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TDS How common is it to get kicked out by family/parents for drug use?

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I've done a few things I'm ashamed of. Firstly, I pawned off a few of my parents electronics but secondly, there were two times I recall in the past 2 years I got totally wasted on xanax and alcohol and just fell into the bathtub and vomited.

In my school, my peers say they'd be kicked out of their house for using any drug apart from alcohol (weed, xanax, opiates) regardless of whether they were working and not stealing. There are other peers who even admit openly that they use coke and their mothers admit that too.

Which is the anomaly? I also wonder how many blighters got kicked out as adults but without any formal education or part time job.
 
It depends on the parents I guess. I'm a heroin addict (clean now though), and my parents would never kick me out of the house (even though they never touched drugs, ever). I have such a great relationship with them, its just something they'd never do. They'd be completely disappointed if they ever found out. But they wouldn't kick me out of the house.

Everyone is different.

(Im moving to steroids, I dont think they'd care about that tbh lol)
 
Chris42393 said:
It depends on the parents I guess. I'm a heroin addict (clean now though), and my parents would never kick me out of the house (even though they never touched drugs, ever). I have such a great relationship with them, its just something they'd never do. They'd be completely disappointed if they ever found out. But they wouldn't kick me out of the house.

Everyone is different.

(Im moving to steroids, I dont think they'd care about that tbh lol)
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I wonder where you live?

Might be culture specific and just dependent on your parents.
 
If you steal from your parents to fund your habit I can imagine it's pretty common to be kicked out on that basis. It's not about the drug use at that point, it's a breach of trust within the family.

I've done drugs while living with the 'rents including benzos and opiates. I've also come home still rolling or tripping. My dad doesn't care, my mum is against drugs but just told me keep it out of her house.

I never stole anything to fund my habit and I have a job to earn my own money.
 
It depends on the parents. Someone I knew in college got caught smoking weed by her parents at age 16 and they kicked her out and to this day won't speak to her, they're super Christians to the point that they would sit around the dinner table being yelled at about Satan every night, until the kids cried. So it was not a normal situation.

My parents would never have kicked me out, had I still lived with them. Of course I moved out to college at 18 and then moved away to another state and supported myself. I got badly addicted to opiates but they didn't know about it til I told them, I also kept my job the whole time and although I went into massive credit card debt, I also always paid my bills and supported myself. When I told them, they helped me out financially to get me back on my feet and I only asked them once I knew for sure I was past opiates. Our relationship didn't suffer, in fact it probably got even better. Of course they didn't actually see me in my active addiction on a daily basis. And I never stole from them (except an old, unused bottle of vicodin once that I don't think they ever knew about).

If you're living at home and pawning your parents' stuff, they might kick you out, but it would depend on your parents, and we don't know your parents. They would certainly reserve the right to kick their adult child out for stealing and selling their stuff.

Chris42393 said:
(Im moving to steroids, I dont think they'd care about that tbh lol)
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You may know this, but research steroids and post-cycling VERY carefully before you start with steroids. You can permanently screw up your hormone levels if you don't cycle properly. Happened to my buddy. now he has permanently low testosterone.
 
Shadowmeister said:
It depends on the parents. Someone I knew in college got caught smoking weed by her parents at age 16 and they kicked her out and to this day won't speak to her, they're super Christians to the point that they would sit around the dinner table being yelled at about Satan every night, until the kids cried. So it was not a normal situation.

My parents would never have kicked me out, had I still lived with them. Of course I moved out to college at 18 and then moved away to another state and supported myself. I got badly addicted to opiates but they didn't know about it til I told them. When I told them, they helped me out financially to get me back on my feet and I only asked them once I knew for sure I was past opiates. Our relationship didn't suffer, in fact it probably got even better. Of course they didn't actually see me in my active addiction on a daily basis. And I never stole from them (except an old, unused bottle of vicodin once that I don't think they ever knew about).

If you're living at home and pawning your parents' stuff, they might kick you out, but it would depend on your parents, and we don't know your parents. They would certainly reserve the right to kick their adult child out for stealing and selling their stuff.



You may know this, but research steroids and post-cycling VERY carefully before you start with steroids. You can permanently screw up your hormone levels if you don't cycle properly. Happened to my buddy. now he has permanently low testosterone.
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Ive always been careful :) Ive did several cycles back about 8 years ago before I joined the Military. I originally never took PCT and never had any problems. Kept all my gains, did blood work after etc. etc. and everything was perfect. My testosterone is still within normal ranges to this day (on the upper side in fact). BUT I definitely will be doing PCT this time, since im several years older and smarter now hahaha xD
 
Yeah I'd say pretty common.
I started living with friends off and on when I was 16.
 
