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Do people ever try to say something helpful regarding your problem that actually just make you really sad?

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Yesterday my grandmother said to me "all this time whenever I've thought of you I would always think of how intelligent you are or how beautiful your eyes are; but now, now when I see you I just think.... "drug addict"

It was SO hard to wait until I was out of the room before I started crying.
 
During a bad stretch of ice addiction a few years back my mum caught me smoking shards (ive put her threw so much over the years, so many lies ect)

And she started crying and said

"You know I love you so much but sometimes I cant help but wish you would just od if you keep using like this so I dont have to watch my child do this to himself. I would greive so much but be at peace knowing your not suffering like this, and what your puting the family threw"
 
I have had friends and family unintentionally do this many times. Sometimes it makes me angry when it happens, but I have come to realize that if you haven't done "hard" drugs or experienced true addiction then it takes a lot of thought and education to begin to grasp what is going on in the slightest.

If people are being obviously nasty with me and not coming from a place of love...well...it's gonna really wind me up.
 
My mum has told me anyone who uses drugs is an idiot who deserves to die if that counts. And yes she knew full well that includes me. But my mum has always been a bit of a sociopath so no shock there.
 
That's the opposite of my thinking: addicts should be treated with the same love and help as a person with any mental illness is (or should be)
 
That's the opposite of my thinking: addicts should be treated with the same love and help as a person with any mental illness is (or should be)

Same mate. Not only that but when my mum was younger she had mates who overdosed on cut smack. And I really feel for her on that and understand why she's against drug use itself, but if she's had friends die from adulterated drugs you'd expect more compassion towards users/addicts wouldn't you? I've given up trying to understand her "logic" here.
 
Tbh I don't really have that much family, personal stuff, but I have had friends tell me but not in a condesending way
 
Same mate. Not only that but when my mum was younger she had mates who overdosed on cut smack. And I really feel for her on that and understand why she's against drug use itself, but if she's had friends die from adulterated drugs you'd expect more compassion towards users/addicts wouldn't you? I've given up trying to understand her "logic" here.

Maybe she's acting really angry because she's so scared/upset? My dad is like that: all negative emotions come across as anger at first.
Or, as you say she's a socoipath, it's probably a lack of empthy
 
Maybe she's acting really angry because she's so scared/upset? My dad is like that: all negative emotions come across as anger at first.
Or, as you say she's a socoipath, it's probably a lack of empthy

It could be, thing is she never shows much emotion so it's hard to say. She definitely gets emotional when the topic of drugs comes up. But whether that emotion is anger or sadness or something else... I simply cannot tell. You know when she's getting emotional but you don't know what the emotion is and she will try to hide the fact she is feeling anything. If you try to ask her she will just get defensive and start turning it back on you. She never admits to caring about or feeling for anything.

It seems to me though that if you indirectly wish death on your own son right to his face that is a lack of empathy.

I won't go through my whole life story on here but I have plenty of reason to believe she is at least mildly sociopathic just going off her general behaviour and how manipulative she is. I remember when I was a kid she bragged about how good she is at manipulating people and was trying to teach me.
 
It could be, thing is she never shows much emotion so it's hard to say. She definitely gets emotional when the topic of drugs comes up. But whether that emotion is anger or sadness or something else... I simply cannot tell. You know when she's getting emotional but you don't know what the emotion is and she will try to hide the fact she is feeling anything. If you try to ask her she will just get defensive and start turning it back on you. She never admits to caring about or feeling for anything.

It seems to me though that if you indirectly wish death on your own son right to his face that is a lack of empathy.

I won't go through my whole life story on here but I have plenty of reason to believe she is at least mildly sociopathic just going off her general behaviour and how manipulative she is. I remember when I was a kid she bragged about how good she is at manipulating people and was trying to teach me.

Those are a lot of sociopathic traits there. I'm not sure whether or not I'm a sociopath tbh. I lie, I steal, I'm a drug addict. The main reasons I'm thinking it just ASPD are 1) I have never hurt one single animal ever and if I knew someone who did, I'd have no issue torturing them 2) I don't have ANY of the triad (I forget the name, I wanna say Scoville, but I'm pretty sure that's peppers? lol) of animal cruelty, pyromania or bed-wetting (in the teens) and I admit when I see tragedy on the news or whatever charity advert - TAKE ALL THE MONEY YOU MADE WITH YOU CELEBRITY GLOSSY ADD AN SEND THAT TO THE CHARITY - I seriously couldn't give a shit (apart from animal cruelty ones, they shouldn't show that shit in the middle of the day for kids to see...but so much as lay one finger on a member of my family and you will be begging me to kill you.

Sorry, that went through a lot of tangents there. Hope I made sense (I have had 18 Paramol).
 
Dark Triad is what you're thinking of mate. But ASPD is sociopathy.

Oh and I don't give a shit about some "tragedy" on the news either unless it actually involves someone I know, I think that's pretty normal that's why the news and charity ads are intentionally manipulative, they have to make you care about something you wouldn't usually.
 
Yesterday my grandmother said to me "all this time whenever I've thought of you I would always think of how intelligent you are or how beautiful your eyes are; but now, now when I see you I just think.... "drug addict"

It was SO hard to wait until I was out of the room before I started crying.

I would of told her to fuck off and tell her " I used to look at you and think what a beautifull kind woman , now when I look at you all I see it's a collection of wrinkles, like a badly folded map"
 
Well your new family starts here. It maybe disfunctional and probably dangerous but it's still family. We will get you a mum, dad and some sisters asap! No touching tho you randy bastard!
 
I would of told her to fuck off and tell her " I used to look at you and think what a beautifull kind woman , now when I look at you all I see it's a collection of wrinkles, like a badly folded map"
LMAO , but she said in a really sad way, not a bitchy way.
 
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