5 hours to select a porn video to watch?

[sekio]

For real though, my theory on why this happens is similar to how tweakers get "stuck" sometimes - your dopamine circuitry is meant to determine reward salience, and when meth is busy dumping dopamine everywhere, your brain tells you that ANY activity you're doing is SUPER DUPER REWARDING AND YOU SHOULD KEEP DOING THE SAME EXACT THING!

Cue the bloody dick after a 12 hour wank sesh.

 

[Shady's Fox]

Aside science, you got plenty of answers so I have nothing new to add but in general, porn video sucks. Those homemade videos are a lot better. Dunno.

But porn nowadays sucks.

 

[DeathIndustrial88]

THE JUDEOCHRISTIAN LIE IS NOT GOOD FOR US

Lol. As anti-christian as I am (oldschool 90's black metal anyone?), I still cannot fathom sharing/watching my partner with anyone else (been there and done it). I just couldn't look at them the same after that. After all, that's what makes relationships special, is that you're exclusive and share something that no one else gets to have. Otherwise, why not just be single?

I tried having an open relationship in my early 20's and it lead to a lot of cheating, jealousy, anger, distrust and disgust. Not to mention it puts both parties at risk of sexually transmitted diseases. To each their own though I guess.

Sober (or on opiates, weed, non-stims) I am as romantic as they come. Very affectionate, loyal, honest, trusting...
On meth, I am a horny slut out to fuck anyone I can & could care less about commitment, etc.. Which isn't who I really am in the end. I'm a believer in love & commitment, what can I say? Hard to be committed to somebody if you're diddling somebody else all the time.

My bf of 6 years just ditched me to go be a meth head and a whore, while I'm busy taking care of my mom who is going through chemotherapy. I can't help but wonder if the loser who got him hooked back onto meth had not been around, we'd still be together, but he also made the decision himself, so.. So this topic is very touchy for me. The mainstream media loved reporting on the "opioid crisis" awhile back, but you never hear anyone talking about the rampant meth addiction taking place in the gay community. I've seen a lot of gorgeous men say no to relationships/love because they knew that they would never be able to stay faithful as a meth addict. It's pretty heart breaking watching some one you think is very attractive and would love to date, shoot up this drug and turn into somebody else.

Either way, I've been reading this site for years and often enjoyed absorbing your knowledge Captain, so it's an honor to get quoted by your royalty.

 

[TheAzo]

As I think I mentioned, I only find meth to be particularly pro-sexual if combined with G (and coke is better for this for me anyway)... I hardly ever find drugs to be pro-sexual - and I find a great many of them to be quite the opposite.

Lol. As anti-christian as I am (oldschool 90's black metal anyone?), I still cannot fathom sharing/watching my partner with anyone else (been there and done it). I just couldn't look at them the same after that. After all, that's what makes relationships special, is that you're exclusive and share something that no one else gets to have. Otherwise, why not just be single?

And indeed, this is just another demonstration of the fact that people are different.

For a long time, I thought that I wanted a monogamous relationship. Only once I was around a lot of open/poly people did I realize that.... that was actually not so bad, and that I was way more comfortable with it. It helps that I've never been a jealous person, and find jealousy in relationships really off-putting. As I see it, what is hurtful (to me) about cheating isn't the act itself, but the lying and covering it up and sneaking around that goes with it. I like seeing my partner happy - why must it be any different if what makes them happy on a specific occasion is sex with someone else? (poly people call joy from seeing/knowing partner enjoying themselves with others "compersion") Plus, if my partner in an open relationship, or primary in poly relationship has some fetish or kink that I'm not into - but their other hookups/partners are - I would either feel pressured to try to indulge them, even if it really squicked me, or feel sad that I wasn't "meeting their needs". I always care more about emotional fidelity than sexual fidelity anyway - and as long as communication is good such that you're not neglecting each other in order to be with other partners, all is well for me. In general, I rarely feel much desire to actually exercise openness in a relationship, hence a preference for "monogamish" vs true poly ones - I think in two years of my most recent open relationship, I only hooked up a couple of times (my partner was much more into doing so), but it was huge to me to know that if an opportunity came up for me, I was free to go for it and have fun without guilt. Totally respect people who do want monogamous relationships - though not people who are in them but cheat anyway; don't be in a monogamous relationship if you're not going to be monogamous!