If your of age (16/17/18 whatever it is in your country) I'd say its EXTREMELY common.
I was homeless on-and-off for 3 years, though my parents always took me to a homeless shelter or somewhere where I wasn't actually on the streets (not often, anyway).
 
Wow that's sad that it's so common for parents to kick their kids (16-18 years old) out for using drugs. Freak out and send them to rehab, sure. But kick them out, you're on your own now? Way to ensure they're gonna really get into trouble. Catching your kids doing drugs is when you should double down on parenting and be there for them, not cast them aside like they're worthless.

:(
 
Shadowmeister said:
Wow that's sad that it's so common for parents to kick their kids (16-18 years old) out for using drugs. Freak out and send them to rehab, sure. But kick them out, you're on your own now? Way to ensure they're gonna really get into trouble. Catching your kids doing drugs is when you should double down on parenting and be there for them, not cast them aside like they're worthless.

:(
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It really depends on the culture. Some non-western cultures in particular believe it's better to remove them from the house (or in some cases actually kill) as they can bring shame upon the family.
 
^^^ oh shit he/she just brought some meat to the table.
MF better hope they born somewhere else but there next go-round. haha
 
Never forget the time my mom borrowed my car without asking as a kid/young adult (like 17-18) and found a bunch of Suboxone and methadone. While I was dopesick as hell up in my room she busts in and screams at me that I need to leave NOW!!

Thank god my dad was willing to come pick me up and give me a place to stay. Never ever forget that.. I laid on the couch completely wrecked while he scraped up the last little bit of weed and resin he could find to give me one good hit to calm my stomach.

Years later my mom jokingly told me about the time she had taken one of my Suboxone tablets, she didn’t remember that I remembered the exact incident she “acquired” them, and said her and my step dad got sick as dogs for two days. All I could think was “karmas a bitch..”

As you can imagine I’m a lot closer to my dad than mom lol. I got an interesting family..

-GC
 
Chris42393 said:
It depends on the parents I guess. I'm a heroin addict (clean now though), and my parents would never kick me out of the house (even though they never touched drugs, ever). I have such a great relationship with them, its just something they'd never do. They'd be completely disappointed if they ever found out. But they wouldn't kick me out of the house.

Everyone is different.

(Im moving to steroids, I dont think they'd care about that tbh lol)
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Careful those steroids make your muscles worse and flabby if you use them to much are you a wrestler or something?
 
Shadowmeister said:
Wow that's sad that it's so common for parents to kick their kids (16-18 years old) out for using drugs. Freak out and send them to rehab, sure. But kick them out, you're on your own now? Way to ensure they're gonna really get into trouble. Catching your kids doing drugs is when you should double down on parenting and be there for them, not cast them aside like they're worthless.

:(
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you said it pal ?
 
Pete556 said:
Careful those steroids make your muscles worse and flabby if you use them to much are you a wrestler or something?
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Ive done a few cycles in the past, never had any problems with that :) Im just trying to get back to where I was (or even more). Ever since I hurt my back I lost like 40 pounds of muscle (which is quite a bit) and I just want it back lol. Plus Testosterone can help with with a lot of stuff. Ie. depression, confidence, happiness, increased muscle mass, healthy heart, strong bones, increased energy, sharper mind, etc. etc. etc.

After I lost all that muscle, ive felt like shit. Maybe thats one of the reasons why I started to use opiates, other than for pain reasons (like I said, depression, happiness, etc.)
 
My parents would never kick me out for having a drug problem. They would however never tolerate me stealing from them. My wife... well that’s a different story. As soon as I’m not the one doing all the emotional and physical supporting im thrown out like a used rag. Never needed her for much. But when I have I’ve gotten nothing.
 
cowardescent said:
It really depends on the culture. Some non-western cultures in particular believe it's better to remove them from the house (or in some cases actually kill) as they can bring shame upon the family.
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definitely culture, society, social status, and environment all play a big role, imo. There are some who teach their kids how to grow weed and continue the family trade, others who teach their kids the family trade of cooking meth or distributing drugs.

If you are having issues with your parents, I think there are really two options, and the best decision really depends on the nature of your relationship with them. One- abide by their rules while still having a healthy relationship, or, if that isn't possible, move out, live your life, and still try to have a healthy relationship if possible.

Sometimes it might even be for the better to move out or get kicked out. You don't have to be a drug user to physically abusive to be toxic and create unhealthy relationship dynamics/behavior patterns. Or maybe there really is a problem, although I don't think forced potential homelessness is the best solution, generally. Then again, it really depends on the situation.
 
I would never , and have never. I feel that if my kid has a disease of any type it’s my responsibility to get him and give him care. If he is stealing from me then somewhere along the way I have failed and we both need to work on it.
 
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