 

[Working_Class]

I notice when I'm sober and want to masturbate I just go to my bookmarks and swiftly select a video.
But when I'm on meth I can spend hours searching for the video I think is best to watch and I become very picky on what videos I'm going to select. Last night I spent 4 hours on searching for porn photos to download that turn me on. I went through 4 hours on just looking up big booty women naked . Then once I was satisfied I decided to look up some videos and that took3 hours to find the right one that gave me a hard rock solid cock.
It seems like meth make me horny but only horny for certain kind of porn , preferably incest taboo porn where Mom fucks her son. That turns me on.

Because you're what they call, a "connoisseur dù ass" when you be tweakin my friend. I used to do that, kills the whole fuckin day.

 

[DeathIndustrial88]

As I think I mentioned, I only find meth to be particularly pro-sexual if combined with G (and coke is better for this for me anyway)... I hardly ever find drugs to be pro-sexual - and I find a great many of them to be quite the opposite.


And indeed, this is just another demonstration of the fact that people are different.

For a long time, I thought that I wanted a monogamous relationship. Only once I was around a lot of open/poly people did I realize that.... that was actually not so bad, and that I was way more comfortable with it. It helps that I've never been a jealous person, and find jealousy in relationships really off-putting. As I see it, what is hurtful (to me) about cheating isn't the act itself, but the lying and covering it up and sneaking around that goes with it. I like seeing my partner happy - why must it be any different if what makes them happy on a specific occasion is sex with someone else? (poly people call joy from seeing/knowing partner enjoying themselves with others "compersion") Plus, if my partner in an open relationship, or primary in poly relationship has some fetish or kink that I'm not into - but their other hookups/partners are - I would either feel pressured to try to indulge them, even if it really squicked me, or feel sad that I wasn't "meeting their needs". I always care more about emotional fidelity than sexual fidelity anyway - and as long as communication is good such that you're not neglecting each other in order to be with other partners, all is well for me. In general, I rarely feel much desire to actually exercise openness in a relationship, hence a preference for "monogamish" vs true poly ones - I think in two years of my most recent open relationship, I only hooked up a couple of times (my partner was much more into doing so), but it was huge to me to know that if an opportunity came up for me, I was free to go for it and have fun without guilt. Totally respect people who do want monogamous relationships - though not people who are in them but cheat anyway; don't be in a monogamous relationship if you're not going to be monogamous!

I understand what you mean. I use to think this way too. This is what lead to me having an open relationship with my first partner in my early 20's. What ended up happening though is because my partner thought that hooking up with others was okay, it eventually lead to them doing it behind my back and lying about it because they assumed they were free to do it whenever and not even clue me in on what was going on. This lead to me being lead on and living a lie, which I did not particularly like.

I can't say this for all open couples, but what lead to mine & my partners open relationship was the fact that we were just not sexually compatible or happy in bed (or at least I wasn't). So this lead to wanting to get with other people. It wasn't until I was about 27 and met my most recent ex that I fell madly in love with him. I enjoyed the sex we had to a point where I really did not have any need or desire to fuck anybody else. So it's my assumption that most "open couples" probably are couples who aren't happy in bed together, otherwise sex with each other would be enough for them.

In the end, I personally prefer monogamous relationships. I would rather have a partner that I can grow old with and will be there for me one day if I'm having a heart attack and can't get to 911, versus a partner who will be out fucking some one else while I'm having said heart attack. lol

Plus, it's just a good feeling to know you've been true to somebody and they've been true to you. People seem to be moving away from the oldschool concept of love and bringing all kinds of deviation into the mainstream and making it the 'norm'. It's sad when you're an outcast on a dating app/site simply because you prefer a meaningful relationship.

 

[Gormur]

Haha. I don't get that

I just as soon watch some adult videos as masturbate but i don't have to get off. Not like when i'm sober

I have ADD though, so that might play a role

 

[DeathIndustrial88]

Of course, everyone who wants to defend meth usage has "ADD". Just like when alcoholics say "alcohol makes me happy" and then 2 hours later they're crying their eyes out over some emotionally charged topic.

 

[Gormur]

Not everyone gets impulses. That's what i was alluding to

 

[TheAzo]

I understand what you mean. I use to think this way too. This is what lead to me having an open relationship with my first partner in my early 20's. What ended up happening though is because my partner thought that hooking up with others was okay, it eventually lead to them doing it behind my back and lying about it because they assumed they were free to do it whenever and not even clue me in on what was going on. This lead to me being lead on and living a lie, which I did not particularly like.

I can't say this for all open couples, but what lead to mine & my partners open relationship was the fact that we were just not sexually compatible or happy in bed (or at least I wasn't). So this lead to wanting to get with other people. It wasn't until I was about 27 and met my most recent ex that I fell madly in love with him. I enjoyed the sex we had to a point where I really did not have any need or desire to fuck anybody else. So it's my assumption that most "open couples" probably are couples who aren't happy in bed together, otherwise sex with each other would be enough for them.

In the end, I personally prefer monogamous relationships. I would rather have a partner that I can grow old with and will be there for me one day if I'm having a heart attack and can't get to 911, versus a partner who will be out fucking some one else while I'm having said heart attack. lol

Plus, it's just a good feeling to know you've been true to somebody and they've been true to you. People seem to be moving away from the oldschool concept of love and bringing all kinds of deviation into the mainstream and making it the 'norm'. It's sad when you're an outcast on a dating app/site simply because you prefer a meaningful relationship.

Sorry for helping an off-topic discussion here but - the fact that they were doing it behind your back is a violation of the communication which is always essential in a relationship (I suspect they knew there was emotional attachment involved, which hookups in an open relationship shouldn't have, hence hiding it), and that if they'd agreed to a monogamous relationship, they'd have done the same thing. But, hookups turning into secret romances is certainly a risk, especially if one or both partners is bad at communication or has tendencies towards that.

Use a different dating site if you're only seeing people who want poly/open relationships. Different dating sites very much cater to different sorts of relationships; use the one that caters to the kind of relationship you want. Though - depending on what sorts of interests and personality traits you want, as well as how popular non-monogamy is in your area+age group, you may find it hard to find that in general if the traits you hope for in a partner are closely correlated with non-monogamy circles

 

[DeathIndustrial88]

Sorry for helping an off-topic discussion here but - the fact that they were doing it behind your back is a violation of the communication which is always essential in a relationship (I suspect they knew there was emotional attachment involved, which hookups in an open relationship shouldn't have, hence hiding it), and that if they'd agreed to a monogamous relationship, they'd have done the same thing. But, hookups turning into secret romances is certainly a risk, especially if one or both partners is bad at communication or has tendencies towards that.

Use a different dating site if you're only seeing people who want poly/open relationships. Different dating sites very much cater to different sorts of relationships; use the one that caters to the kind of relationship you want. Though - depending on what sorts of interests and personality traits you want, as well as how popular non-monogamy is in your area+age group, you may find it hard to find that in general if the traits you hope for in a partner are closely correlated with non-monogamy circles

If two people agree upon and are happy in an open relationship, that's their business I suppose But yes you are correct, it is not okay to go into a relationship stating one intention and then doing another.

I've been on all kinds of sites. Unfortunately I'm in a smaller town, so pretty much everyone that's on one site is on another. Most who are looking for what I'm looking for are generally not my type or they're stuck up and act 'too good' for me. lol

Thanks for speaking with me though. As for the original topic, I think it's already been answered anyway, so hopefully our off-topic discussion isn't too much of a burden on anyone.

 

[JoEhJoEh]

i like rough and brutal amateur fisting porns.